THE EFFECT OF COUNSELLING ON MARITAL STABILITY AMONG MARRIED COUPLE IN ABEOKUTA SOUTH LOCAL GOVERNMENT, OGUN STATE.
LIADI OLANREWAJU LUKE
MATRIC NO: E011718
DEPARTMENT OF GUIDANCE AND COUNSELLING
UNIVERSITY OF IBADAN, IBADAN
CHAPTER ONE
1.0 INTRODUCTION
Counselling is the assistant given to the married couples and the intending couples in order for them to have marital stability. These enabling the couple to enjoy marital satisfaction in their married life. Hence, marital will enable the couple to raise their own family and upbringing their own children in love and in unity. The marriage counsellors and therapist can utilize marriage counselling technique in helping the couples to resolve their marital conflicts
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1.1 Background to the study
Marriage represents all the behaviours, norms, roles, expectations and values that are associated with the legal union of man and woman. It is an institution in the society in which a man and a woman are joined together in holy matrimony. So, the fulfilment in marriage is brought by love, when couples cleave together in love. (carlo Garreto 1976).
Therefore, this research will highlight importance of counselling on the married couple in having a stable marriage. Although, many married couple have experienced marital instability resulting from a number of factors, notably, economic, personality, psychological and socio –cultural. Despite the fact that the attitude either married women or men could be negative or positive depending on their individual circumstance. Most homes nowadays experience instability in one way or the other. Counselling has played a serious role as it influences the couples output to life including their educational status and social well-being. But if the couples are not helped, it could retard their progress at work, and also hinders them from imbibing the right attitude to life. Conversely, stability in marriage is very crucial in bringing about commitment on the husband and wife in particular in caring for their children’s upbringing and discipline. Then, for the married couple to be happy in their marriage, it is of necessity to correct some of their
Approaches and/or Interventions Used: Provided Vara with a list of marriage counsellors around the area, and requested
Every couple has their own unique martial situation, so when counseling two married individuals, it is important for the counselor to remember that fact. No two marriages will be exactly the same, which means that the same counseling approach will not work for every couple. The counselor must be able to be flexible with how they treat each married couple in order to best serve and facilitate progress and healing within the counseling relationship setting. This paper will introduce the reader to a married couple name Chris and Olympia. It will look to explore the unique personality types of the each person in the relationship, the strengths and weaknesses that the couple face as a unit, and the type of counseling
But it is not the traditional type of counseling that most couples do. They still attend a 'Couples Retreat' and the one that they go to has a 90 percent success rate with repairing marriages.
In the past, I regularly concluded marriage counseling as cliché and often ineffective. I consistently heard people say how marriage counseling was foolish and if your marriage is failing, a professional was incapable of fixing it. I likewise repeatedly assumed a considerable amount of marriage counselors just longed for love themselves, or they would practice interventions which were super far-fetched from what the couples actually needed. I assumed those ideas when I first signed up for this class. Trust me, I had all the stereotypes down. Now, you are probably wondering why I even signed up for this class. I’m incredibly indecisive on what counseling path I wish to pursue, therefore I decided to give this class a shot. I want to pick
* I don’t believe it is in the best interest of the original client (the husband) for the counselor to offer marriage counseling to the couple. The scenario does not address the training of the counselor in this field. If I were the counselor, I would continue to see the husband, dealing with his issues and refer the couple to a marriage counselor.
I believe that maintaining the marriage should be the decision of the parties involved when a couple enters relationship counseling because of conflict and emotional distress. I would not want to impose my personal beliefs on my client’s. By having a conversation around what values each client has and what values they each have in common I would allow them a safe space to continue exploring what they want to do as a team. Counselors should not have a greater ethical responsibility to encourage couples to maintain the marriage when children are involved because every family is different and one should not assume that because they have children they have to stay together for the betterment of the family. One reason I would not want to do so is because not all families need to stay together to strive and I would not want to impose my belief that they should stay together when they could make the family dynamic work with whichever path they choose to take. What needs to be done is to have a conversation around the needs of their child and what they believe is the best
Now that you have discovered the various degrees and licensing a therapist can have, it's time to look at the counseling itself. In some cases, marriage counseling is temporary in nature, lasting only as long as it takes a couple to work through and issue. Although the term "marriage counseling" is being used, marriage counseling can help couples of all types, whether they are married or not.
It takes very special people to want to make a difference in people’s lives, to want to help them to be better. Some people seek to become counselors after overcoming a most important life challenge. The individuals that seek the profession of marriage and family therapy do not think of this work as a job or career, more typically a constellation of life experiences that demand explanation and a sense that others seek one out for assistance and emotional sustenance become driving forces leading one to counseling profession (An Invitation to Counseling Work).
The authors do not have any professional training on relationship counseling. They may, however, have personal experience through relationships of their own, but this is not made clear in the essay. With their strong defense of men in marriage, I do feel as if the authors are married, due to the way
The purpose of this paper is to examine the field of marriage and family counseling beginning with the history and development of the profession and its importance in the field of counseling. This paper will also evaluate five major themes relevant to Marriage and Family Therapy which include: roles of Marriage and Family Therapists; licensure requirements and examinations; methods of supervision; client advocacy; multiculturalism and diversity. The author will discuss significant aspects to the field of Marriage and Family Therapy such as MFT identity, function, and ethics of the profession. This paper will assess biblical values in relation to Marriage and Family Therapists and to the field
Research in the field of couples and family counseling is very limited, one of the many reasons for this is the lack of governmental funding and the fact that relational issues are not view as diagnosable mental illnesses. It is important to note that what little research exists will be of great use to a practitioner. This is because what we can learn from this research is the factors of satisfied/unsatisfied couples/families, communication patterns of a satisfied/distressed couple/family, or if marriage/divorce rates are projected to grow/shrink.
Marriage is a significant part of Judaism bringing together a woman and man under God’s reign. It is the mitzvah (122) “To marry a wife by means of ketubah and keddushin” (Deut 22:13), all Jewish adherents see marriage as a necessity in order to obey God and to experience the fullness of life. In Genesis God says: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” It is a link between individuals and the wider community as it recognises two individuals coming together, celebrated by the wider community. Also the marriage ceremony itself contains symbolic significance to Judaism, conveying Jewish beliefs through symbols, actions and words.
Conflicts which lead to unresolved issues can influence the quality of the marriage. Although several research was made on marital relationships, the factors which influence the arising of continuous conflicts are still not clear. Unresolved issues are problems which are continuously brought up in a marriage. However, marital conflicts are not the only source of unresolved issues in a relationship. Unresolved conflicts within the marriage can affect the longevity and quality of the marriage, but personal background and individual trauma contribute to marital problems more often than conflicts within the marriage. In fact, marital conflicts are usually started because of personal unresolved issues. If a person develops a behavioral property
Marriage is a ritual that marks a change in status for a man and a woman and the acceptance by society of the new family that is formed (Rosman & Rubel, 1981). Marriage, like other customs, is governed by rules (Rosman & Rubel, 1981). Anthropology has represented marriage as the definitive ritual and universally translatable regulative ideal of human societies (BORNEMAN, 1996). Marriage also the act of joining two persons of opposite sex together to become as husband and wife. Many people in the society have different opinions or outright misconception of the meaning of marriage. While some people see it as a union between a man and woman, others take it to mean an agreement made between a man
Marriage is one of the most essential factors of human life. It creates the basis for everyone to pursue a better, healthier, and happier life. However, it is the fact that there are more and more couples marrying and then ending up with divorce, and this rate is increasing faster year by year. Actually, all the divorce cases are originated from some of the forms of emotional illness that gradually appear in each partner during the time of their relationship. It is good to cure these forms of emotional illness to solve the martial problems of the specific patients. However; it is absolutely the best when the original