The Effects Of Being On A Controlling Relationship

Women in relationships lose hold of their identity. Too often, women merge their lives with their partners, because they feel guilty. This leads women to give up significant parts of their life such as hobbies, values or beliefs and social life. This paper will closely examine the reasoning for changes in women within a relationship and how to avoid them.

Being in a relationship is like being in a roller coaster, sometimes you enjoy the ride, sometimes you don’t. Even with the passing of the years, this statement hasn’t had considerable changes. Many women see themselves trapped in relationships they are not satisfied with. While a few of them look for solutions in order to live a pleasant life, the majority resign themselves to stay in distressed affiliations.

In Relationships that we deal with everyday there are dialectical tensions and issues that arise. These tensions can greatly effect a relationship whether it be with a romantic partner, friend or family. In this paper, I will define, discuss and give examples of three dialectical Tensions; describe how they have impacted relationships in my life and how I’ve managed these tensions with management strategies. The three Tension I will discuss are ‘autonomy vs. connectedness’, ‘novelty vs. predictability’, and ‘openness vs. closedness’. The four managing strategies for these dialectical tensions are: selection, separation, neutralization, and reframing. The personal relationship in which I will use personal examples in this paper will be my best friend and I and the tensions that we

The second major psychological perspective is that of learning. The perspective of learning is “concerned with how the environment and experience affect a person’s actions” (Wade and Tavris, 2011). When applied to a relationship standpoint many factors come into play. As a child who was raised to respect women, my mom always encouraged me to have healthy long-term relationships and not be a “player”. This lead to me implementing those ideas into my life and sticking with

Power and conflicts in a relationship, what are they and how do the affect one’s relationship? “Power and conflict both shape communication patterns and decision making, it’s the power to make decisions often through the influences and dynamics in one marriage or relationships” (Jones, ASID, IIDA, IDEC, and Phyllis Sloan Allen, 2009, pg. 282). It’s a way to oblige to others request within their relationship in order to feel superior over the other. Power is a very powerful tool in a relationship which includes love, it’s not just having the power over finances security; it’s being totally committed and eager to fulfill an everlasting relationship with the one you admire. However, it’s a two-way street that both partners need to be actively

The topic that I have chosen to discuss throughout this paper is Managing and Resolving Conflicts in a Relationship. This topic is very important to me simply because, I personally see a lot of relationships failing, including some of mines due to lack of resolving and managing conflicts correctly. By the end of this paper I hope that I have helped the reader understand and eliminate any conflicts that confront their everyday lives.

Baxter and Rawlins (1988) say that there are three dialectical forces that must be in balance for the relationship to be successful (Trenholm, 2014). The dialectical forces are called expressive-protective, autonomy-togetherness, and the novelty-predictability dialectics (Trenholm, 2014). Expressive-protective dialectic involves a balance to share personal information and the need to have a little privacy (Trenholm, 2014). Autonomy-togetherness dialectic describes how interdependent they want to be with each other (Trenholm, 2014). There needs to have a balance of togetherness and being apart from each other (Trenholm, 2014). Novelty-predictability dialectic is how individuals interact with each other and how they fall into patterns of behavior (Trenholm, 2014). After a time these behaviors become predictable and they spend most of their time repeating old routines (Trenholm, 2014). This behavior can positive or it can be negative (Trenholm, 2014).

For those living 24/7 as doms and subs, power and control play a part in almost every waking moment. Depending upon the relationship, there could be slight differentials in what facets of daily living are touched upon. With this in mind, doms and subs communicate and negotiate which facets these may be. Although some requests from doms can be for erotic things, such as what their sub is to wear around the house, other request can be for the well being of those in the relationship. Some dominants enforce rules that help their submissives grow and prosper as an individual, thus using what power they have to better life for the two of them. Rules such as eating three balanced meals a day, exercising X amount of times a week, and finishing coursework before TV help to better the individual. Some submissives have even shared that their dom motivated them to pick up new skills and push themselves harder in their social and business life, eventually helping them thrive as an individual (Hébert & Weaver, 2015). What power the submissive has given to the dominant over them is being used for their well being, in a nurturing, almost “motherly”

There is a certain level of myth regarding what society views as a healthy or unhealthy relationship. While the latter is seen through rose-colored lenses, the former conjures images of violent drunks who beat their partners. Unfortunately, it is not always so obvious. Very often, abusive relationships have

Is there anyway a person can identify a domestic violence abuser before entering into a relationship with someone? Unfortunately, the answer is no as it is not possible to identify a potential abuser before the abuse begins; however, when dating, there are common characteristics that might indicate that the person has the potential to become an abuser. These common characteristics include extremely jealous or possessive behavior, the need for one person to be the boss of the relationship, strict views on the roles of a man or woman in a relationship, demanding the woman to stay away from family and friends, control of the money within a relationship so that the woman cannot leave, and constant monitoring of where the person is and question

According to the NCES in 2005 14% of students in a high school had been reported having physical fights on school property for that year is what Larson (2010) stated after reviewing information. Aggression and its causes can result in physical violence as well as emotional violence. Interpersonal relationships can be at risk if aggression is allowed to grow. Aggression at any age can cause such issues and more, but emerging adults and adults are held most accountable for controlling one’s own aggression. Emerging adults’ level of aggression can often be

feel protected and loved tending to get “stuck” in the relationship where their needs were not met

Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming. Within our relationship, blaming is probably the most radical use of Power and Control. I don’t think either of us would deny our behavior but more so would blame other people around us for the way that we were feeling rather than taking full responsibility of our own emotions. Additionally, learning how our feelings are our own has helped me become more honest in my accountability.

In other words, a relationship in which you feel put down, afraid of or hurt by your partner.

First, when people have their own perspective of relationship on how they should be maintained compared to how society or different cultures depict relationships. Because the five factors of personal attraction affect friendships and relationships because have a major impact on how we all deal with each other on different levels. When dating and in imamate relationships and friendships there has to be different attractions that keep us connected or disconnected from one another. First you are attracted to them by Proximity which means when you feeling close to someone, there is also familiarity, when you are attracted to someone that you see often then you also have to have a similar attraction to someone which is called, similarity is somethings that you have with people like others who are like them. Also there is Physical appearance, when you like someone looks, reciprocity, you are also more attracted to people that are like them. “There are five important factors that initiate and predict interpersonal attractions: proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical appearance and reciprocity in liking” (Clarke, 1952). When searching for a friendship and romantic relationship these are the five factors that would necessary when searching for a healthy friendship or relationship. When dealing with society and different cultures sometimes our opinion about the right friendship and relationships.