We Americans are all sexual beings and we are living in a world where sex is glorified in everything we do. You turn the TV on and there is always some kind of sexual act or someone acting in a sexual demeanor . Sex just seems to be something that we are all subjected too. This, of course, conflicts with many churches and has brought light to the question of, how does sexuality relate to religiosity? A question which this essay aims to answer.
According to HS 203 Sexual Biology & Good Health, by Hager, D., (2017), four types of love a person can have, friendship (philoe), family/ caring concern (storge), sacrificial (agape), and sexual (eros). Authentic relationships have all four types of love. Loving your friend in a caring and concern manner that you are willing to sacrifice and do anything for that person, wherein, eventually you realize that that person is someone that you would like to spend the rest of your life with. Therefore, that love you have intensifies in a sexual love. Now, that type of love is for a husband and wife that God has ordained in a marriage. According to Hager, D., there are 12 steps of bonding to develop intimacy in a couple’s relationship. The first eight steps which includes eye to body, eye to eye contact, hand to hand contact, voice to voice, arm to shoulder, arm to waist, hand to head, or hand to head contact are steps that are appropriately taken when you are practicing abstinence. However, when you are in a permanent relationship becoming familiar with your spouse’s body, having sexual contact and stimulation that eventually leads to sexual intercourse are appropriate steps to have an intimate bond with your spouse. Proceeding to these steps should be slow and in the order
The writer of the book of Jude compares “the grace of God” to lasciviousness; undoubtedly implicating men turning God’s grace/glory into bodily lust. The scripture continues and states, “There should be mockers in the last time; which should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit” (Jude 1:18-19). This again, could be professing the difference between wholesome sexual associations with the LORD or a person allowing lust to fill their minds with unhealthy sensual actions.
Having a healthy sexual relationship is very important in a marriage (Heller, 2016). 1 Cor 7:3, Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
Novak states several pieces of what go into good sex, according to traditional Orthodox-Conservative Judaism. One should enter a relationship in which they can seek their “true other” that God created for them, not an “alter-ego” of themselves, which is what is sought after in a homosexual relationship (Novak, 276). God created man and woman in the beginning with Adam and Eve, and from there on out each man was made to search for his other half being a woman, and a woman search for a man. This “missing ones other half” is the source of heterosexuality (Novak, 275). Good sex seeks true mutuality according to Novak, and the “social
This group is designed for those who wish to discover the truth to which God sees things (privately) behind closed doors. All sexual questions are welcome to be asked, discussed and debated without any reservations or shame.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is a great example of how a married couple should fulfill each other’s sexual needs, so sex was made to be a great thing. In verse nine of the same chapter it states that “it’s better to marry than to burn with lust”, which goes back to stating that sex is to be enjoyed in marriage so if someone feels like that they can’t control their sexual urges than they should just get married. The church has preached about this for many years and yet many Christian singles still engage in multiple sexual relationships, watch porn and masturbate and see it as a normal thing. There is an interesting article on Relevant Magazine’s website called “The Secret Sexual Revolution” where they mentioned a surprising statistic of the number of young adult Christians having premarital sex is at eighty percent. What I found most interesting about this article is this
“When God created Eve…he took her straight from Adam’s side. None of us have fully recovered from the surgery. There is aloneness, an incompleteness that we experience everyday of our lives” (pg. 126). Chapter eight goes to mention the grand affair found between us and God. There are times in life where everyone around me seems to be in some type of relationship. This leaves me feeling lonely and questioning what I have done wrong to deserve this single season. However, it’s a natural feeling to crave union with the opposite sex. We were made to be long for intimacy. In the society we live in, I feel as if this unity between man and woman have been misunderstood. We don’t believe that intimacy is possible anymore because several people are turning to sex to ease the pain (pg. 135). Fortunately, God provides beauty and strength. When we are in a relationship, and both people seeks to put God first, God will enable us to see the desires we seek in the opposite sex. When it comes to relationships, we shouldn’t focus on the physical intimacy and attraction, but rather on worshipping
What was confusing for me, was starting to go to church with my family at the age of fourteen, but still witnessing my father’s sexual expression not change. From what I was being taught about the Bible, sex or sexual issues were only appropriate in marriage between a man and woman. The male was the leader of
There is a big discussion occurring in Australia about the redefining of the definition of marriage. Over the next few issues of the Messenger I want to share with you a biblical Christian view on God’s values and design for sex, sexuality and relationships. I believe it is important that Christians know what we believe about sex, sexuality and relationships, but more importantly I believe we should also know the why or the basis of what we believe.
Most religions of the world address moral issues that arise from people's sexuality within the human interactions. “Sex and religion- two of the most powerful, passionate, and poetic aspects of human existence”( “Manning and Zuckerman pg. 1“). There are many distinct religious beliefs about the complexion of sexuality and the appropriateness of various sexual behaviors. “Some religious (or aspects within them) can be described as comparatively “sex positive”. By “sex positive“, we mean that sensual, erotic activity involving the consensual pursuit and / or actualization of gratifying bodily pleasure is understood as natural and acceptable , even holy. Conversely, some religions (or aspects within them) can be described as “sex
“It must be remembered that God has instructed us that the gift of sex has been given man in order to "help Him produce children" (Gen. 1: 28), express mutual love, receive the benefits of close companionship, and for mutual enjoyment. (Gen. 2: 18-24).” (Counseling Couples Contemplating Divorce)
Knowing one’s self is essential to bringing wholeness and health to the union. “Physical and emotional self-awareness are crucial elements in satisfying sexual experiences” (Morehouse, 2001; Schwartz, 2003). After one has embraced the gift of sex, one still must be whole, healthy and know one’s self well. The individual who is confident and comfortable with self is ready to be united in marriage and experience the enjoyment of all aspects of the gift of marriage with another. Any attempt to become one with another apart from wholeness will most likely result in the unrealistic expectation of completeness coming from one’s spouse. This is idolatry, because it is Christ who completes us and giving that responsibility to someone else is wrong. “And you are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power” (Colossians 2:10). Self-awareness is a personal responsibility to God, self, and one’s mate. While I know myself well, I still discovered that I can know myself better as self evolves as one experiences seasons of life.
Sex is the sacred sigh of the covenant with God, when a couple has sex they are sealing the covenant with God. Breaking this sign of the covenant is one of the most harmful sins that we as a people can expose ourselves to. In order for us to enter into heaven God says "But among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity...because these are improper for God's holy people.1" Breaking the sign of the covenant with God is breaking God's law and going against everything God wants for us. God doesn't ask much from us considering all that he has given us, he asks us only to follow his laws, in Jesus said, "If you love me, you will obey what I command.1" Premarital sex goes against God's command and ruins our relationship with him.
Biblical writing tends to have strict laws about sex and sexuality and how it was expressed and universally accepted. The Pauline Epistles, or Paul’s views, had unique views on sex because he completely distrusted gender as a whole and because he believed that there would be an apocalypse. Many of Paul’s ideas were widely accepted back than because they explained may things that people could not, for instance it explains homosexuality. Today, the laws are seen differently and in some cases interpreted much more literally than they were back then. It is likely that ideas have changed either because people have become more understanding and accepting of others or because we no longer view sex and sexuality as a thing to be ashamed of. This new age of interpretation is seen in the way homosexuality is accepted today, submission of the wife to the husband in some religious dominations, and the ideal of marriage and its sexual implications.