"The History of Love" by Nicole Krauss follows three main characters' journey of life and love. As the story progresses the three characters' lives intertwine, helping to progress the narrative. Throughout the story Krauss introduces various themes in order to create and bring depth to the story. One of the notable themes in this novel is how a consuming love can lead to loneliness in one's life. Krauss explores both love and loneliness in her novel and creates a story that explains the connection between the two. The first character introduced to the reader is Leopoldo Gursky, an immigrant from Poland, who lived all of his life in love with only one woman, Alma. Leo describes his love for Alma as "a secret they told no one. He promised to her he would never love another girl as long as he lives". Krauss devises a sentence that depicts a theme of love. Through this sentence she not only creates the theme of love but also foreshadows the loneliness that Leo will experience because of this love. Krauss not only depicts the theme of love through Leo's unconditional love but also foreshadows the loneliness that Leo will experience because of his wistful love for Alma. Leo went through many hardships in Poland just to reach Alma in America, "you could say it was his love for her that saved him". Although his love for her did save him, he only concentrated on reaching Alma that it turned him into "a man who had become invisible" by the time he arrived in America.As Krauss says Leo becomes invisible on the path to finding Alma and consequently becomes lonely without realizing it. The passage goes on to say, "if the man who once upon a time had been a boy who promised he'd never fall in love as long as he lived kept his promise, it was not because he was stubborn or loyal. It was because he could not help it". Leo does keep his love for Alma and as Kraus describes Leo never falls in love again even after discovering that Alma had moved on. Although Alma had moved on, Leo loved her still, which lead him to isolate himself from the everything but his love. Through the story of Leo and Alma, Krauss presents a bigger theme, that a consuming love can lead to loneliness. In the case of Leo that theme was present with his
According to “A Triangular Theory of Love,” the intimacy component of love is the “emotional investment of love” it is “feelings of liking, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships” (Sternberg, 1985; Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2016). In other terms, this is the feeling experienced toward, and or, with another person, in which, you are emotionally invested in the relationship. Examples would include caring and emotionally investing oneself into the other person and the relationship. Couples with a intense intimate relationship adore each other’s companionship, frequently sharing personal information about how the person is feeling or doing. Lastly, passion is the emotion feeling of being significant and appreciated in the relationship. Additionally, it is having, accepting, and sharing feelings for the other person. It is selflessness, for example, enduring pain when an individual hurts their spouse’s feelings, or sharing joy with a spouse during exhilarating times, it is caring about the other person’s feelings. In addition, this component of love includes, the “enduring feeling of warmth in a loving relationship” (Sternberg, 1985). In healthy relationships, couples ought to be able to converse freely during arguments or about personal issues. The individual should be felt cared for and craved by their significant other. Furthermore, according to Social Psychology, intimacy is “feeling free to talk about anything, supportive, and understanding”
The triangular theory of love suggests that love can be interpreted in terms of three components which together can be viewed as forming the vertices of a triangle. The three components are firstly intimacy the top vertex of the triangle, secondly passion the left vertex of the triangle, and lastly commitment the right vertex of the triangle (Robert J. Steinberg n.d.). The first component in the triangular theory of love is intimacy. What is intimacy? How does it affect a relationship? Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their
The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.
Raymond Carver wrote "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love" in 1981, by doing this Carver also created the character Mel. This short story is written in first person narration from Nick, one of Mel's friends. Both of their wives, Terri (Mel) and Laura (Nick) are also in the kitchen having the love conversation with Mel and Nick. Mel is a forty five year old, tall, curly headed cardiologist. Mel also has an ex-wife with whom he had children with. Mel is related to the theme of Love being undefinable by bringing up the conversation of love, talking about several examples of what love is or is not, trying to prove his point even though he does not completely understand what love is, and being an example of undefinable love himself.
Much has been said about love, but if you search the horizon, you will discover that most of the things written about love are either pithy or cynical.
Love is a special emotion that most individuals strives for. Part of a human’s nature is to love and long for another individual. This feeling has existed since the beginning and will continue to exist until the end. The term “love,” however, is very broad. To understand more easily what the term means, the Ancient Greeks came up with three terms to symbolize the three main types of love. The three classical types of love are very important to understand, as they will continue to exist until the world ends. The selected poems read reflect three classical types of love.
Kind Hearted Women (Sutherland, 2013) is a documentary that attempts to portray what it means to be a Native American in modern times. It uncovers how child abuse and domestic violence tainted the life of one woman on an Indian reservation. Robin Charboneau, the protagonist of the film, becomes a whistleblower of the dysfunctional tribal council system. As she seeks help and advocates for her family, she faces the scars from her own past and starts on a journey full of learning, growing and healing.
PPcorn is excited to bring you the new video from Peter Rabbit Music, “Looking For Love.” The new solo project from Melbourne musician Peter Hume, it was the first song penned for the project one and a half years ago.
Coming from Melbourne by way of New Zealand and Syndey, the sounds of Peter Rabbit come together to reveal a rich and beautiful story in “Looking For Love.” In this exclusive premiere with PPcorn, the Downtown Tracks version of the latest track from Peter Rabbit gives us a moving and authentic look into the world of Peter Hume.
Throughout the course of our lives we will experience the deterioration of a loved one due to illness or aging. This may cause us to make a choice of how and where we choose our loved one to die. Authors, Carolyn Jaffe and Carol H. Ehrlich, in their book All Kinds of Love, illustrate how the relationships between doctors, patients', family, friends, hospice volunteers, and hospice nurses all play an important role during he patients last days as they try to reach a "good death". In the book's foreword, Rabbi Earl A. Grollman comments on Jaffe's history of nursing experience and states "Her stories bring alive the concerns, the surprises, the victories, the disappointments, the mistakes, the uncertainties, the joys, and the pain that are
In the story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” by Raymond Carver, four friends discuss their thoughts about love. The friends drink gin and talk about their past relationships and their views about love. The central idea is that love is an emotion that can not be defined by words because it means different things to each person. Everyone interprets love in their own way based on their personal experiences.
Love is a term that many philosophers and other academics have been attempting to describe and capture the essence of for centuries. In class, the concept of a “life giving touch” was discussed along with a conversation on dating and relationships. This discussion made me wonder what the major philosophies on love are and how these differ from the way it is typically viewed. Socrates, Descartes, Aristotle, and Plato have all expressed their own opinions on love in their various writings. Plato coined his ideas of love in his text, “Symposium”, where love begins as a raw desire and goes through stages in order to be refined intellectually (Burton, 2012). Socrates, as Plato’s student, believed Plato’s ideas, but focused on friendship (Burton, 2012). Aristotle’s described love as “two bodies, one soul (Moseley).” Descartes’ opinions of love come from his talk of passions (Schmitter, 2010). All of these philosophers had something to say about love, but who is correct, or will we ever truly know what love is or from where it comes?
Max Shulman’s piece, “Love is a fallacy” expresses many arguments expressed during every day social interactions. In the piece, the author comes into contact with his roommate, Petey Bellows and a possible love interest, Polly Espy. The author makes many unjustified guess pertaining to their wisdom and intelligence, and these false pretenses contribute to his interactions with the two, and he aims to take advantage of the opportunity of manipulating the two into achieving his own selfish desires. His plan backfires, and he is forced to reconsider his actions. In the process, Max Shulman reveals that his piece is both anti-women, anti-men, and Shulman underestimates the intuitive and emotional aspects of love.
The concept of love and passion can be considered an abstract emotion which may be immeasurable within a relationship. Although, one is hopeful to feel love and passion in most modern day marriages, however, Kate Chopin demonstrates in her short story " The Storm” there is a possibility to married and yet be lacking in one of the most important aspects of a marriage such as passion. However, is the emotion for love in order to maintain a family together substantial enough to continue a marriage without passion and most importantly is there a difference between love and passion. The author Kate Chopin not only describes the intimate affair through her two leading characters in “The Storm” Calixta and
In Barbara Graham’s “The Future of Love”, she says long-term fairy tale romance inspires true love believers and their perspective towards love itself. Graham expresses the idea that to her, a lot of relationships fail because both partners in the relationship fall in love with an idealistic view of who the other person is. She explains that couples jump into relationships thinking their significant other was this perfect image they made him/her out to be only to come to realization that it was a figment of their imagination. Graham also defies the sappy happy endings that she says everyone believes in since heartbroken romantics oversee a lot of the incompatibilities and faults in a relationship to make it more