The Horrible Truth Of Abusive Relationships

“Domestic violence or abuse is about control” (Pisarra), the abuser has complete control over the victim this is the most abundant reason why it’s hard for a person to leave an abusive relationship. Both emotional and psychological factors keep the victim tied to the abuser. Sometimes situational realities, such as a lack of money, and lack of resources keep the victim from leaving. The reasons for staying in an abusive relationship will vary from one victim to the next, but they usually involve several factors.

surviving, and leaving an abusive relationship is a harder and greater impact to the mind and heart, than to stay and continually get abused. Being abused by the man who once made me laugh, smile and fall in love with, his presents lifted life off my shoulders, made me remember what true happiness felt like and within instants everything changed. I was afraid, and terrified. I blamed myself because of the words he stuck in my head. I felt trapped in his shadow. Even after escaping the physical torture, it was as if he never left. It was never same, he took everything from me. he destroyed every glimps of hsppines he made me lose my

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior or coercive control in any relationship that is used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another. (Violence). Most of society’s think domestic violence is when one of the spouses is abusing the other spouse. Domestic violence can occur between anyone who has lived together at one point of time; couples who have never lived together, but have a child together and family member who has live together in the same household. Domestic violence can happen to anyone, regardless of their class, religion, ethnic background, education, age, gender, disability status, sexual orientation, gender presentation, or immigration status. The domestic violence can place in different categories, such as; emotional abuse, physical abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse and financial abuse. Researcher had discovered tactics that the abusers use to control their victims such as; dominance, humiliation, isolation, threats, intimidation, denial and shifting blame. (Helpguide.org).

The cycle of abuse starts when an individual is abused and then the perpetrator feels regret. The guilt leads the perpetrator to ask for forgiveness and engages in positive behavior towards the victim. The victim does not leave the abuse because he/she “perceives few options and feels anxious terminating the relationship with the abusive partner, feels hopes for the relationship at the contriteness of the abuser and does not call the police or file charges.” In addition, after the victim forgives the perpetrator the couples experiences a honeymoon stage. During the honeymoon, stage the victim is optimistic about the relationship’s nonabusive future. After the honeymoon

Toxic people have ways of pulling others willingly into unhealthy relationships without raising any obvious red flags. They know how to make the other person feel that every mishap is their fault while steering the blame away from themselves. Many people believe that those who are caught up in an abusive relationship allow themselves to be the other’s doormat, but the truth is that it happens regardless of how confident or smart the abuser’s partner is.

It is important to understand why a victim will engage with abusers in order to understand how to stop the cycle of abuse. The victim sees themselves as the problem, not the partners making it easier to blame themselves as the cause of their suffering (Nicholas, 2013). When a person leaves an abusive situation that does not always mean that it is the end of the relationship; this is particularly true if there are children or shared assets because there is a sense of obligation to remain (Baholo et al., 2015). There is little understanding into why women remain with an abusive partner, which makes it harder to track why a woman would have subsequent relationships with partners that exhibit similar abusive tendencies (Bell, Goodman, & Dulton, 2009). There is a lack of understanding of the “bigger picture” which needs to be identified and explored (Bell, Goodman, & Dulton, 2009).

I have fallen in love once, but it wasn’t your ideal love story. The guy I was in love with, seemed harmless when I first became involved with him. However, as the relationship grew, he began to abuse me: emotionally and physically. I was terrified, as he began to holler deleterious phrases and names at me, along with leaving bruises on my body. Who could I have turned to? What if he continues to hurt me, or even exceed the damage he’s already done if I were to tell anyone? Dating abuse: one of the many problems in the world that is mildly prominent, but is not being acknowledged to its full potential. Empathy and compassion should be directed towards dating abuse, because this is a continuous event that is still occurring to young adolescents today. Due to the unawareness of dating abuse, students and teachers should put in the effort to inform each other and those around them of dating abuse, as well as how to address it.

Explanations for abusive and controlling relationships have been describe between the Stockholm syndrome and London syndrome. Stockholm syndrome and London syndrome are psychological disorders that developed due to hostage taking.

Because children are more likely to get involved when exposed to severe violence against their parent, children are placed at a higher risk for injury or death by the abuser (Domestic Violence: Statistics & Facts).

Is there anyway a person can identify a domestic violence abuser before entering into a relationship with someone? Unfortunately, the answer is no as it is not possible to identify a potential abuser before the abuse begins; however, when dating, there are common characteristics that might indicate that the person has the potential to become an abuser. These common characteristics include extremely jealous or possessive behavior, the need for one person to be the boss of the relationship, strict views on the roles of a man or woman in a relationship, demanding the woman to stay away from family and friends, control of the money within a relationship so that the woman cannot leave, and constant monitoring of where the person is and question

The Profound Impact of Abuse Seen through Sethe’s Three Response Stages in Order to Help Healing in Beloved by Toni Morrison.

The abusive partners use economic means to control the women to stay in the relationship. The women do not have any access to cash or a checking account. Men use tactics that negatively affect the women's ability to establish or maintain economic freedom. The tactics that men use include harassing women about money matters, destroying the women's credit, stopping women from working, and forcing the women to have sex for money (Swanberg & Macke, 2006). The risk is high for women who lack financial stability, who will end up being trapped in an abusive relationship (Kaukinen, Meyers, & Akers, 2013). The obstacles that women face because of economic dependence are serious for many victims of domestic violence (Sanders & Schnabel, 2006).

The presentation that was given from the guest speakers were very meaningful because they provided me with relevant information and statistics that I can use if I come across any concerns dealing with domestic abuse in an unhealthy relationship. This is meaningful to me because it enabled me to comprehend about the different types of domestic violence and ways to sympathize for people who go through this these type of problems. For example, I learned that domestic abuse comes in all different shapes and forms. A type of domestic abuse is verbal/emotional. Verbal/emotional abuse consists of yelling, swearing, criticism, and many more. I didn’t know that abuse can come through verbal, I always thought that domestic violence was physical abuse.

My parents met in high school and became high school sweethearts. They stayed together through out-of-state college and all. My mom was around 31 when the divorce happened. In result, my mom never really had a boyfriend other than him, so after the divorce her pick of men wasn’t too great, she has been involved in toxic mental, spiritual, emotional and physical abusive relationships. I didn’t realize that it has influenced my life negatively, it has affected me in my relationships and my thoughts on men.

Society is very familiar with the terms physical and emotional abuse, whether it is personal or a term heard in passing. The majority of people want a happy, beneficial relationship not one that is going to cause more harm than good, yet so many people find themselves in harmful relationships. Why? People do not just find themselves in repressive relationships, there are many factors in one's life that contribute to the reasons one may find themselves victims in repressive relationships.