The Importance Of Bad Report Cards

Children have a lot to say and parents have to remember to stop and listen to their child and then maybe offer suggestions and ideals. Recognize how the child feels and acknowledge the flaws the child has. Nobody is perfect. Realizing the imperfections of the child helps a parent better understand the type of encouragement and guidance the child might need to become a more productive adolescent.

In thinking about the way I was raised, I feel like I was very “lucky” so to speak. Both my Mother and Father always encouraged me and gave me multiple opportunities to succeed. My philosophy for guiding my student’s positive behaviors starts at the front door of my classroom. I can honestly say I set the “tone” for my classroom. I meet my students with a smile, a song, and a “good morning”…”today is a beautiful day!”. I lean down to their level and compliment them on any good thing I can find. For example, “You smile is just what I needed to see today” or “My favorite color is red and you are wearing a red shirt!”. Every child will have a bad day, just like every adult has a bad day occasionally. It is my job to see the bright side of the situation and help him or her find something

Does excessively micromanaging kids by overprotective parents affect their life post-college? Julie Lythcott-Haims addresses this concern supplementary to many others written in her book, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kids for Success. The key theme is outlined perfectly, as Lythcott shows a great deal of concern for these children’s parents, as they do essentially everything for their child(ren). “Meanwhile, each year I saw more and more parents come to campus with their freshman kid and then . . . stay, literally or virtually, to: ask questions; select courses, activities, majors, internships, and careers; solve problems; handle conflicts; defend and advocate for their student; register for classes;

Living in a household with western style parenting, I disagree with Amy Chua. Yes, your parents want you to do better but most do not run and blame it on the school or school system.

It is beneficial for people in high authority to have high expectations for teens because the teens will want to achieve those expectations and it will make them more stable and emotionally ready for adult life. In the article “Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really The Answer?” Hara Estroff Marano who is the author of A Nation Of Wimps and the editor-at-large of Psychology Today magazine speaks about the benefits of raising children with strict parenting. Marano states, “ Children who have never had to test their abilities, says Marano, form into “emotionally brittle” young adults who are more vulnerable to anxiety and depression.” (Paul 4). This quote shows that high expectations is beneficial because kids who grew up with lower expectations

The hypervigilance of parents where they dictate everything that their child does actually does damage to the child because it stunts the development of internal motivation in these students (Margolies, 2016). If my parents had told me what clubs to be in, what sports to do, what classes to take, and what homework to do at what time then I never would have developed the motivation to choose for myself. It would have actually made me less capable of choosing things for myself, thus causing more stress in my life as more responsibility would fall on me as my schooling continues. The other dangerous way that this forced culture of perfectionism damages these youths is when they seem to be the perfect student, excelling in their studies in high school, and then without this constant support they crash in college and can quickly spiral out of control, not knowing how to handle this new stress as they no longer have the hypervigilance or the praise of their parents to keep them going. Helicopter parents think that by controlling these aspects of their child’s life will benefit them and create the best possible outcome for them. This is very obviously false as it is creating the situation of a severely underdeveloped child.

As a future educator, I am mindful of the fact that it’s my job to find out why my student is struggling. Sitting down with the child may help me determine the problem. Parents are also one of our greatest resources at our disposal, and I plan to take advantage of that. Parents see different things at home than in the classroom. Conversing

Additionally, parent involvement is also an important factor that contributes to how well students do in school and whether or not they graduate. According to the Michigan Department of Education, “decades of research show that when parents are involved students have higher grades, test scores, graduation rates, better school attendance, increased motivation,

First of all, when kids get money for good grades, they are unable to spend it effectively. A child are more likely to spend money on items such as games, candy or objects of their interest instead of items that could be more beneficial towards themselves. They don’t know how to handle responsibility and have not been taught how to utilize their money. “Economy does not lie in sparing money, but, in spending it wisely” (Huxley, 2014). Children don’t understand the value of money and how hard their parents work to receive enough to provide for them. With this hard earned money, their parents fill their necessities while the kids fulfill their desires. “A penny saved is a penny earned” (Franklin, 2014).

A good idea to help a child cope with failure is pare back the praise. Always complementing a child does more harm than good. From the article Failure is an Option by Aviva Patz she says “you get confidence from overcoming adversity, not from being told how great they are all the time.” A child will feel more confident if they are faced with a difficulty and overcome it, rather than someone doing it for them. Also from the article it says “Making an effort is something kids can control.”

If you ask them why they would say such a thing, they might say “My parents are too busy at work” or “My parents just don’t have the time”. Sometimes this is not actually the case; it is not that parents do not care about how their child does in school, it is just that they do not know how to show that they are concerned. Parents are unsure how to react to their children’s academic performance, or what to say when there is something wrong at school. Since parents are always clueless to their child’s school life, they should get more involved with and become more aware of their child’s education.

Parent involvement in schools is positive to the extent that the child is encouraged and getting help on their homework when they need it. If the child is neglected the influence that they need from their parents, they would think that there would be no use to study and get good grades. The letter from a ”Concerned Mother” and the article, ”In Defense of Helicopter Parents” by Lisa Belkin from the New York Times, show evidence of parent influence being beneficial to a child. The influence of parents will help encourage their children to not give up, causing their determination to grow. Parent involvement from an early age will affect how they grow up academically.

Bratek provides an example of this when he writes,” Parents also need to be supportive when their student comes home with a grade lower than an A. Excessive pressure from home to attain success… can lead a student to take shortcuts to get ahead by any means that are less than honorable. ”(doc. 1). Parents want their children to be as successful as possible, especially in school. I personally have never felt the stress of my parents wanting good grades. Many students, in all schools, feel the pressure of their parents wanting them to succeed.

There are actions the parents can take to promote positive communication. Along with the secure attachment, parents need to provide a warm, comfortable environment that allows for less stressors for both the parent and child. When initiating conversation it is best if the parent asks an open ended question promoting communication with child, which can be hard especially with adolescents. It is very important that the parents always remember to watch the tone of their voice, how they word their responses, and to stray away from aggressive and demeaning words or phrases. Giving a critical responses and detailed explanations is just another way to promote positive communication. An example of positive communication would be if the child said that school isn’t important at all and the parent answering with a positive explanation instead of something along the lines of “too bad, just get over

As a parent you raise them good, show them right from wrong and hope they keep that knowledge as they face the real