Note: I’m not quite sure what italicized passages should be read as, but I’d say some of them are notes, and some of them are asides. I just needed a way to separate those thoughts from the main body.
If you assumed that the topic of this email would be particularly interesting and/or worthwhile because I said I had been thinking about it for some time, then unfortunately I think you will be disappointed, but I hope you won’t regret permitting me to send this to you. As always, let me know if you get a chance to read through everything, but of course, no rush.
I wrote most of this email before our brief exchange last night, and therefore in a few places the writing doesn’t perfectly depict my current thoughts in that some of the
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But now I'm less so, the topics are heavier, and you might have noticed that our friendship itself is more stressful to me, a fact which builds recursively into more anxiety.
Previously, it seemed more like a two way and balanced interaction. Now we can easily go for more than a week without speaking, and unlike in the past, I find myself initiating all of the conversations. Sure, one could argue that there's a reason for this (which is that our interaction tends to revolve around questions and answers, and one cannot easily exist without the other already being present), but somehow it used to be different. So... I really don't want to start chats or topics that you don't like or don't want, and I'm always unsure about this, conscious of it and worrying. That's why I so often ask you if I can ask a question before asking it, and also the reason I've stopped writing every day as I used to, whether prodding or otherwise.
Is the flow at the start of any friendship analogous to how you once described the beginning of a relationship: There's a short phase built on novelty, after which the need to interact becomes less urgent? Related to that, a week or so ago you said that it had been too
Despite the numerous different theories consisting of different stages of friendship they all contain certain aspects of relationships going through stages of increasing familiarity. They all show how we select friends through a stage model and how relationships also break down in stages. They provide Factors that increase friendship like after helping another person we like them more due to feelings and emotions such as empathy, or a decline in a relationship by the need for too much help and support that can cause stress and anxieties. If we feel empathy we are likely to help, and there are several factors that increase chances of friendship,
Feeling thwarted in every effort to set circumstances right, in my life - not between us, becomes intense with patterns and connections. Illuminating my mind, emulating the strings from ballistics in a crime scene, or worse, a schizophrenic’s garage, complete with wall covered newspaper clippings and red marker lines that model no reality but chaos. My connections are evidence based, empirically proven models of physical systems; my subjective realizations were at least based on such arrangements and configurations, architectures and harmonies. Between the visits to the women trying to help me I have assignments. The next two weeks include writing my strengths, progress in the past year, and compliments. One of those is your supportive, wonderful email that doling out strokes for learning proper grammar. That felt
The initiation came with our similarities in music and art. Complimenting one another in the taste of music we had, or in our drawings turned into compliments based on more personal subjects. With this came experimenting, asking about various subjects, mainly checking to see if we had more in common. Once we knew each other for a while we tried intensifying our relationship by dating. This ended in the termination of our romantic relationship. During the dating period, we did say, “I love you.” There was a short downfall in the middle of our friendship because of the breakup, leading to the avoidance of one another for a few weeks. Even with the severed romantic relationship, we managed to keep our friendship intact. I would say that we were as close, if not closer than we were before. If you look at our relationship after high school, you will see much more avoidance occurring. Once college started we had a few issues that eventually ended in the termination of our friendship
I first wanted to apologize for not getting back to you. My intention was never to be unprofessional or disrespectful. I had an emergency back in December, and was not doing well for a while. I wanted to get in touch with you as soon as possible and let you know that I would still be very interested in possibly working with you for my thesis that I would be starting this summer. With all of this said, I know you may not want to set up a time to meet at this point. Again, I am very sorry for being unable to reach you sooner. Thank you for your time. Please let me know.
I also, have friends that I don’t talk as often as I want, and when we talk it seems like we have been connected all along.
Please accept my apology for this seeming carelessness. I have realized that I should have been more careful. It makes me feel so bad that I did something that does not reach your standard. But, I like to assure not happening something similar in future. I just started working hard to refine my proposal following your comments.
So far, I have learned from my initial rough draft that I need work on my style for my letter about evil. My tone was way too formal and sounded unnatural, which is something required for letter writing. Not only did high level words and long sentences make my writing sound robotic, it also took away from the general emotion of the piece. I need to revise my tone by removing obscure words and language in order to make it sound more organic. Ali suggested that I use words that I would normally use in everyday conversation and also told me to read my piece out loud quietly, in order to pick out the weird sounding words. Additionally, I need to work on my introduction and conclusion due to the fact that they don’t fit the style of
Wanted to start off by apologizing for that last letter that I wrote, it was wrong of me.
I hope that we can work past this miscommunication and return to a mutual relationship of trust and respect.
My friend Aija and I have known each other for about two years and have gotten pretty close within the last year. Reading through all the stages of the Knapp model I would consider us to be at the intensifying stage. We took our friendship pretty slow, however I would say that we went through the intensifying stage rather quickly. It started by her inviting me to a art party she had in her home, then I started inviting her over to my house for girls night or to just chat for coffee. She then started staying at my house for a night or two while my husband was away for military reasons. At some points in time we see each other a lot and then other times we don’t see each other for weeks at a time due to being busy. We do favors for each other, we make each other feel appreciated.
I'm emailing you this rather than talking face to face about it because I feel that whenever we talk it ends up with us arguing rather than making any progress. I ask that you read the entire message before you do anything else. I also ask that you take some time out of your day to really consider what I have to say. The final thing I ask of you before this message really begins is that you try to not take anything I say in this message as disrespectful. If I didn't respect you, you wouldn't be reading this email right now, because I would not have sent it because I wouldn't care what you think.
It has been quite some time since I have sat down to write you an email. Honestly I didn’t think it would be necessary due to the fact you are home now. It’s not like we have to worry about you leaving for deployments or extended periods away from home. That said our communication has gone down the crapper and seriously needs work.
John evolved into my best friend and, wrapping myself in his world, I lost my core group of friends. We had reached interpersonal commitment. All of my time belonged to John. We went to events and hung out according to his time frame, with little consideration for my time. All John needed to say was “no, I don’t want to do that,” and I respected his decision. Looking back, I realize how little John respected me. Our relationship grew in predictability as we learned each other’s schedules, emotions, and family habits. Dates always went the same way, involving dinner with his family followed by a rented movie. Our interactions never involved social bonding beyond our families. Instead, moments of novelty, like rock
In life there are many changes that can cause a true friendship to go wary such as marriage, divorce, birth of children, new careers, and sickness. However, through each of those events the two must remember to keep the intimacy, the letting down of emotional barriers and the expression of innermost thoughts and feelings, “that which makes friendships thrive must be an enjoyable one” and to “always interact” (Karbo 3). Although psychologists continue to research the formation of friendships the great philosopher Aristotle knew exactly how friendships formed and how the lasted.
“The quality of your communication is the quality of your life”-Tony Robbins. How motivating. It should be because Tony Robbins is a very famous and successful motivational speaker. This quote couldn’t be more true. Good communicators have a very successful life and in order to master communication, one must understand communication theory. According to the text, Introducing Communication Theory Analysis and Application, communication is defined as “a social process in which individuals employ symbols to establish and interpret meaning in their environment”. There are many different definitions of communication, but all communication definitions explain the process of transmitting information, the framework of the information, and the effects of that information. Understanding communication theory can be very rewarding and very beneficial to people’s personal and professional lives. It can help with public speaking, interviews, relationships, and so much more. The world is always changing, which means communication is too. Taking a communication theory class helps students make sense of the world around us, express our wants, needs and desires to others in an appropriate manner.