The Importance Of Friendship In My Life

Close friends often have a major impact on the choices that people make. A close

Friendship is exceedingly imperative to me and has been an immense influence on me and my life. The way it has impacted me has changed dramatically, starting in fourth grade when I was accepted into Quest, the advanced program in my school district. In fourth and fifth grade I made friends with a majority of the other kids in Quest. We were all quite close. We hung out all the time. At recess the entire class played capture the flag together, apart from the rest of the classes in our school. We always stuck up for each other. We were like a family. The changes and continuities with my relationships have sculpted my outlook on friendship and how I feel about my friends.

We all have friends that we enjoy spending time with, but we do not seem to think heavily as to why we have these friends. These relationships are not necessary to survival; all that is needed for our physical body to survive is food and water, yet people want to create long-lasting friendships with people they cherish. In his work, Lysis, Plato says that that friendship is the least of natural loves, ones which we do not need to reproduce. C.S. Lewis complements this by describing friendship as “unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.” Many early

There is a type bond that is made between a set people who want to go farther than being just acquaintances. A healthy friendship contains respect, people who respect each other by means of equal fashion. Friends should often care about the well-being of the other person. Many friendships also include acts, whether they are acts of kindness that work towards the best interest of the other without requiring materialistic items in return. A healthy friendship also contains honesty.

Friendship isn’t a subject which you could learn at school, matter of fact, it’s a state of mutual trust and honesty linking two or more parties. In addition, the key factors rely on maintaining assurance and respecting everyone's thoughts, ideas, and personalities, rather than betraying one another in any manner. However, I didn’t quite have a satisfying background when it comes to the topic of friendship. When I was in 6th grade, I thought I had a fairly reliable group of friends whom I could trust and would always be by my side, but that was not the case. One bright, sunny day at Calle Mayor Middle School, I was wearing a blue shirt and black shirts with some converse when I encounter my best friend at the time, Aadhya. Initially, I was about to ask her if she finished her homework, but then Aadhya whispered, “I’m so sorry dude. I didn’t know what to do”. At that point in time, I was confused and before I even asked her what happened, she left and the bell rang so we both went to class, in two completely opposite directions. As I walked to class, I wondered to myself, “Why is she apologizing for no reason? What happened? What did she do?”, and as soon as I entered my classroom, the majority of people turned and gave me this weird stare which was when I knew something was up and Aadhya was related to this situation. Eventually, Bella rushed to my seat and asked, “Khushi, why would you do that? What were you thinking?”, and that’s when I exploded. Not to mention, the

A Friendship isn't about who you have known the longest. It's about who walked into your life and said "I am here for you" and proved it.

It is human nature to have friends. A friend is someone we know well and have a special bond with. They are there to listen when we need to talk or lend us a shoulder when we need to cry. Each friend we meet in life has their own unique personality. Therefore, the different joys they bring us make them such an important part of our life. We come across a variety of friends along the way who mean more than anything; some we cherish dearly and a few we question. Along the course of my life, I’ve had 3 types of friends who have made an impact on me, one is adventurous, another is a brutally honest, and lastly, one that has been a lifelong friend but only reaches out when it benefits her.

It is common to hear people saying ,“We have been friends since middle school” to explain their childhood friendship. Most strong friendship starts from middle school to life time. When we were around 4 to 5 years old, we all had friends in kindergarten that we could play with. We shared our toys with our friends and laugh with them. In meddle school, we start to form a formal friendship. We start to see these friends we are conferrable with after school and hang out with them. This friendship can continue together to high school, college, and after marriage. A friendship that we built starting from middle school or high school, it usually stays strong even after we started our own life. It is also common to see strong friendship after college or universities; a strong friendship can start anytime in our life time. These friendships can be with the opposite sex; some of these friendships can be converted into relationships, but not all of them.

“It’s finally the holiday season!” Albert wrote in his journal. The time when everybody comes together. Families reunite, and broken friendships heal. The typical family in my neighborhood comes together on Thanksgiving. Differently, my family doesn't see anybody unless their is a Bar Mitzvah or a funeral. I barely know my own dad. He works on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico.He has to be away for months at a time. Sometimes we get to Skype. On those short rare occasions when I see his tired face, he always lectures me about the value of education and how if I don't concentrate on school I'll end up like him. Doing a dirty job, far away from his home and family.

Sadhu Vaswani, a famous Indian educationalist and spiritual leader, once said “If my love is without sacrifice it is selfish. Such a love is barter, For there is an exchange of love and devotion in return for something. This is conditional love.” This quote spoke to me because I felt like it said wonders about the challenges of friendship. We exchange love and devotion for more love and devotion and this is part of what makes life worth living. Not only our relationships but also the friendships we form throughout our lives and how we handle those friendships shapes us in many ways. What we value in Friendship is different for every one of us but for me, I believe how much effort you put into a friendship should determine what makes your friendship great. Friendship is not perfection, in fact, the best friendships are those of imperfection because people are flawed and make mistakes. True friends are measured by the sacrifices they are willing to make for you. The people who sacrificed themselves for me were some of my oldest friends.

Samuel Clemens and Mary Mason Fairbanks had a friendship, but different. Sam describes Mary in his letters as young and a mother figure. She shows strong criticism towards his bad habits and tells him things he should know. A mother instinct is right most of time in wanting the best for her children. Mary was a woman who speaks her mind especially towards Samuel she feels she can tell him anything since there friends. Having a friendship with someone is based on communication, honesty, being there when needed. Sam Clemens was thirty-one and Mary Mason Fairbanks was thirty-nine very close in age. The two met in June of 1867 loading the steam ship in Quaker City and made their way to Brooklyn. Sam and Mary both love to write and found out the two were writing for different newspapers in their hometown. When starting a conversation with someone you will find out information that could relate to each other. Such as what interests between the two, like or dislikes, and the background (Stahl, 2008).

“A good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.” (Wyse, 2007) We all need friends. Friendships are very essential in our daily lives. If we did not have friends we would not be happy. We would be very lonely. They keep our heads on our shoulders. They help us to be strong in the hard times and have fun and relax through the tough times. I believe that everyone needs a really close best friend.

Friends are very important to me in my life. Although you have family who loves you and always is there for you, it’s nice to have someone that you can always lean on. It is nice to have someone who is not biologically related to you, but someone that you can relate your life to them. Everyone has different reasons for why they need friends. My top three reasons I need friends are to add joy to my life, have someone to talk to, and have someone to be with. I need friends to add joy to my life because friends can make people happy and everyone deserves to be happy. It’s nice to know that you have someone and they can add joy to your life whenever you need it. Another trait or action I chose is having someone to talk to, like a listener. I need this in a friend because although you have family to talk too, it seems easier to talk to a friend that understands you and is the same age as you. Sometimes you don’t have a big problem, or it’s not a problem at all and you just want to talk about it. If it’s not a big deal and your parents don’t need to know about it, you can always talk to a friend. I love talking to friends because they listen, they understand, and they help. The last reason is because I need someone to be with. When I say that, I mean someone to be by you whenever you need them, someone to party with, someone to hang out with. I need a friend that can support me and be with me whenever. Whether I need them because it’s for something good or bad, I need to have

“It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What’s hard is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.” (Shauna Niequist) This quote talks about how decisions in life aren't the hard part, it's what your willing to give up to do the things you love to do. Friendship revolves around sacrifice, no one can truly love someone unless they are willing to give up everything for them. There are many things you could sacrifice for your friends but there are certain sacrifices that depict a true friendship from a normal one. Time, opportunities, and dignity are the most important things to sacrifice in a friendship. If a friend isn't willing to sacrifice any one of these, then look into your friendship and question if it really is a real one.

One thing I plan to do to meet people who can help me is to make more friends. Making friends is one way I can build relationships that will benefit me during and after college. I have already built some friendships with students I have met this year that are beneficial to me in regard to studying. I can study with the friends I make during college and get help with assignments that I do not understand. As for after college, the friends that I keep in touch with may inform me of a job opportunity they have heard of or a job opportunity in their current job. They may be able to connect me to future employers. Building lasting friendships will benefit me in the long run whether it be career wise or socially. However, to make more friends I would have to stop being shy and initiate a conversation with people in my classes instead of sitting quietly until someone talks to me. To maintain these friendships, I would form study groups with them if we have classes in common, attend events with them, or hang out with them outside of class.