The Importance Of Marriage Before Getting Married Before Married

In the story “The Yellow Wallpaper”, by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, I will discuss how women were oppressed by the institution of marriage in the nineteenth century while making comparative references to “The Story of an Hour” by Kate Chopin. Women were treated as second class citizens during the 1800’s, which under rule of their husband weren’t allowed to be a person of their own, but live in the shadow of their husband.

In the United States, it is very common to find married couples that live together prior to their marriage. This is a challenging subject faced by so many couples today; to live together before marriage or to stay separated until marriage? A quote well known in America is, “You do not truly know someone until you have lived with them.” Perhaps this statement holds some truth, but this also makes couples feel obligated to move in with each other before marriage. This American saying might even scare couples into moving in together before tying the knot. It can be a worrisome and a scary thought to marry someone without even knowing them. It is clear to see how a marriage could be unsuccessful without having a deep knowledge and understanding of one another (Warren 4).

Moreover, early married bride are not mentally mature for a family life and they will more likely to feel suffer after got married especially for girl. Indian researchers on child marriage in Rajasthan and Madhya Pradesh state that girl spouses suffer more than boys because of insufficient socialization, abandonment of education, great physiological and emotional damage. Early married spouse will be missed out on learning how to live by their own and this step actually is the most important part in life before get married especially for girls. How do we expect that one who never learn to manage their own life, to manage their partner life? Maybe they will learn to manage their life together, but how a person is now can change dramatically? This situation will bring a big mess when they start to feel uncomfortable towards each other and start to think about divorce then commit a domestic violence. A study in Jordan, published in 2000 found that 26 per cent of reported cases of domestic violence were committed against wives under 18. This study show that the early

Definition of culture is a wide range. Culture is language, art, food, cloth, lifestyle, and believe. I was born and lived in Japan 19 years. When I came to the United States, I was surprised how Japanese and American culture is different. Japan and America is different language, food and lifestyle. There is a Japanese culture that American culture should adapt for social benefit. That is arranged marriage. There were many countries that arranged marriage is popular around the world. However, recently, arranged marriage is no more popular because society, and people’s idea changed, and many people think arranged marriage is not respect their children. In Japan, arranged marriage is very popular since long time ago. A few decades ago, arranged marriage was forced marriage, and wealthy people do that for keeping family well-off. However, definition and style of arranged marriage changed recently. Arranged marriage is more like matchmaking. Parents do not force marriage anymore. They encourage to find good partner for daughter or son. “Arranged marriages in Japan are now in the minority because one reporter says that over 70% of Japanese marriage are based on love. The remaining 30 % are arranged.” (Arranged Marriages in Japan) From this date, Japanese still arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is beneficial American society because fast, low divorce rate, no trouble, and marriage with ideal person.

Why do people get married? What do marriages stand for? Marriage is a union between two people who wish to unite their life together. The reason that people today get married is for love. However, marriage means more than love. A reason why many people get married is that they have found companionship, love, and comfort in another person. The idea of a marriage has different meanings to people. Some marry for money, love or resources. In modern times, many philosophies have changed throughout the year. In her book marriage, Juliet H severance states that ¨marriage institution claim that it offers the best possible opportunity for individual and collective happiness…¨(severance 3) Marriage is a way to achieve happiness. Many ideas of marriage have changed. However, some ideas and still exist. Marriage is a form of motivation, regardless of their reasons. The reason people get married is mainly love, money, and traditions.

In society, marriage is generally seen as an acceptable way of living life, and is often loaded with the expectation of having a family. However, marriage has various implications as well as meanings to an individual, based upon their experiences with marriage. Some view marriage simply and plainly as an experience you get to share with the love of your life. Others view it as a ploy to waste your time, and more often than not some do it because it is practical. Contrary to the negativity and skepticism surrounding marriage, individuals still aspire to get married. Regardless of the various viewpoints of marriage some individuals have to offer, the institution of marriage still holds significance within our society. Reflecting upon this myself,

Marriage is not for everyone. Those who choose to make that commitment before God and their families are called crazy and are given the well wishes of 'good luck'. With over fifty percent of US marriages ending in divorce it probably is not uncommon not to want to become a statistic. What is the harm in trying to find an alternative

Not many people realize this when they commit to such a big decision. Nicholas Logan states, “Marriage is often said to be ailing.” (Logan). Once you say “I do”, you share your life and nothing will ever be the same. Marriage is great though, just you won’t have the free time you used to have. In Kate Chopin’s story The Story of an Hour, she states, “She said it over and over under her breath: “free, free, free!”.” (630). Her husband was pronounced dead and she was actually happy because she didn’t have to share her life anymore and it wasn’t like a prison, she was

Marriage will bring you many things, loyalty, self restraint, obedience and a whole host of other virtues you wouldn’t have needed had you stayed single.

In our family it’s discussed that we should not live with our couple before we get married, because of our parent’s cultural belief. So the option of living with someone before marriage is off the table. Even though these are my parent’s belief, I do believe a couple should live together before they are married. I have known by my friends’ with marriage experience that did not live together before marriage, said that their first year of marriage was difficult. They had trouble adjusting to each other routines and moods; they both differed in different aspects. They were afraid they had committed a mistake and were also afraid of the unknown. Living together can reassure a lifelong commitment. Couple should live together before marriage, this way they can become

Another point that I disagree with Doe’s argument is the economic benefits that she says cohabiting couples are missing, which may be true for some cases but not all. Ninetta Papadomichelaki and Keith Vance wrote an article called, “The Importance of Being Married” agree with me that marriage is obsolete. They share the same argument about cohabitation couples having more money than married couples when they say, “Marriage doesn’t even provide a tax break as in many cases couples pay the so-called “marriage penalty” by being charged more taxes than if they filed as individuals.” (Vance, 261). Doe’s argument about economic benefits from marriage may work for many marriages, but not ALL of them. How about those couples that meet each other in

In context and comparison with other cultures around the culture, this is very unusual as marriages are used as an agreement between two groups of people, not two individuals. Perhaps economic independence in the West contributes widely to the lost of economic and societal factors in deciding marriage partners. Love between two spouses may at first seem efficient in raising children, but the American ideals of youth and beauty diminishes the marriage as their spouses change over their lifetimes (Haviland, Prins, Walrath, McBride, 2005: 221). High divorce rates and serial monogamy creates a phenomenon called omnigamy, where a divorce couple might remarry spouses whom also have children and where all their children simultaneously visit each parent. Along with an extended, extended family, these “nuclear” families quickly becoming undefinable (Warms, 2002: 208).

Living together before making our vows would have reassured us about a lifelong commitment. From my own experience, I believe that couples should live together before getting married, so they can start to know each other on a closer, more personal level; moreover, they can start thinking about the compatibility of their future spouse.

"Marriage is quite likely the one most damaging force our species have ever invented, up to and including war." Harold Christensen, author of Marriage Analysis, is not the only person who believes marriage is in many ways "hogwash."

In todays’ world, with increased incidence of unsuccessful relationship or marriages, there are some people who want/prefer to live together before marriage so that they can understand each other and they don’t have to experience a painful divorce. In my point of view, this is another option/type of marriage. Because if the relationship won’t work successfully then they can separate their ways easily and live happily. By living together before marriage, they have time to know about each other's living style and behavior and their relation get even stronger than before but if it does not work then they can move ahead in their lives before taking a wrong step of living together for the whole life but sometimes living together is against to some family principles, ethics of society, religious point of view. Sometimes these types of relationships are very successful without any regret in life and on the other hand it comes out as an unsuccessful and worst relationship. But I think advantages are more powerful than disadvantages.