The Importance Of Self Confidence

Self confidence is the foundation of success, achievement, and happiness. Unfortunately, the foundation of self confidence can become shaky and unstable if someone that you look up to as a role model hurts your self esteem and courage. One of the biggest role models in my life used to be my first club soccer coach. He seemed brilliant, passionate, and willing to work with my team. This man soon became the complete opposite of what I hoped he would be. I soon realized that he was a two faced liar and one of the most awful people I have ever met. Little did my ten year old self know he would be the downfall of my self confidence and he would slowly destroy any passion I had for the sport I loved all with only a few words.

To have a positive outlook on life we all have to gain confidence physically and mentally. We can attain self-confidence overtime; we need it in order to be successful in life. Although, it is difficult in our society to attain high level self-esteem due to picture perfect images, plastic surgery, and surreal role models. Low self-esteem is not only in women it is in men; everyone has some sort of low self-esteem because as humans none of us are perfect.

Social anxiety is fear of communication with other individuals and it may bring feelings of self-consciousness (Kashdan, Farmer, Adams,

For most of my life I was incredibly shy, introverted and had minimal self-confidence. I didn’t have many friends at school and I didn’t feel I fit in with my peers.

As you use meditation and online support, try to cultivate a small circle of people or even one person to help you conquer your fears. Social anxiety is felt in isolation, but working with others can offer a solution. People with social fears and phobias may have few friends to rely on, but an ally can be an online supporter. Also, therapists and other mental health professionals can help by listening, setting goals, and giving practical advice. Reaching out to a trusted person is a good step into becoming more social.

“Social anxiety is the bear of interaction with other people that brings on self-consciousness, feeling of being negatively judged and evaluated, and, as a result, leads to avoidance” said Jonathan Berent, author of “The Untold Story”. It is known as a phobia that is most commonly known with adolescents. In this day and age people are so worried about their look or “image”. This makes social

Social phobias, anxieties and negative self-talk are a constant struggle since my early childhood and adult life. The nervousness, fear of rejection, insecurities and self-consciousness makes it difficult to connect with people and to form close relationships. It often feels I am the one of few people who experiences these socially anxious symptoms. Adding to the dilemma, the awkwardness to speak in public is overwhelming, to creating imaginary scenarios in my head, and the uneasiness to order food at a restaurant. The fear to schedule a phone call for an appointment, to rehearse and practice conversations in my head is a daunting daily affair. The process inevitably resorts to negative self-talk when asked to engage and contribute in social

I quickly took a leadership role and began problem solving, and became top retail associate in my store. I was not what I had been before and I was proud of it. The experiences and fear’s I confronted allowed me to also socialize outside of work. I developed a small social circle that I look forward to grooming into a bigger one, I also continue to socialize with new people rather they are coworker’s, or fellow students, I am also able to handle big crowds now. I still have a long way to go because meeting new people at times still makes me nervous, however that’s a big step because I used to refuse to meet new people. Some people don’t get over social anxiety, some people don’t try, but I

Social Anxiety is not shyness; it is a real disorder that involves interaction with others. It is a fear of being judged by others and that judgment being wrong. It causes people to have anxiety and fear of failure. People with this disorder tend to be shy, withdrawn, and may seem to be unsocial since they fear judgement. Although people with this disorder want to be friendly, and want to be open and social in public situations, the fear of judgement and anxiety that it causes holds them back.

In his TedTalk “The Skill of Self-Confidence” (15:40), Dr. Ivan Joseph discusses the importance of having faith in oneself and how confidence is ultimately a result of our attitudes/actions. He begins with a story about how, after winning the National Championship as a college soccer coach, he faced hundreds of parents and players that wanted to be apart of his team. However, despite the great skills they brought to the actual game, he was more concerned with their self-confidence, as he felt that that was the determining factor of whether or not they would be great players for his team. The entire talk sits upon that foundation; if one has confidence in their own abilities to overcome any given obstacle, they will be successful in whatever they choose to do. He clarifies that self-confidence is a skill rather than a trait because he believes it can be learned.

Nobody wants to feel invisible or have a constant fear they will embarrass themselves by simply speaking. In the world today, many people struggle with these exact worries on a day-to-day basis. Social anxiety has become one of the biggest mental disorders in the world. Quiet and alone, victims of social anxiety go unnoticed in our say anything society because they try to blend in and stay out of the spotlight. The fear of communicating among peers, which can consume a person, could push someone into complete isolation. Social anxiety describes the disorder that many, even doctors, write off as having shy, awkward, or introverted qualities when conversing with one or more people. Despite the lack of knowledge and awareness of the disorder,

Firstly, let's talk about exactly what social anxiety is, and how it effects an individual themselves. Social anxiety is defined in the International Encyclopedia of Social Sciences as “the fear of being humiliated, embarrassed, negatively evaluated, or rejected in social situations”. This fear can become so intense

People who are diagnosed with social anxiety have a difficult time communicating with others. In “Shyness and Social Phobia.” Joseph Walsh, informs “Social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder, is a fear of social situation and interactions” (138). Specifically it is the fear of being judged in any social situation, which people diagnosed with social anxiety feel much more uneasy. In “Social anxiety disorder: Much more than shyness.” Margot Shields explains, “Most people have felt awkward or embarrassed in a social situation… however, people with social anxiety disorder experience much more discomfort than this” (22). When overcoming social anxiety, self-treatment can be an option. Although you will face many mental and physical obstacles

Social anxiety is a miserable thing to suffer from. It certainly makes meeting new people and making friends more difficult. Being the wallflower at every party makes you feel like every pair of eyes in the room are focused on you, the nerd in the corner by himself, which makes enjoying yourself in such situations that much harder. If you have this problem, you can at least take heart that you are far from alone. It is the second most common type of anxiety that people suffer from and it's estimated that nearly 20 million Americans have it.

Another interesting experience that helped me gain confidence was my speech communications class with my professor, Mrs. Larson. I knew I didn't have any trouble with talking to a group of people. I love to tell jokes and stories to many people at one time, but I was nervous and somewhat embarrassed about preparing some boring speech and making everyone else suffer by listening to it. Mrs. Larson explained that we all have problems with this and that it can be overcome. I remember something simple she said that stuck in my mind: "The only way to get over the fear of something is to just do it." She was right. As I had to go up to give the speech, her words constantly kept running through my mind. After the speech, I realized that we were all in the same boat suffering from the same seasickness- nervousness, We all had to give speeches. No one was out to criticize anyone else and we all ended up supporting each other! I learned that I could make a "boring" speech interesting if I have fun with it and feel comfortable as the speaker of the moment.