The Importance of Emotional Self-Regulation and Secure Attachments

A child who utilizes his/her affect as a coping mechanism is relying upon the ability to express or ventilate through emotion. He/she will require opportunities to share anxieties, fears, anger, sorrow, and grief, and have those emotions validated by the adults in his/her life.”

Jennifer S. Lerner, author of Emotion and Decision Making, talks about how our emotions can actively affect our actions. In Lerner’s book, it states, “We start with emotions arising from the judgement or a choice at hand, a type of emotion that strongly and routinely shapes decision making.” Our emotions cause us to make certain decisions in our everyday lives. For example a person who is feeling nervous and anxious about a specific outcome of a risky situation may choose a more safe route. A person who admires an organization may donate money. In both cases, our the way we feel about something or someone determines how we address a situation and how we treat someone or something. In some way our emotions act as our conscience in each situation we go through that requires us to choose an outcome .

Lewis (2013) explains the ability to control your emotions does not begin until a child nears the age of six (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). The need to maintain control of feelings and emotions remains important throughout adulthood. It would not be normal for a 38-year-old lawyer to throw a temper tantrum in the courtroom because they did not win a case. Not everyone is great at controlling their emotions, but there is always room for improvement (Berger, 2014). A child is not born with this control, nor can one learn it on their own. Morris et al. (2007) discussed the importance of parents, teachers and other adults that may be in a child?s life to instruct and inform children of appropriate ways to manage their feelings for them to learn or develop over time (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). It is the same aspect as manners. A child does not come out of the womb saying ?please? and ?thank you,? but must be taught to use such mannerisms. Eric Erikson explained that children believe they can achieve any goal just as long as they keep trying because their view of their abilities is not yet within reason (Berger, 2014). A child may see a fish breath underwater and believe they too can breathe while swimming

John Bowlby, the backbone of attachment theories will be discussed throughout this essay to explain and evaluate the key theories of attachment. Health and well-being which is made up of four factors ‘physical, intellectual, emotional and social ' (Jones, 2016), will also be discussed within the essay. The definition of attachment is ‘an act of attaching or the state of being attached. ' (Dictionary, 1400) This will be showed in the assignment, using theorists to analyse the meaning. Sharing the strengths and weaknesses in some theorists will help conclude this assignment.

The attachment theory is a theory by Bowlby that refers to the joint mutual relationship that babies experience and develop with their primary caregiver (Bowlby, 1982). This theory is not supported by research in various sceneries. However, even though the attachment theory began as an initiative, the clinical application to the daily clinical understanding of adult mental health complications has penned red behind the current available research. I believe that the theory can give valuable insight into both the developing nature of recognized psychiatric disorders as well as in the development of the therapeutic relationship in adults. My position provides an overview of (a) the application of attachment theory to diverse psychopathologies

The Development of Attachment Theory and Its Strengths and Limitations English psychiatrist John Bowlby is a leading and influential figure within the history of social reform. His work has influenced social work policies and legislation relating to child psychiatry and psychology. Bowlby was trained as a psychoanalyst, and was influenced by Freudians theories, but became influenced again in his attachment theory by the work of ethologists. The ethologists theory concentrates on looking at the role parents play rather than only the child. Bowlby believes that parenting has strong ties with biology and it explains why there are such strong emotions attached.

The Attachment, Self-Regulation, and Competency (ARC) Framework is a theoretically grounded, evidence-informed, promising practice used to treat complex trauma in children and adolescents (Arvidson, 2011). This research shows how the application of the ARC model benefits inner city youth who have been diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. The goal of this research is to demonstrate that symptoms of ODD can be decreased by exposing inner city youth to ARC therapy over a period of time. The target population is inner city youth in Chattanooga, TN who are diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. 50 students were chosen at random at inner city schools in the area. 25 of the youth will be exposed to the therapy, while 25 will not be exposed and serve as the control group. The 25 students will be exposed to ARC therapy over a span of 6 months. After the 6 month period, the behaviors will be rated again and compared to the control group that received no treatment. Complex trauma results from exposure to severe stressors that occur within the caregiver system or with another presumably responsible adult, are repetitive, and begin in childhood or adolescence. As a result, many of these children and adolescents experience lifelong difficulties related to self-regulation, relationships, psychological symptoms, alterations in attention and consciousness, self-injury, identity, and cognitive distortions (Lawson, 2013). Exposure to ARC therapy over a given time will lead to

If a student’s emotional regulation is increased towards their education they can pay more attention, work harder and achieve more in school. In the article, “A child’s increasing ability to “regulate” her emotions - to express her feelings in constructive rather than impulsive or hurtful ways - is now recognized as a critical factor in children’s psychological health.” “Children most effectively learn to regulate their emotions when they are confident that their feeling will be heard. When a child expects that her feelings and concerns will be appreciated and understood, her emotions become less urgent.” https://www.huffingtonpost.com/kenneth-barish-phd/how-do-children-learn-to-_b_3890461.html. Improving emotional regulation within students enables them to resolve conflicts with peers and show lower levels of physical stress. Emotional regulation produces children to be better behaved and more caring towards others. Emotional regulation means being able to think productively about how to manage with feelings. Children should have their feelings, but not be overwhelmed by them, should feel discouraged but not give up, be excited but not get so carried away in their enthusiasm that they use poor judgement in making decisions. Some therapist emphasize cognitive processes and have

What is Attachment?:- “Attachment is the close bond between two people which endures over time and leads to certain behaviors such as proximity seeking, clinging and distress on separation, These behaviors serve the function of protecting an infant”

Attachment theory is a psychological model that provides an influential, biologically driven explanation of how the parent-child interaction emerges and how it influences human development over a life span. The term attachment refers to the complex set of related thought processes and behaviors towards a primary care giver. The attachment behaviors are biologically guided by our natural instinct for protection and safety. This evolved behavioral system organizes human motivation, emotions, cognition, and memory. The attachment relationship that an individual creates in infancy effects their growth, behavior in other relationships, risk taking, and mental health through their human development (George, 2014, p. 97). I chose to use attachment theory to understand Carla’s current situation because the theory has been powerful in understanding the range of relationships patterns that develop between mother and their infants and children. It has been shown that children who experience inadequate parenting are at a much higher risk for an insecure attachment style and experience more interpersonal difficulties in adulthood especially with relationships. Carla grew up in a very inconsistent environment her whole life. Using attachment theory I am analyzing how her childhood shaped who she is as a woman and the choices she made that ultimately brought her to where she is today.

Introduction In this essay we will define road rage, look at the causes and effects, and come up with posssible solutions on how to avoid an altercation with an agresssive driver who has road rage. I will try to encourage you to learn how to share the road , with not only other drivers, but also pedestrainas and bicylists. I stronglt believe that the reason for road ragein our country is poor coping ability to stress. Most of these people belive that releasing their anger is a form of release where they let off some steam, but the opposite

Self-regulation is an area I thrive in, as long as I am practicing self-awareness. Self-regulation is the management of one’s internal states, urges, and assets. Self-regulation can be broken down into trustworthiness, integrity, comfort with ambiguity, and openness to change (Sadri, 2012). As mentioned before I am able to recognize the way that my mood affects other people. This allows me to control my emotions and bring them to a level that is more suitable for the situation. In the past, I have struggled with consistently being able to take full responsibility for my personal performance; yet, I have made it a priority to internalize the fact that I make mistakes and I cannot blame those mistakes on another person. I value the ability to be an open and honest person, which is the kind of person who does not try to blame other for their own shortcomings. In order to be emotional intelligent, you need to be open to the idea of working on yourself and changing the aspects that are inappropriate (Faguy, 2012). This is needed in the nursing profession because the patients and environment are fast-paced and ever-changing. A nurse has to be able to think on her feet. This is the broad spectrum that self-regulation requires from a person; therefore, it

On the one hand, secure attachment in infancy will create a better adolescent. Even though in the middle of adolescences i.e. around ages 15 and 16 the attachment to parents may weaken, towards the end of the adolescence, it comes to normal level (van Wel, 1994). It is a popular belief that the happiness and wellness of an adolescent is closely connected to his peers relations rather than family. On the contrary, researchers who have ventured this path proves it wrong and the studies concluded that the overall development of a teenager mostly depends on the type of relationship with their parents, which is consistent across a variety of cultures (e.g., Greenberg, Siegal, & Leitch, 1983; Raja, McGee, & Stanton, 1992; Claes,1998; Okamoto & Uechi,

In the next paragraphs I will consider some theories, factors and evidence on cognitive controlling of emotion in terms of

Maturation is especially important for individuals as it provides several competitive evolutionary advantages (Locke & Bogin, 2006). Through this process, individuals develop and acquire control over their emotions and behaviours. This ability to monitor and adapt our emotions, cognition and behaviours in accordance to the social and intellectual demands of particular contexts is often referred to as self-regulation (Demetriou, 2000; Zimmerman, 2000). Various complex cognitive skills are required for self-regulation. These skills encompass the constant observation of our thoughts and behaviours, knowledge of the demands of any situation, the capability to alter conditions of our current behaviour as required to achieve a goal or suit a situation and attention to how favourably the demands of a context are met (Evans & Rosenbaum, 2008).