There is a widespread pandemic that is gradually destroying the home institution. There is no cure for this widespread disease. This pandemic has struck every nation, society, and culture and there seems to be no remedy to slow down this rampant fire from spreading even more. There must be an underlying cause and there must be a remedy to cure this pandemic. Every culture and society’s most devastating and pressing challenge right now and in the future is the lack of father involvement in the home. Missing fathers has caused the home to deteriorate and disintegrate slowly. The institution called the home is dying slowly because fathers no longer shoulder their roles and responsibilities as head of their homes.
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No one has really taken the time to spell out the directions for men to perform as head of their homes. Fathers need guidance and directions to be successful (Green, 2009).
According to Joseph Olan Stubbs (2006) men typically fall into two categories. In our culture now, many men have been taught either directly or indirectly that our misunderstanding of headship is wrong and that men should be more like women. Many men who believe this lie have been emasculated to become more effeminate. Men are turning to be more and more women like because our culture has trained them to turn away from being a real man. Men have bought into this culture that being effeminate holds higher values. Men that believe this lie have become incredibly passive, they shun tasks, neglect their responsibilities, and duties altogether to pursue trivial pursuits (Parkinson, 2015). The other category of men’s world is that of the macho man. This man believes he is high and mighty and that everything should be done in the order of his commands. He is overbearing and his pride pushes him to be demanding and angry at the world. He believes this dictatorship style leader is the real man. He understands that positional authority is manlier and makes him feel superior to his counterpart. But this style of leadership is ruthless and it is uncalled for because it turns out he becomes a heartless dictator (Stubbs, 2006). He wants what he demands and if he doesn’t get it he explodes tearing his
Gowrie, Iowa native, Orval Hasty needed money to attend college, so he joined the marines in 1940, he ended up earning this money after the war. He got assigned at Ford Island to guard In February 1941. Around the 450 acre island there were other vessels and battleships. Orval said, "It was good duty. The climate was nice, we weren 't overworked and it was fun," with regard to the Naval Air Station Ford Island. When not at work Orval attended flying lessons, visited shows, and hung out at beaches. Sleeping in on Sunday mornings was normal for Marines and Sailors not on duty. Orval got up early asking his parents about his driver’s license through the mail. Orval didn’t know what was about to happen. No one knew. Before dawn 183 Japanese bomber planes, torpedo planes and fighter planes took flight on their way to Pearl Harbor. Wave two came later.
In “Before Manliness Lost Its Virtue” (2017), David Brooks (a New York Times Op-Ed columnist) claims that we are living in a “crisis of masculinity” (15). David Brooks backs up his claim by comparing and contrasting manliness of the men in the White House (the “”I don’t care what you think” manliness” [2] and the “the look-at-me-I-can-curse manliness”[2] ) to men in ancient Greece (“real men defended or served their city”[6] the “The manly man… risks death and criticism.”[8] and “They are constantly picking fights”[9].) to the ideal man (“The magnanimous leader… uses his traits… to create a just political order.”[11]).
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The good provider role that is often regarded as the norm for husbands or fathers is one that highlights them as the sole economic provider for the family. This belief emerged during the 1930’s and remained until the model for men until the 1970’s. From this notion, men believed success was measured in terms of steady employment connected with a high salary. Males that achieved this were rewarded with the social status that comes along with higher paying positions and it also helped to reinforce the authority of the husband within the homestead. For individuals who could not achieve this, a feeling of failure or being unable to meet social expectations set for men could lead to restricted family roles and create men that abandon their family.
As society progresses, it is not only women that are family oriented. In the past, it has been seen as the woman’s ‘job’ to take care of the household and care for the children. With the Selective Service, women did not have to fear being torn from their families to fight for their country. However, in this current generation, women are not always the primary caretakers of their children. Fathers in this generation are becoming more aware and involved in their children lives. In some cases, the fathers even
Standing Tall It is the human condition to be dependent upon others; this has always been so. Humans look up to siblings, best friends, grandparents, and even teachers but the most sought out dependency in life is in the form of a father. Much is expected from the male gender, but moreso of fathers. A father’s predetermined role in society is to make the decisions for, protect, and keep order in his home.
Not surprisingly, the article analyzes the differences between men who are womanizers and ones who are gentleman. This article was written in response to the author, Laura Merten’s, experiences regarding the collateral damage caused by masculinity in the United States. In this article, she highlights her desired characteristics in a gentleman. In other words, she is describing her ideal characteristics of masculinity. Some of those characteristics include, “Love, understanding, vulnerability, respect, loyalty, and concern” (Merten). Interestingly, these traits are all qualities one would look for in a best friend. In reality, men seem not to focus on the aspects, in which women desire, but the socially constructed aspects, sought out for men’s approval. First of all, this inherently demonstrates the lack of respect devoted to women. Additionally, this desire for men’s approval only reinforces the continuous cycle, which devalues and even dehumanizes
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy” (SOURCE). Manhood and being a “real man” is defined in many different ways depending on the person. However, most of these things that men are defined by can be done by any gender and there are people that make it their work to prove that. The social construct of manhood has overall negative consequences on society; however, not all men uphold this construct, and can prove to be advocates of change.
According to the U.S. Census, one in three children, or approximately fifth teen million, are growing up without their father. This is what I would consider an epidemic because the numbers continue to rise yearly. With the numbers continuing to grow, American children continue to suffer. It is critical that a father is positively active in their child or children’s lives because father’s provide a sense of safety, mothers cannot teach a child everything that a child needs to know, and households gain balance when the father is present. I will now better explain.
All across the world, since the dawn of time, men have taken a dominate role in society in their everyday lives. This role
Negativity Towards Fathers: Incapable Stereotype Fathers have been degraded in many movies, television shows, and commercials as incapable and incompetent. Stereotypes are socially constructed by society and the media. As humans tend to label people by what we are taught and see through the media. This stereotype arrived from the 1950’s and 1960’s sitcoms that relied on the incapable father to keep the viewers entertained. The sitcoms in that day and age featured a “5 o’clock dad…with a newspaper as a face” (Quindlen 101).
For various reasons, many children in the United States are living without their fathers in their homes or absent from their lives entirely. This is an issue all across the world and the children are having to deal with the disadvantages caused by the lack of support from their fathers. This issue has a significant effect on society and can be viewed and interpreted from the three sociological perspectives. As a result of many studies, it was found that children raised in father absent homes almost universally experience disadvantages such as: worse health, poorer academic achievement, and a less enjoyable educational experience. There are many variables that need to be taken into effect when considering
In The Scarlet Letter, Nathaniel Hawthorne narrates a Romantic story of a young woman in the Puritan Era who is convicted of adultery and has to face being a social outcast. Herman Melville examines the story of Bartleby, a copyist who mysteriously refuses to work and is, therefore, put in jail. In The Scarlet Letter and Bartleby, the Scrivener: A Story of Wall-street, Hawthorne and Melville use the characterization of Hester Prynne and Bartleby and their independent behavior to critique the effect society’s evils have on the Romantic ideal of individualism in order to remind their readers that despite the human inclination to conform to the community, self-reliance is more important than the status quo to support progress.
The role of the father, a male figure in a child’s life is a very crucial role that has been diminishing over the years. An absent father can be defined in two ways; the father is physically not present, or the father is physically present, but emotionally present. To an adolescent, a father is an idolized figure, someone they look up to (Feud, 1921), thus when such a figure is an absent one, it can and will negatively affect a child’s development. Many of the problems we face in society today, such as crime and delinquency, poor academic achievement, divorce, drug use, early pregnancy and sexual activity can be attributed to fathers being absent during adolescent development (Popenoe, 1996; Whitehead, 1993). The percentage of
By having a father in the home it enables the child to see a masculine role inside the home. The father’s role is not to act as an authoritarian for the mother for punishment, but to also give the child love.