The Issue Focused On Domestic Violence

This reading really emphasize that there are specific programs that deal with rape victims but these programs don’t work for everyone. These programs say that people cope with rape by being more in control of their environment, but what they don’t see is that there are different ways of taking control. Michelle Fine was an African American woman that had been raped but felt like the options given to her would not help her situation at all. There were so many disadvantages that these programs didn’t take into account. For example, she was from a bad neighborhood where there wouldn’t be anyone willing to step forward as a victim. They didn’t like to communicate with authorities, everything was kept quiet or there could be consequences. She also couldn’t tell her family about it because of what they would do to the attacker. She wanted to keep her family from getting into trouble. Then there was her child, she was afraid that if she were to get help that she would get her child taken away because of bad parenting or having the kid in an unsafe environment. She was also afraid of having to go to court just so the attacker would be found innocent, making her feel more at fault. All of these situations that she wanted to be in control of, making her not go to a program that might do more harm than good. She was in control on whether

Black women experience a lot of things in life differently from others, because of their intersectionality of being not only a woman, but also black. They are a double minority and they feel this double minority through many different aspects within their lives. The aspect that black women deal with differently, is domestic violence. Black women experience and deal with domestic violence differently than white women, and anyone who else experience domestic violence. Through this paper I would like to explain this difference that black women face when tackling domestic violence due to the “family secret”, but also how it effects children within the black community, how it can affect the entire community, and lastly why black women should let go of the “family secret” to not only better themselves, but to better the black community. They experience a different struggle than other victims call the “family secret”. The “family secret” is in general, keeping the secret of domestic violence within the family because it is a family issue. The “family secret has destroyed families and caused many deaths within the population of black women. Other than these problems of holding this so called “family secret”, I want to speak on the effects this has on the black community, such as, how black women who do not speak on their issues of domestic violence continue a cycle of violence within young black girls. Black women need to speak on their issues of domestic violence, instead of

Typically, domestic violence occurs between a man and a woman, and usually, women end up being the victims more often then men (Heidensohn, 2012). The male is usually more dominant because he is bigger and significantly stronger then the female. However, in recent years, men have been experiencing their fair share of abuse from women. According to a study done by the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men, “Over 90% experienced controlling behaviors, and several men reported frustrating experiences with the domestic violence system. Callers’ reports indicated that their female abusers had a history of trauma, alcohol/drug problems, mental ill- ness, and homicidal and suicidal ideations” (Hines, 2007). This study measured 190 male callers who called the DAHM and the study shows that women can also batter men. This applies to the case of Jordan Graham and Cody Johnson because a wife murdered her husband. No one should ever underestimate someone else’s strength or aggression as those characteristics can be extremely hard to gauge. Cody Johnson may have had no prior knowledge of Graham’s temper and may have even felt as if he were the dominant figure in their marriage. Sometimes, it is easy to accuse a spouse of being the core reason for domestic abuse, whether it is verbal or physical abuse. However, domestic abuse can be seen as a problem for human beings in general, “Others have argued that violence is a

As Alice was going through major hell during the rape and even after the rape, it seemed as it was not taken seriously by others. Alice describes her pain, fears, and many problems that came along the way when it came for fighting for herself and the after effect of the rape. Being a rape victim was not easy, and Alice showed many signals that she needed more than just comfort, but sadly many of them failed to provide that for her.

We hear the stories of these women and learn about the women in themselves. We learn why studies show they were placed in that position as well as why they think they were placed in that position. The most interesting portion of the book is when the author shows us how the women write violence off as not being violent at all, with such excuses as "I wanted to keep the marriage together" or "he was mad" or even "I deserved it". Because a lot of women grow up in abusive situations similar to the one's they were in it is harder then to identify oneself as a battered woman. Many of the women interviewed in the prison stated that they didn't consider themselves battered women until it was too late to get help, some even went as far as saying that they didn't realize what they were until they went to prison and joined the CWAA.

The short story is an eye opener for young women to beware of their surrounding. The short story became a classic and is read all throughout schools. It really open the eyes of the reader to beware of strangers and that even the person they believe would not hurt him just might. Thirty-five percent of women have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non partner sexual violence, according to the united nations. According to a global study on homicide of all women who were victims of homicide globally in 2012 an estimated half were killed by intimate partners or family members.

However, it is not these statistics that has community worker Sandy Wilson constantly troubled. She is troubled, not because of the facts that are brandished in the face of society, but because of those that are hidden and ignored. She states, “…what fails to be publicised is the sheer quantity of women or men who experience psychological or emotional assault as a form of family violence.”

1 in 3 women have been victims of some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime (ncdav.org, 2016). On the outside, many believe that violence is uncommon; they think that the women who are solely dependent on men, or abused in relationships can just walk away. In reality, it is not that simple. These victims do not know any different; many begin to deem themselves as worthless. On the contrary, there are many women not in these situations who do know differently. The novelette, “The House on Mango Street” by Sandra Cisneros, explores into the lives of three women in three very different positions. Many women in society are trapped in abusive relationships, and many are waiting for someone to make a change in their lives for them. But some do have the opportunity, and are actively attempting to do something to impact their lives. Through these women, Cisneros displays not only the hardships

To understand how serious this epidemic is, it is best to learn from those who have had their own experiences with domestic violence. In her book Defending Our Lives, Susan Murphy-Milano talks about her mother’s constant battle with her father, a detective, and how it affected everyone in the family. When Milano’s mother, Roberta Sharpe, was pregnant with her at seventeen, her father, Philip Murphy, married her in Illinois during 1959. For Milano, things seemed okay for a while. People thought of Philip as a good detective and a good man, but around age nine she started to view changes. One incident occurred when the author continued to wet her bed. Her mother tried to hurry and remove the dirty sheets before her father came, but he found out and was furious. Unfortunately, he had been drinking that night and was mad that Roberta would always keep changing the sheets. With this, he locked the door and the sound of something crashing could be heard in the arguing couple’s bedroom. Susan tried to get out to see what was happening, but her father locked the door from the outside of her room. The next morning her mother was in the

Greg, a police officer, lived with fear and isolation in his own home for 27 years. From the start of his marriage, he endured physical and emotional abuse from his spouse. He has been slapped, punched, scratched, and kicked throughout the span of the relationship. Greg’s wife would take her anger out on him no matter how miniscule the situation was. Eventually, he would reach his emotional breaking point and left his home (“Tell Your Story” 3). Greg is just one prime example that women are not the only victims to domestic abuse and violence. Domestic violence, sometimes known as “wife beating”, came about in the 1890s, but has recently been viewed as a serious crime. Domestic violence can occur in heterosexual

Tina was in her late twenties when she first met her husband at church and married him a year later. The abuse began a week into the marriage, but death threats were cast towards her and her family as she asked for a divorce. Eventually, he cut her off from everyone she cared about, imprisoning her in the home, and becoming progressively more violent. Finally Tina was able to involve the police and save herself and the children that resulted from the relationship. Her advice to women as she presented her story was to break the silence because “at the end of the day, every woman who is killed, injured, or harmed through domestic violence is someone’s daughter” (Tina). Domestic violence among adults continues to be a tragedy throughout the generations;

Americans generally don 't prefer the topic of domestic violence. Us Americans pay the five bucks for People magazine and US Weekly in the checkout line to catch up on the hottest trends and the newest celebrity gossip to carry us through the day, but why is that we skim over the domestic violence ad in the back and don 't ponder twice about what they are trying to convey? On the other hand, other countries have recently been speaking their minds loud and clear about this controversial topic. 12 Magazine in Bulgaria and APAV of Portugal recently released images embodying the real results from domestic violence for men and women, but then were asked to apologize for how gruesome and real they appeared. Why should they be the ones to apologize when “Every month three women lose their lives to either current or former husbands or lovers” (Jomad)? In the end all these companies wanted to accomplish was to help the victims feel comfortable and encourage them to come out about their abuse and no longer hide these horrific acts to protect their abusers.

When we hear about domestic violence, we always assumed that it’s about women. Women are not always the victims, also men, children, elderly or mentally/physically disabled people as well.

"Don 't let someone who doesn 't know your value tell you how much you 're worth."

* Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims