The Issue Of Gender Roles

Marriage is an adjustment between two people getting married Communication can cause a relationship to succeed or fail. If you do not share how you feel, it can cause your partner to withdraw. Listening can save a relationship. Schonberg (2011) found that “affective affirmation –basically, behavior that makes your partner feel loved cared for or special plays a role in a happy marriage and those men need it more than women. There are several factors and problems that can cause marriage to either succeed or fail. It is important to discuss problem things left unsaid can cause your partner to with draw.

Marriage has been constantly changing over the past centuries. Currently, trends in marriage have adopted a new way of getting married through splitting responsibilities and work, resulting in social freedom for individuals. "The Myth of Co-Parenting,” by Hope Edelman demonstrates the difficulties of taking all the responsibilities while in “ My Problem with Her Anger,” explains the needs of having a better understanding of each other. Due to marriage changing over the last centuries, marriage couples desire individuals’ expectations and freedom to be met in marriage.

The myth of gender roles plays a pivotal role in This Boy’s Life- A Memoir by Tobias Wolff. Specifically, the myth of masculinity shapes much of the actions and experiences that occur. Toxic masculinity is commonly described as socially-constructed attitudes that describe men as being violent, unemotional, and sexually aggressive. The rules of masculinity that are implied in the memoir include displays of physical dominance such as fighting against others, use of weapons for power and control, domestic violence, and trying to win at everything. Sexual virility is discussed as bragging about sexual conquests and talking crudely about women around other men but generally trying to be hyper sexual. Another, key aspect of masculinity is to not show any emotion as others will perceive you as being weak which leads characters being unable to express how they feel about themselves and their conflicts. Males are taught to not get mad but to get even; this means retaliating by stealing or other means in order to get revenge. Within the memoir, Tobias’ perception of masculinity and his idea of what man should look and act like is demonstrated through Roy. Qualities that include being: “an expert hunter, conventionally handsome, [a mechanic or handy in general], does not need to talk more than needed, having a tattoo”(14). The myth of masculinity pigeonholes males from This Boy’s Life- A Memoir by Tobias Wolff by making them believe that they must act in a certain way in order to be

In 1980 Edgell interviewed 38 middle class couples. He asked them who made the decisions and how important those decisions were. He found that men dominated what couples considered to be important decisions involving finance, moving house and buying a car. Women dominated less important decisions such as interior decoration, children’s clothes and spending on food and household items. The chores that tended to be allocated to men though were infrequent rather than the everyday, frequent tasks which the women dominated.

In society, marriage is generally seen as an acceptable way of living life, and is often loaded with the expectation of having a family. However, marriage has various implications as well as meanings to an individual, based upon their experiences with marriage. Some view marriage simply and plainly as an experience you get to share with the love of your life. Others view it as a ploy to waste your time, and more often than not some do it because it is practical. Contrary to the negativity and skepticism surrounding marriage, individuals still aspire to get married. Regardless of the various viewpoints of marriage some individuals have to offer, the institution of marriage still holds significance within our society. Reflecting upon this myself,

Traditionally the decision to marry made mainly by both families and marriage is often contracted by agreement amongst families in order to expand their circle of alliances and enhance their prestige (Metz, 1993). A partner is chosen by a person’s family, not based on the Western concept of romantic love (Metz, 1993). A woman’s opinion may be respected

In establishing identity as a married couple, couples struggle over finding the right balance of time spent together and apart. As well as what level of closeness to maintain with their original family. Couples may find it challenges them personally to make changes in style as they both look for the middle ground. Decision-making is another area in identity where the tension between individuality and togetherness can be confusing for couples. If teamwork is a major factor in your marriage then success and happiness will follow. As time goes in a marriage, either one or both individuals might feel that they’ve sacrificed too many of their own personal needs in order to please the other. While going through these feelings an attempt to re-establish your own personal identity is needed. A request for personal space is often made to leave the other person feeling threatened, rejected, or abandoned. Having the ability to merge while maintaining your own individuality in a marriage is necessary. We

I can relate to Wright when he states, “One common problem is that so many of us are concerned first with our own personal happiness and self-fulfillment in marriage and then with the happiness of our spouses” (p. 21). In my own

Responsibilities and consequences come with marriage and friendships. One side might not be thrilled with the decision that you make. Time management can become a huge issue in the decision of marriage. Either directly or indirectly, the choices that are made by an individual have a varying degree of affect on other people in society.

Gender socialization often begins early once parents are shown the sex of their child; from then on, baby showers are planned according to gender “appropriate” colors, which are often pink for girls and blue for boys. Even differences in how children are spoke to can be picked up easily in Western cultures. Girls are called pretty and sweet, whereas boys are handsome and strong. Ultimately, the way children learn to identify with their gender culture is in part due to not only family and friends, media, schools, and religion, but also from the toys that may inexplicitly advertise gender expectations. Gender-typed toys may be bought for children as a way for parents to encourage and reinforce gender-appropriate behaviors. However, recent debates have engulfed toy manufacturers and major retailers, which has brought about changes in toy design and marketing in an effort to make reflect more realistic and gender neutral options.

How marriage is what maintains a family and how cohabitation 's influence on couples is changing American society. He concludes that young couples today are choosing to cohabit and raise their children without any formalities that define a “legal” marriage. Wilson also describes the legal, financial, and social issues that are shaped by cohabitation, and their effects on the principles of marriage. A couple getting married makes a promise to stay together forever. This way each partner can afford to love the other because they made that promise. Another key argument is how marriage promotes better children. Although Wilson made a few strong points in his article, his claim against cohabitation fell short due to misleading the reader, including non-credible sources with no references, does not include opposing views or argument in favor of cohabitation, in addition to inserting his own political bias.

Most people believe that love is the base of a blissful marriage, but marriage carries a bigger responsibility than just the happiness of two people. When a couple is united together under the contract of marriage, both partners have their duties in the relationship. They must share each other’s burden regarding to financial stability, caring for the children, and other factors in order to create a lasting marriage. To fall in love is a natural right that all human beings should have. But that choice also comes with consequences. An emotion like love is fickle and may not be everlasting like what we see in fairytales. People should pick their spouse based on emotional maturity, background, economics, and children rather than just love.

First, the expectations of a relationship and how these expectations are met play a large part in the dyad’s assesment of how well the marriage is going. Also, the decision-making process, another important procedure that should engage both parties of a marriage, is of increasing importance in these post modern, feminist times.

Conflicts which lead to unresolved issues can influence the quality of the marriage. Although several research was made on marital relationships, the factors which influence the arising of continuous conflicts are still not clear. Unresolved issues are problems which are continuously brought up in a marriage. However, marital conflicts are not the only source of unresolved issues in a relationship. Unresolved conflicts within the marriage can affect the longevity and quality of the marriage, but personal background and individual trauma contribute to marital problems more often than conflicts within the marriage. In fact, marital conflicts are usually started because of personal unresolved issues. If a person develops a behavioral property

When it comes down to the question about marriage, family values come into question at one point or another, if not immediately. But in today’s society our values have changed from the standards that were set when the concept of marriage was founded. In traditional times it was expected that the man would court the woman for many years before settling down and asking for her hand in marriage. But, in the world today that process has changed severely. But in the midst of that process there’s a question that remains for the most part unanswered in general. Individual couples settle the matter for themselves but it leaves the whole of society in disarray searching for a universal truth to the problem.