Mother’s Love
Moving from hometown to another city is always hard for people, imagine moving to a whole new country, where people speak a different language, different culture and different lifestyle, it will take us years to blend in the new environment, some people won’t blend in forever. In the novel The Joy Luck Club generation gap is a big problem between four mothers and daughters. The author Amy Tan herself is a first generation Chinese American, she was born in Oakland, California, her parents emigrated from China to America two years before she was born. She moved to Santa Clara after spending much of her childhood in the bay area. Sadly Tan’s brother and father died of brain tumors within eight months in 1968. She went to Switzerland
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“What will I say? What can I tell them about my mother? I don’t know anything”(Tan). When her aunties ask her to tell her lost sisters about her mother when her mother died, she was shocked because she didn’t know what to say at all. Because all these years they never understand each other. All these years they have conflicts, she thought her mother does not like her, because her mother always criticize her about everything. But she did not know that her mother’s criticism her because she did it because she love her, she wants her to be better, she has high expectation on her. But June did not know that. “Jing-mei thinks that her mother's English is terrible, but her mother prides herself in her Chinese language”(Cultural barrier through communication--as explained in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club"). This is one of the reasons why they cannot communicate well, because her mother prefer speak Chinese than English, but their daughters does not understand Chinese that well. So there are many misunderstood among …show more content…
They made contacts with them, and they want June go to China and tell them everything about their mother. She started to understand the stories her mother told her when she was small: “That’s the way Chinese mothers show they love their children, not through hugs and kisses but with stern offerings of steamed dumplings, duck gizzards, and crab” (Tan 202). June finally understand that Chinese mother shows their love in a different way. “Only after the mother's death does she comes to know of her past and her plans for the future which came as a shocking revelation”("Cultural barrier through communication--as explained in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club.") She finally understand the reason of her mother always criticism her, the reason is not that she does not love her, is because her mother has high expectation on her, she wants be responsible for her since she had to abandoned her twin daughters because of war. “Suyuan's grown twin daughters never leave the significant geographical place of their mother--the city of Shanghai”.("Negotiating the Geography of Mother-Daughter Relationships in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club." ). Not only June understands her mother, but also the twins understand and forgive their mother too. they stayed in the same city hoped someday their real mother will come back and reunited with them. Because they knew their
The relationship a mother has with her daughter is one of the most significant relationships either person will possess. In Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, the stories of four mothers and their respective daughters are established through vignettes, which reveal the relationships between them. Throughout the novel, the mothers and daughters are revealed to be similar, yet different. Lindo and Waverly Jong can be compared and contrasted through their upbringings, marriages, and personalities.
From June’s, or Jing-Mei’s, perspective is an assumed unspoken communication that may never have existed. "I had always assumed we had an unspoken understanding about these things; she really didn't mean I was a failure, and I really meant I would try to respect her opinions more" (27). June felt that her mother saw her as a failure, "and after seeing my mother's disappointed face once again, something inside of me began to die" (144). "I hated the tests, the raised hopes and failed expectations" (144). June began to resent her mother for pushing her so hard in everything she did. She wanted to give up being a child prodigy. She wanted Suyuan to love her for who she was not what she had the potential to become. June never had the chance to heal that rift between her mother and herself for her mother died abruptly before they could ever make peace.
The Joy Luck Club is the first novel by Amy Tan, published in 1989. The Joy Luck Club is about a group of Chinese women that share family stories while they play Mahjong. When the founder of the club, Suyuan Woo, died, her daughter June replaced her place in the meetings. In her first meeting, she finds out that her lost twin sisters were alive in China. Before the death of Suyuan, the other members of the club located the address of June’s half-sisters. After that, they send June to tell her half-sisters about her mother’s life. In our lives there are events, and situations that mark our existence and somehow determine our life. In this novel, it shows how four mothers and their daughters were impacted by their tradition and beliefs. In the traditional Asian family, parents define the law and the children are expected to follow their requests and demands; respect for one’s parents and elders is critically important. Traditions are very important because they allow us to remember the beliefs that marked a whole culture.
As a result of June’s attempted efforts of learning about her past, this leaves her feeling disconnected with her mom and her ways. June’s lack of cultural background begins when her mother is still alive. For instance, when Suyuan says,¨You don’t even know little of me! How can you be me?¨ (Tan 27). In other words, there is an instance where June’s friend says both her and her mother have similar features: the way their hands move and the way they laugh. When June conveys this to her mother, Suyuan is upset because she thinks otherwise- you can’t be similar to someone if you don’t even know them. Put another way, this remark is what hinders June’s confidence- she did feel she knows her mother. If June did miscalculate on how well she knew
The Joy Luck Club revolves around the idea of family; specifically focusing on mother-daughter relationships. Each mother-daughter pair faces their own struggles such as overly high expectations, miscommunication, and the passing on of undesirable traits. In the first story of this novel Suyuan Woo, the mother of Jing-mei Woo, wants her daughter to become a piano prodigy. She ends up putting such high expectations on Jing-mei that she refuses to practice correctly and become good. Since her mother set such high expectations for her daughter, her daughter begins to resent her. These expectations caused Jing-mei to feel as if she was never good enough for her mother and as a result, their relationship is weakened. Different from Suyuan and Jing-mei are Lindo and Waverly. All of Waverly’s life she feels as if her mother is always against her and is constantly pointing out the negatives in everything. She blames her mother for the failure of her first marriage because she pointed out everything wrong with her husband. Waverly says,
The book The Joy Luck Club is a novel written by Amy Tan, who is very famous in writing about mother-daughter relationships. There are four pairs of mothers and daughters whose stories are told in The Joy Luck Club. All of the mothers were born in China and came to America because of some kind of problem, but their daughters were born in the United States. Due to the fact that the daughters were born in the United States, they are extremely Americanized. Consequently, they do not value the Chinese heritage which their mothers valued dearly. As the daughters are growing up, this conflict between them increases. Suyuan Woo and her daughter, June or Jing-mei, two characters from the book, had major conflicts over the Chinese belief system of
Traditions, heritage and culture are three of the most important aspects of Chinese culture. Passed down from mother to daughter, these traditions are expected to carry on for years to come. In Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, daughters Waverly, Lena, Rose and June thoughts about their culture are congested by Americanization while on their quests towards self-actualization. Each daughter struggles to find balance between Chinese heritage and American values through marriage and professional careers.
There is a common theme of hope throughout the stories of The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan. Even in the face of immeasurable danger and strife, the mothers and daughters in the book find themselves faithful in the future by looking to the past, which is only helped by the format of Tan’s writing. This is shown specifically in the stories of Suyuan and Jing-Mei Woo, Lena and Ying-Ying St. Clair, and Lindo and Waverly Jong. The vignette structure of The Joy Luck Club allows the stories to build on one another in a way that effortlessly displays both the happy and dark times in each mother’s life, which lets their experiences act as sources of background and guidance to their daughters in times when they need it most.
Throughout Amy Tan’s novel, The Joy Luck Club, the reader can see the difficulites in the mother-daughter relationships. The mothers came to America from China hoping to give their daughters better lives than what they had. In China, women were “to be obedient, to honor one’s parents, one’s husband, and to try to please him and his family,” (Chinese-American Women in American Culture). They were not expected to have their own will and to make their own way through life. These mothers did not want this for their children so they thought that in America “nobody [would] say her worth [was] measured by the loudness of her husband’s belch…nobody [would] look down on her…” (3). To
Mostly, Jing-mei 's fears echo those of her peers, the other daughters of the Joy Luck Club members. They have always identified with Americans (Jing-mei also goes by the English name"June") but are beginning to regret having not paid attention to their Chinese history. Her fears also speak to a two-way fear shared by the mothers, who wonder whether, by giving their daughters American opportunities and (the ability to survive with no outside help), they have abandoned them from their Chinese history.
Communication between generations has always been an issue and with that, a misunderstanding of the past and culture comes along. In Amy Tan’s novel The Joy Luck Club, she shows the stories of four Chinese mothers and their American born daughters. Throughout the novel, the characters encounter both external and internal conflicts in order to contrast the different relationships held by the mothers and daughters with their past and where they came from. The mother-daughter pair of Lindo and Waverly Jong shows the gap between the generations very clearly. Everything is different, from language to name to marriage.
The members of The Joy Luck Club are four elderly ‘aunties’ who gather once a week in San Francisco to play Mah-jong and eat Chinese food. When one of the women dies, her daughter Jing-mei (June) is invited to take her place. “What will I say? What can I tell them about my mother? I don’t know anything. She was my mother.’’ (Tan 1998, 30) When she realizes that she knows very little about her own mother she asks the ‘aunties’ to tell her more about her. That is when they start telling each other stories.
In The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, Jing-Mei and her mother have a very rocky relationship. Tan develops a relationship between Suyuan and Jing-Mei that is distant in the beginning due to culture differences and miscommunication, but gradually strengthens with time and understanding. Both of them have different backgrounds and have been influenced by two different cultures. Suyuan grew up in China and behaves according to the Chinese culture and her American-born daughter Jing-Mei is influenced by the American culture that surrounds her and wants to become part of it. Their relationship is also shaped by the pressure Suyuan puts on Jing-Mei. She wants her to be a perfect
The only reason the daughters were not very close with their mothers was that they grew up in America, a country where you have the right to be independent and get divorced whenever you want. In China it was a whole different thing. They actually expect you to be a obedient wife and
Over there nobody will look down on her, because I will make her speak only perfect American English. And over there she will always be too full to swallow any sorrow! She will know my meaning because I will give her this swan- a creature that became more than what was hoped for.” (Tan 1) The culture in China the mothers of Joy Luck dealt with was unlike anything their daughters could ever imagine or appreciate. Between the mothers Lindo, Suyuan, An-mei and Ying-ying, the Chinese culture forced them into being married by a matchmaker, giving up babies, witness desperate attempts to save loved ones, and having an abortion. In many ways the Chinese culture scared each woman, although they were proud of their heritage, their daughters deserved better. These four mothers had very high hopes for the better lives that they wanted to give their daughters by raising them in America. They didn’t like or want to have their daughters looked down upon, just because they were Chinese women. From each of their own experiences, they learned that they wanted to improve the lives of their following generation.