The Little Girl From Carston

Divorce is one of the most common happenings in the world experienced by children. Most children go through different adjustments to become comfortable with the fact that their parents are not together anymore. Children of divorced parents are prone to lifelong effects. Seventy-five to eighty percent of children have divorced parents and twenty-five percent of those children have serious social, emotional, or psychological problems for the rest of their life. Most adults think that it is best for parents to stay together for the sake of their child because having two parents in different households can become difficult for the child socially and academically.

Overnight their entire life has changed and everything they had believed up until that point is broken. They are left powerless to the decisions of their parents and must learn to cope with feelings of depression, stress, abandonment, and anxiety often times alone. These emotionally scarred children then grow into adults haunted by the parental earthquake that shattered their once happy family and they must live in fear of their own commitment. Divorce is not only the separation between a child’s parents and home, but also the separation between the child and who they thought they

Throughout my childhood, my environment consisted of switching between my mother's and father's house every week. Since I was an infant, my parents have been divorced and I believe that being a child of divorce has shaped my life tremendous ways. Through the hardships that came with living in two houses for 16 years of my life, I had the time to mature and learn a lot about myself and who I wanted to be as a person. Watching my parents for many years, I realized what I did and did not want to be when I grew up. From my father, I wanted to have the dedication and perseverance that he exhibited. From my mother, I wanted to be friendly and beautiful like her. However, there was many qualities that my parents carried that I did not want to take

Instead of seeing Gaston as a horrible being, the father sees him as just having a home like the average human. In the story, Saroyan writes,“of course not. How would we like it if somebody hollered every time we came out of our house.” Another quote from Saroyan’s Gaston is, “He’s a bug. He’s ugh. Not at all. He’s Gaston, the grand boulevardier.” Instead of looking at Gaston, seeing he is an insect, and killing him, the father makes up an interesting thought of what he is in the insect world. These quotes are magnificent pieces of evidence that the author makes the father have rare philosophies that are very

In a “The Kid’s Guide to Divorce” by Lorrie Moore, a young child is learning to cope and deal with her parent’s divorce in her own way which includes feeling the need to cater to each individual parent by selecting word choice that won’t make them feel uncomfortable. She even goes to the lengths of comparing them to scary characters on late night television which suggest that she is feeling more emotions. The story put an emphasize on the child’s perspective of what is happening and shows the true emotions of pain and temporary happiness that she is feeling internally and how she is dealing with them. It is beneficial to apply the psychological perspective to this moment of conflict within the child because divorce has a tendency to be a

Using symbolism, the author characterizes Gaston as a person who is unique and the mom as the public to show how society does not always allow people to be who they truly are. Following the man and his daughter studying the peach, the girl suggests, “Aren’t we going to squash him?” The father disagrees and

Divorce is typically a very painful and emotional experience for all parties involved. Two divorces have occurred in my life, only one of which was recent enough for me to remember. Steven Mintz, the author of “American Childhood As a Social and Cultural Construct,” mentions, “Children today grow up under different circumstances than their immediate predecessors. They are more likely to experience their parents’ divorce” (2009:53). My mother and father divorced when I was two years old. Due to my age at the time of the divorce, I do not know anything about the divorce from experience. I only know what I have been told about the divorce because I was too young to remember it happening. Over time, my mother became unhappy with my father’s “workaholic” attitude. He averaged

If divorce is so painful, why do some children flourish academically? Why do others sound mature and logical when explaining their family situation? Why do others carry on as if nothing has happened? "The reactions a child exhibits will depend on the nature of the child (ego strength and capacity to mobilize resources), as well as his or her age and the relationship of the parents and child before, during, and after the divorce. Some of the initial reactions to divorce are similar to the reactions to the death of a loved one." It can be expected that a child going through such a traumatic event as divorce will experience a wide spectrum of emotions: sadness or depression, denial, embarrassment, anger, guilt, concern about being cared for, regression, maturity, and physical symptoms (Diamond 22-28).

I remember when I was younger and my parents got divorced, it was hard for me and my younger brothers. We were forced to grow up and accept the fact that a big change was coming. My maturity level skyrocketed, at least compared to other kids my age, because I understood what it was like to go through something life altering and they didn’t. I no longer was stuck in fairytale land. I had to wake up and move on along with the rest of reality.

According to Marquart (2006), “after a divorce the job of making sense of the two worlds and the conflicts that arise between them doesn’t go away—it gets handed from the adults to the children(p. 215). When living with one parent a child may develop a sense of confusion when it comes to the family hierarchy because of the loss of one or more of the leader figures in the household (Kumar, 2011). Loss of one of the family incomes and

Having parents that are divorced is nothing something made up and it affects kids every day just like how it affected Cadence. “ It tasted like salt and failure. The bright red shame of being unloved soaked the grass in front of our house, the bricks of the path, the steps to the porch. My heart spasmed among the peonies like a trout” (Lockhart 23). Cadence felt unloved, she felt like it was her fault of being a failure as a daughter that her father left them, she felt humiliated. Emily Lockhart teaches us something,in a fictional book i might add, that can help teach us something about reality. That in reality kids with divorced parents are hurt, and they frequently blame themselves.

Every time, I give three stars it doesn’t automatically equate it’s a bad story. Most of the time, I frequently meant, it is a good book, one that is clearly not for me.

Growing up with divorced parents is never easy; especially when you, as a five year old, blame yourself for your parents’ divorce. What makes it worse is walking in on the night that caused the divorce. Walking into the screaming, the yelling, and the tears. Walking in on your brother calling the cops. Walking in when your mother is on the verge of death. Walking in and immediately blaming yourself. Thinking to yourself ‘I could have prevented this.’ Never truly realising that this was not your fault.

Seeing your parents apart and not getting along when they’re together is hard for most kids specially when you’re 8 years old and you don’t know what’s coming next. The day my parents got divorced changed my perception of what a normal family was.

Divorce is hard for many kids growing up. I had always pictured my parents as the ultimate team. My dad rescued my mother like a knight saving a princess, from the evil forces in life. It’s the story everyone’s brought up with. When you find out that that is not the case, it’s heartbreaking in a different way.