The Long Term Effects of Child Abuse

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Long Term Effects of Abuse Herb was a very loving little boy, who always tried to make everyone around him happy. He would climb up in your lap at the age of two or three, and whisper in your ear “I’m your boy, but don’t tell nobody”. Growing up, Herb was an accomplished athlete, and performed reasonably well academically. As Herb reached adulthood, he always took great strides to make the people around him feel happy and special. It was not unusual to find him helping his father on the farm or working on his sister’s car. The only payment he wanted was to see their smile and know he had helped. In adulthood, his little girl became the light of his life and no one suspected that there was a problem. Until the morning, his wife walked …show more content…
Herb would get so depressed that sometimes he did not want to come out of his room for days, even to go to ball practice, saying things like “I’m not good at it any way” (even though he was an all-star player), other times he pranced around for days, playing ball, doing his chores, playing with his friends and sister. You could never tell from one day to the next what kind of mood he would be in. A physician even prescribed an antidepressant for him a couple of years before his death. He did not take them because his father belittled him by saying the prescription was for crazy people and telling him that he did not need them. The saddest part of this story is that Herb was the most important part of his father’s life. His father was just raising his son, to the best of his ability, the way he was raised. He never realized that he was continuing the vicious cycle of abuse.
I am not a scholar in psychology. I am however the mother, aunt, friend, and widow of five suicide victims, all of which were victims or witnesses of either child abuse or domestic violence as a child. According to (Bragg, H L.), “Children who have been exposed to domestic violence normally fall into one of three categories; the first one is behavior, social, and emotional problems. The second category includes cognitive and attitudinal problems and the last category is long-term problems.” (2003). This research is reinforced by (Children’s Bureau/ACYF/ACF/HHS), which states that”