The Low Sense Of Self Esteem

Consider sitting in your high school with multiple different groups of people around. You hear numerous conversations coming from every direction and laughter filling the halls, but you are left standing in the hallway alone, feeling outcast, because you have no connection with those people. Having desolate feelings comes in response to this situation, and overall, it takes away from that sense of belonging. The unspoken rules present in these groups are responsible for the loss of belonging. People that do not fit the requirements within the rules often find themselves feeling as though they are outcasts in society. Individually, they will perceive themselves to be outsiders without a belonging in the social order because their traits do not match the desired ones in society. Additionally, the people in each specific group will begin to exclude the said outcasts because they do not belong in the clique. As a result, social events and conversations become more exclusive to those who fit the unspoken rules. This unfortunately can lead to bullying, for the exclusive people will make the outsiders feel unwelcomed and criticized. One who does not “fit in” with others will find themselves feeling insecure about their life and role in the community. Therefore, the unspoken rules of society affect each individual’s sense of belonging in both a positive and negative

Most people face self esteem problems at different levels. At some point in life people face this problem without realizing it. In the essay The Trouble with Self-Esteem written by Lauren Slater starts of by demonstrating a test. Self esteem test that determines whether you have a high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The question to be answered however is; what is the value and meaning of self-esteem? The trouble with self-esteem is that not everyone approaches it properly, taking a test or doing research based of a certain group of people is not the way to do so.

Communities play an essential role in the development of the self and learning about the stranger. Through communities, individuals are able to socialize and create a greater understanding of each other. In The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls describes the community of which she felt most part of during her childhood. Walls says, “. . .

For everyone who is trying to prove the history in low self-esteem, say ‘hello’ to the 1970’s, because this is going to be one heck of a traveling adventure. Low self-esteem has always been an issues everyone has struggles with in their life, some more than others. Many people are beginning to be concerned with the issue, and the majority of these people are the parents. This is because the most impacted age of low self-esteem is the ages 12 to 18. This is a worldwide issue every human has faced. This issue is so very important because of the negative causes that can come out of having a low self-esteem. Everyone has an image of their body. It can be negative, positive, or neutral. Anyone can struggle with their body image, and I am one who struggles. This can cause drinking, eating disorders, and more. And magazines are major contributes.

According to leading psychologist Abraham Maslow and his Hierarchy Of Needs model, human beings have a variety of needs that must be met before they progress. The need to be included and belong to a group is second only to the need for safety and food and water. If this need is not satisfied, the chronic anxiousness developed from wanting to be included could cripple success in correctly choosing between the decisions and judgements of daily life. This anxiousness is prevalent in literature and is expressed as fear of not belonging and become a social outcast. This fear of not being accepted into a population causes conformity, behavior that adheres only to accepted standards, which ultimately inhibits social progress.

In high school, there are so many types of people with every possible different interests and hobbies. There are always the stereotypical “jocks” and “nerds”, but there are groups beyond that. Along with the athletes and the class scholars, there are students in the drama club and choir department, these students tend to bond together over their hobbies and love for their preferred art form. The less known groups would have to be the types of people that the world seems to look down upon such as the gay kids and the foreign kids. Groups such as these, tend to bond over the fact that because of the way they are, the support from people “like them” gives them a sense of comfort when the might not get

I grew up as an older sibiling who really had no one to express myself with. There are kids who live in secluded areas or just don't have the social skills to find other friends. Organized activites changed my perspective as a young child on how to actually have fun with my other peers. I personally liked playing basketball and was quite decent at the sport, I quickly developed friends who enjoyed the sport as much as I did. After awhile I started hanging out with a variety of different kids who were mutual friends between my friends and I.

The need to feel a sense of belonging is a powerful and universal one. This sense is formed from connections made with others. The result can be a range of emotions, from an increase in the feeling of security and self esteem, to feelings of unhappiness and loneliness. When someone does not fit in, often because they are different, the negative emotions that they feel can be very harmful.

Many things are important to us, one of these is being accepted by our society. We all hate to be the outsider or the new kid, because we feel alone and secluded . In “Who Am I This Time?';, Helene Shaw’s job kept her moving to a different town every eight weeks. She became very cold to her

The dance community that surrounds me has been the most impactful in my life. My mother first signed me up for dance classes when I was only four years old, and now almost fifteen years later I am still dancing. I started out at a dance studio in Gresham, Oregon, where I then danced for ten years. I took classes, performed, and started competing against other dancers and studios around when I was nine years old. It didn’t hit me that I enjoyed performing until I started dancing in more and more shows. Dance was a struggle for many years at this specific studio. There was a lot of moves that I couldn’t do, and I got left behind, as the other dancers my age improved and became more flexible. I felt like I owed the teachers, staff, and other

Being extremely social, humans have a deep need to belong; to feel wanted and accepted, to have and maintain lasting relationships as well as being social in various ways that other animals are not. In animals social acts are ingrained, an act of nature per say; whereas, in humans, we learn social cues and habits by watching others. Baumeister and Tice showed from their research that social rejection corroborates the power that drive individuals to have a deeper desire to have and maintain relationships with others (Aronson, J. & Aronson, E. (2008). The experiments also revealed that being excluded causes individuals to have strong reactions; such as aggression, reduced prosocial behavior and an increase of self-defeating behavior all while

Myth: People with high self-esteem are smarter, more likeable, and more physically attractive than people with low self-esteem. Fact: There is strong correlation between self-esteem and being smart, likable, popular, and physically attractive, but this is true only for self-ratings. There is no correlation between self-esteem and others’ rating of how likable, popular, and physically attractive a person is, or with objective measures of intelligence. What’s going on? People with high self-esteem believe all these things about themselves, but they are not true by objective standards. In fact, people high in low in self-esteem are equally likable and equal in physical attractiveness and intelligence. My two-cents: I am skeptical of the true

Cronin et al. (2007) explained a literature review as being a summary of research that has been carried out on the proposed research topic. The aim of the literature review is to provide a rationale for a new research topic to be undertaken. A good literature review will have a selection of information from varied sources. In this article the literature review is under the heading of background this may be a cause of confusion for some readers and could perhaps be more suited to its own heading. However, the literature review in this article clearly summarises the research that has been conducted into the topic of interest. The fact that the need to belong and accepted is a fundamental need is highlighted. Furthermore the effects of being depraved of this need are also brought to the forefront. In addition to this further studies have been conducted into the depravation of social relationships and its link with higher levels of somatic and psychosomatic illness.

Children and adolescents with low self-esteem are more likely to have problems with peers (Hymal et al., 1990). Furthermore, they are more prone to psychological

Nathan DeWall, a Psychologist at the University of Kentucky says that “Humans have a fundamental need to belong. Just as we have needs for food and water, we also have needs for positive and lasting relationships.” The need to belong can be so strong that we are willing to change who we are just to belong to a group. Most times it is small changes. For people who are people pleasers, we will go out of our way to help others, even if that means we are neglecting ourselves, just to get their approval.