The New Mother Sits On The Hospital Bed

Firstly, I always talk to the parents to find out as much as I can about the child, their needs, interests, how much they can say or gestures they make for juice, hunger or toileting. Who they are closest to.

Right from birth children develop their behaviour and social skills from what they experience at home. This experience should be caring, loving and supportive, it should provide children with the opportunity to develop and interact as much as possible. Children need to be exposed to as many experiences as feasible, so that not only can they learn and develop, but they can have their main carers/parents support. This will allow a child to learn to deal with different situations.

While children are influenced by many things, there are no stronger influences than that of their parents. Parents are usually their children’s first playmates, and while there world expands with each passing year, parental influence is still one of the greatest factors in determining the ways in which the child will grow and develop.

All children are not raised the same exact way. There are many different parenting styles, ranging from authoritative to neglectful parenting. Along with those many different styles also come many different opinions on which ones are better or worse for children. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell is a book that essentially looks into many factors that contribute to people's successes. In chapter four, Gladwell writes about how different parenting philosophies impact how successful the children will be when they are older. Gladwell claims that there are essentially only two main parenting philosophies, “concerted cultivation” and “accomplishment of natural growth” (Gladwell 104). Gladwell goes on to also claim that between those two parenting philosophies, children raised from concerted

Children must be allowed to grow and mature at their own natural pace. The old saying ‘kids must be kids’ is based on this basic need. Dr. Sigel of the Educational Testing Service in Princeton, New Jersey says “Denying, or at least not recognizing, the child’s active outreaching curiosity has negative consequences.” (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). When hothousing a child occurs parents run the risk of the children having what is known as achievement anxiety. This is when a child “come(s) to believe they are valued for what they memorize or produce or achieve”. (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). It appears that there is more evidence that supports the belief that ‘mother knows best’. Meaning, children belong in the care of their mothers, at home, where they can be allowed to play, daydream, and explore their environments.

A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

By the time children are two the relationship starts to change as parents start to educate children, guide them in the right direction and also start to discipline them. Parents think about their capability of setting limits for their children and start to implement rules, while providing enough freedom for their children to grow and develop.

As the child gets older i.e. around two years old the relationship as parents begins to change they start educating their children through discipline etc. When setting boundaries for discipline rules are implemented. The rules provide children with the freedom to express themselves within certain boundaries enabling them to learn and develop effectively.

Children model their own behaviour on others and if adults can effectively communicate and exchange age or developmental appropriate information with children this can encourage them to behave in acceptable ways. Frustration at their own inability to communicate effectively can lead to behavioural problems.

Then her mother which is Chilam’s grandmother said “I know why you are going.” “I was there, you just didn’t notice me.” “Let me come with you.” said Chilam’s grandmother “No” said the mom “Please, can I worried about my granddaughter?” grandmother said to Chilam’s mother “Sorry I just don’t want everybody to know that whatever is happening to her is happening” mom said “Where is grandma going mom?” older daughter questioned “She is coming with me to also get water just in case we don’t have enough for the family” said mom. Mom and grandmother went to see what was wrong but to find out they went to god. By doing this they went to a place where the NA’s used to go to talk to god but they do not go there anymore but, mom and grandma went to talk to god about her daughter. “God pleeease tell me what is wrong with my little girl” mom said with tears coming down her face like a non stopping waterfalls It took a moment then he started to speak to them “My children the last child that you hath beareth unto is special.” “All of my children is special but Chilam is very special” “ In her future I may see her saving the day.” “I don’t know how yet but she will suprise you a everyone” god

Parenting a child from infant to the adult stage is a full-time responsibility that every parent takes on. The type of style used to socialize their children to conform adequately to the expected standards of conduct to function successfully in their society is the option that is decided by each parent. Since there are different ways of parenting a child, it is the parent’s responsibility to ensure that the child’s behavior is sufficient to live in society let alone act compliant in it as well. It is interesting to observe the different methods that a variety of parents demonstrate in order to make sure that the children of that society will be considered ‘acceptable’ by the environment itself and of course by the parenting

There are many different parenting styles all over the world. Some parents may stay at home, while some work; some may be strict and have their children on an all organic diet and limited T.V time, while others might buy fast food every other night and let their kids run wild with imagination. Many mothers and fathers have different parenting styles and goals; but where do these underlying thoughts and actions come from? Sigmund Freud, a psychologist whose main work was dealing with psychoanalysis from the late 1800s to the early 1900s, would say it was from somewhere deep within the unconsciousness of these moms and dads. According to Freud (1915) the unconscious mind is the primary source of human behavior like an iceberg the most important part of your mind is the part you cannot see (Para 3). Meaning the unconscious part of your mind is the most important because it’s almost as if you do things unwillingly without knowing. The underlining emotions are the most important. I believe, parenting styles, actions, and goals, are all the unconscious mind of parents wanting to be better than their own mother and father; or imitating the same habits they have grew up with throughout their childhood.

I believe that next thing any parent must not forget about is trust. Being consistent with your child is of paramount importance because that's how trust is supported. Being consistent is not changing the rules half way through the game. Being consistent is not promising rewards that kids will never see. Being consistent is not threatening punishment without carrying it through. From the very first day on Earth children put trust in their parents and it must not be betrayed because once it is, once children find out they have been lied to, you will have to literally put yourself out to win it back.

Children are the future of the world and need to be nurtured and educated in the best conditions. Thus, parenting is one of the most challenging and admirable responsibilities that people can experience. Parenting plays important roles in the development of children’s characteristics. Some people nurture children depending on their own ways. Others get advice from friends or books. Parenting can be divided into three groups: authoritative, permissive, and democratic parenting.