Arranged Marriage Arranged marriage is found in various cultures and countries around the world, including Afghanistan and other parts of the Middle East; having an arranged marriage is thought of as an Afghani tradition and has been a part of life for many families. The practice of arranged marriage has advantages and disadvantages; it can create more family power and give more financial security. Sadly being forced into a marriage can disrupt the independence of the engaged, most women stop their education when they become engaged resulting in many women being illiterate. This makes it impossible for them to be successful without depending on their husbands. Arranged marriage is found in many cultures throughout the modern world, though in a lot of cases it results in a happy family it can also be very limiting on women and often girls are married before they can give consent.
Afghanistan is one of the many countries around the world that participate in the practice of arranged marriage. There are economical
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Her parents were a product of arranged marriage and when they were together they had a fully functional and loving family. In the beginning of her memoir she shares a story about how her mother and father came to be. It was Farah’s grandmother that started it all, she searched everywhere for a women that lived up to her standards. When she finally found a girl that she deemed worthy of her son's hand she set up the wedding with the future in-laws. Though it was tradition to have the couple see each other for the first time at the wedding the two got to know each other in the months leading up to the celebration. Farah doesn’t have any doubts about her parents love for eachother and before the tragic events that sent Farah and her mother to America their family life in Afghanistan was as happy as any western
Farah Ahmedi was a girl who was desperate to escape her war-torn country of Afghanistan by crossing the border into Pakistan. Annie Johnson was a fierce woman who wanted to support her family by starting an intricate business that cooks meals for factory workers. The next mission missionary was Theodore Boone who was a 13 year old boy who wanted to prevent a bypass from being built through homes and farms, but not until his friend's farm was in the danger zone. However, all three wanted to help, whether it was them self or others.
Farah Ahmedi was a girl who was trying to escape her war-torn country of Afghanistan by crossing the border into Pakistan. Annie Johnson was a woman who wanted to support her family by starting a business that cooks meals for factory workers. Theodore Boone was a 13 year old boy who wanted to stop a bypass from being built through homes and farms, including his friend's farm. However, all three wanted to help, whether it was them self or others.
Nobody fully understands what drives people to undertake a mission, but it often causes people to take many risks. For example, Farah Ahmedi climbed a mountain on a prosthetic leg with a sick mother just to reach freedom. Rikki-Tikki fought for his life to save his family. John Steinbeck eavesdropped on people's conversations just to get material for his book. These stories show different people who had each set a goal for themselves. Ahmedi and Rikki-Tikki fought for their lives to survive and save their loved ones. While Steinbeck traveled to great lengths to write his book. Their goals may be different but they all had set a goal and they all eventually accomplished their goal.
There are many reasons why people take risks even though it is crazy and impossible. For example, in the memoir, “The Other Side of the Sky”, it shows that Farah Ahmedi is climbing a mountain with a prosthetic leg. In the fictional story, “Rikki-tikki-tavi”, in this story the mongoose, Rikki-tikki-tavi takes the risk of going into a snake 's burrow which has a high possibility that he will be killed. In the poem, “The Song of Wandering Aengus”, Aengus goes on a crazy mission that might take his whole life to accomplish which is to find the “glimmering girl” because he is in love with that girl. Aengus wanted to find the “glimmering girl” that he in love with, while Rikki-tikki-tavi and Farah Ahmedi wanted
Also, this type of marriage is chosen because of social status. A rich family will want their heir to marry into a family that is worth their status. And lastly, very religious and cultural son and daughters will just agree to an arranged marriage because of the way they have been brought up since childhood and they know that they will not have to worry about their parents of not approving or rejecting of their choice of spouse.
Have you ever been motivated to take on a mission? Even if it’s in a sport like when you are motivated to score a goal to win the game. Have you ever asked yourself what motivates us to take on a Mission? If so, what are your ideas? What motivates people to undertake a mission is family, survival, money, achievement, and many other reasons that motivate people to undertake missions. Some stories that back up this claim are “The Other Side Of The Sky” by Farah Ahmedi, “Barrio Boy” by Ernesto Galarza, and “New Directions” by Maya Angelou. These stories are examples of somebody who was motivated to undertake a mission.
Half the Sky written by Nicholas D. Kristoff and Sheryl WuDunn is a novel that in dept depicts some of the horrific cases of the oppression of women and girls in developing countries.The novel takes you through Africa and Asia, with detailed accounts of how so many women have been treated poorly simply because of their status and sex. Not only does the novel give you shocking and almost surprising information that most people in more developed countries don’t know, because they are sheltered by their countries ways; It shows the light at the end of the tunnel, that women can rise from this status of oppression, that by being educated, by speaking up and giving ourselves a voice, we can overcome these barriers and achieve greatness, no matter where we are or the troubles we face along the way. The excerpt that I chose is a brief
Life without technology. Life without safety. Life without couches. In America we have it all. No worries, no stress, no fear.
In Claudia Kolker’s book The Immigrant Advantage, she talks about the cultural tradition of arranged marriages brought by South Asian immigrants to the United States. Kolker agrues that arranged marriages are much more effective in finding a spouse than traditional marriages. Kolker believes that this tradition of assistive marriage should be adopted by Americans. Research and studies have shown that “women in arranged marriages rated the highest marital status” (Kolker, 71) compared to couples who have arranged marriages. Arranged marriage is great for individuals who are ready to settle down and start their own life without wasting any time finding a partner. Arranged marriage saves a great amount of time on dating people who are not compatible with your personality or beliefs. As Kolker states, assistive marriage does not just save time in finding a lifelong partner but, it also leads to exceptional happiness between the couple than a traditional marriage reported by couples during studies. Traditions brought by immigrants such as, assistive marriage should be considered by American traditions.
What drives you to pursue your dreams, goals, and your future? Farah Ahmedi and her mother constantly went all around the place while trying to find ways to begin a better life in Pakistan. Annie Johnson went out of her way, made a plan, and got to work for her children, so they could begin a better life than how it began. Rikki-Tikki-Tavi did his absolute best to do what was best for the sake and survival of his family and his friends. Individuals are driven to undertake/pursue missions for family and friends, children, and to begin a better life. They want to carve their own path and not follow the path that others believe they’ll eventually end up on. Just as it states in the story, The Other Side of the Sky, it says, ”We sustained
Arranged Marriages have been around since time can remember. An arranged marriage is a marital union between a man and a woman who were selected to be wedded together by a third party. Historically, arrange marriages were the main way to marry. In certain parts of the world, it is still the primary approach. There are two types of arrange marriages. The first is a traditional marriage where the children can, with strong objections, refuse to marry their soon to be spouse. In a forced marriage, the children have no say in the matter. Bread Givers shows an excellent representation of the pressures on children from their parents to be married against their will.
From the perspective of a Utilitarian, one would argue that arranged marriage is both ethical and unethical. A utilitarian decides whether an action is good or bad based on the results that bring the greatest good to the greatest number of people affected by the action. The so called good can be defined as “happiness.” In India, places where arranged marriage are very common because it is part of their culture. Therefore in a Utilitarian eyes it would be ethical to get married if it were part of your culture and geographical location because betraying your culture would do more harm and some forms of happiness are superior to others. Many couples find themselves to be part of happy marriages like we saw in the article What It’s Really Like To Have An Arranged Marriage. Sandaya, the bride, who lived in India had an arranged marriage set by her parents. She felt honored to have done this for her family and knew it was a
Within Afghanistan, parents organize marriages between their daughter and her future spouse before the relationship between the couple has formed. The two types of arranged marriages consist of traditional marriage and forced marriage . In a traditional marriage the parents choose their daughter’s spouse and she can deny or accept her future husband. In a forced marriage, the parents pick their daughter’s spouse and do not let her have any say at all in whom they chose. Some main factors the parents consider for arranged marriages include reputation, vocation, wealth, appearance, and values.
Do arranged marriages violate human rights as they are protected by international humanitarian law? Marriage is a vital part of the social and economic life of a person’s life. It forms the foundation for a continued family line, and the backdrop for raising children. In most societies, marriage is an important relation both between the two people and between the person and the society, and there are many rituals and traditions tied to the marriage. In many parts of the world, arranged marriages are still common, and are the expected and accepted way to find someone to share a lifetime with.
The initial major cause of divorce in arranged marriages is forced marriage. When both sides get married unwillingly, a lifelong struggle will begin to adapt with the undesired reality. The Saudi Gazette newspaper stated that a lot of women are still forced into their marriages by their families (“Saudi Arabia Forced and Arranged Marriages”, 2003). Especially in Saudi Arabia, marriage is viewed through a religious perspective and it is based on the Islamic laws. Generally, marriage