The Pain of Rejection Essay

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The human heart is a fragile thing. It desires unconditional, unlimited love and to be loved for who it is, not what it can be made into. However accompanying the search for this love is a great risk, the risk of rejection. The chance that the one chosen to love and who's love is desired will not reciprocate those feelings. If they do return your affection, there is always the chance they may change their mind later on. A breakup then ensues. Breakups are common things in our world today. Everyone knows someone who just went through a breakup or divorce and many occur in the not so pleasant way of denial. Most people know that this breakup is hard on the emotions and will respond with the gift of sympathy and maybe some chocolate ice …show more content…
They could easily remember all the details of the past relationship. The operating scientists used those recent memories to their advantage. Dell'Amore explains “While in an MRI machine, the subjects were asked to look at photographs of their ex-partners and think about being rejected.” (Dell'Amore, 2011) This of course was painful for the subjects but necessary to achieve the goal of the experiment. With these thoughts and memories, the MRI can detect which parts of the brain are active. The results of the experiment are rather surprising. “... the parts of their brains that manage physical pain—the secondary somatosensory cortex and the dorsal posterior insula, to be exact—lighted up, according to the study.” (Dell'Amore, 2011) These results were unexpected because of several reasons. When one thinks of a rejection, it isn't physical pain that comes to mind. Anger, sadness and worry are much more common expectations. “Yet the results are striking, Smith said, especially because the team analyzed 150 other brain-scan experiments on negative emotions—fear, anxiety, anger, sadness—and found that none of these emotionally painful experiences activate the brain's physical sensory areas in the same way as an undesired breakup.” (Dell'Amore, 2011) This makes physical pain after a breakup understandable. Those rejected really do feel
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