The People In Sue Monk Kidd's 'The Secret Life Of Bees'

Ray was Lily’s abusive father that does not care about Lily’s clothing, sleepovers, or even football games (8). (SS) When Lily calls T. Ray and he cannot answer a simple question about her, she tries to convince herself that it does not matter by telling herself, “Don’t cry. Don’t you dare cry. So what if he doesn’t know the color you love best? So what?” (160). (SS) Lily has the idea that she is “unlovable” and wonders “who could love her” (242). (SS) But little does Lily know that a very significant figure will come into her life and will show Lily what being loved by a “family” member feels like. (PS) August Boatwright, an African American beekeeper, shows Lily her empathetic heart right when Lily walks through her door. (SS) When Lily comes to the Boatwright household seeking for a place to stay, August opens up her home to Lily, exclaiming, “Well, you can stay here till you figure out what to do. We can’t have you living on the side of the road” (72). (SS) August could have turned Lily away and told her to find another place to stay, but she graciously opens up her home to Lily. (SS) In the same way, when Lily faints of embarrassment during a Daughters of Mary gathering, August acts as if it is her fault by telling Lily, “I should’ve turned on the fans in

The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd is a book discussing the internal strife of a young white girl, in a very racist 1960’s south. The main character, Lily Owens, faces many problems she must overcome, including her personal dilemma of killing her own mother in an accident. Sue Monk Kidd accurately displays the irrationality of racism in the South during mid- 1960's not only by using beautiful language, but very thoroughly developed plot and character development. Kidd shows the irrationality of racism through the characters in her book, The Secret Life of Bees and shows that even during that time period, some unique people, were able to see beyond the heavy curtain of racism that separated people from each

Once Lily accepts what she has done and learns that her mother's death did not make her a bad person, her conflict can finally be resolved. As a result of resolving her conflict, she is able to mature because of the struggle, just like other people are able to grow and evolve from their own mistakes. This is evident when she admits "Before coming here, my whole life had been nothing but a hole where my mother should have been, and this hole had made me different, left me always aching for something, but never once did I think what he'd lost or how it might've changed him" (Kidd 293). Lily finally realizes that her mother's death has not only affected her, but also her father, T. Ray, and the calendar sisters. Through the course of Lily's struggle, Lily learns a lot about life and matures into a wiser

Lily starts off stuck living in an unloving, abusive household and decides to free herself from the negative atmosphere that she had been living in her whole life. Lily is perpetually abused by her father. He forces her to kneel on Martha White's, gets exasperated every time she speaks, and yells at her for no reason. Lily is not the only one noticing the terrible treatment, Rosaleen does too. Once after Lily had to kneel on the Martha White's Rosaleen said to her, “Look at you, child. Look what he’s done to you” (Kidd 25). Noticing the unloving treatment Lily gets, Rosaleen knew that their household was demoralizing place for Lily to be in, which is why she didn’t question when Lily when she later runs away. Lily one day realizes she needs to do something about her horrible life at home. While sitting in her room she hears a voice in her

T.Ray is shown for once caring about somebody other than his dog and this is also a realization to the main character. Kidd chooses very specific words in this passage such as awe and quivered to describe his body language very specifically creating a vivid image of what he looks like after this thought and shows that he has changed from his malevolent temper to a melancholy state where he reflects on everything he knows. Kidd explicitly states this through Lily by saying, “He looked away, toward the window, like he was contemplating the road that led her here,” (Kidd 295) On it's surface this is referring to Lily and how she got to where he is, however, this also is referring to Deborah, T.Ray’s deceased wife, and how she got there when she ran away from them. T.Ray still feels a powerful burning pain in his heart from this abandonment.

When a parent dies, any child will cling to the other parent for emotional support and comfort for dealing with such a loss. In Lily’s case, she wanted her fathers support more than anything but he was cold, abusive, and stuck in the past, that he wasn’t able to give her anything except for take his anger out on her, when she disobeyed him. Although if someone does not get that support from the other parent, and if someone else is there that is understanding and kind, its amazing to see how much you can start to really rely on them and grow a close relationship. When Lily deals with the loss of her mother and the poor treatment of her father, she doesn’t know what to do with herself, she has a load of all different kind of emotions, and it really harms her well-being. Lily deals with guilt because she has visuals that she was the one that killed her mother, and on top of that she has her father telling her that her mother left her and she just abandoned her, making Lily feel unimportant and then at the same time guilt. Rosaleen is the closest role model that Lily has for a mother, Rosaleen cares and sticks up for Lily but Lily doesn’t really have the mother-daughter connection with her. Although Rosaleen provides comfort for Lily, she helps her with her father and in return Lily defends Rosaleen as well as save her life from the hospital after she got beaten.

Lily’s first meeting with the black Mary occurs when she meets the Boatwright sisters: August, June, and May. At that moment Lily feels the nurturing of a mother and a deluge of emotions rain down on her. She could feel all sides of her, favorable and detrimental because “that’s what the black Mary did to me, made me feel my glory and my shame at the same time,” (Kidd 71). Lily, for being barely an adolescent, at first is not capable of grasping the concept of people being both angelic and corrupt. At the beginning of the story she sees T. Ray as the human embodiment of evil. Counter to her initial beliefs, Lily learns that people are not as simple as she wants them to be. This is largely the result of the mothering force of August, which is a more physical representation of what the black Mary embodies. The black Mary illustrates Lily starting to see the world from a multidimensional perspective. In the same manner as the black Mary representing a mother for Lily, she represents a mother-like figure to all the Daughters of Mary. While the other Daughters may not have been missing mothers, the black Mary creates a family-like binding between them, keeping them together throughout even them most poignant times. The black Mary is a mother to all and all Lily wants in the Boatwright house is to be seen as one of them. Ultimately, “they didn’t even think of me being different,” (Kidd 209). This acceptance

The theme that appears a lot is how much family means, even if it is chosen. In every family if the person has siblings, there is always sibling rivalry. June and Lily have this same kind of relationship. In Lily’s everyday life, the readers can infer that June is like the antagonist in the book for the reason that they are always bickering. June is annoyed that Lily is living with them because of the

T. Ray had not stopped at tearing her down physically, for he had the strong desire to hack away at what is left of her mental state. By painting such a scarring image of Deborah next to the one Lily made with optimism and fondness, T. Ray’s mirage overshadowed Lily’s impression. This causes her to leave him and start a new chapter in her life. T. Ray’s bestial actions were crucial reasons that influenced Lily’s decision to leave her father and begin her pathway through the perplexing road of her mother’s life.

T.Ray was always mean to Lily and the only person Lily could run and cry to was Rosaleen her nanny, All Lily wanted was for her father to love her and act like a father to her. Lily didn’t ask for all of his abuse and punishments. The reason T.Ray was always mean and punishing her because she accidently killed her own mother and T.Ray was madly in love with Deborah and married her before Deborah found out she was having a baby. He became really bitter because he lost his wife.

This quote shows that… EXPLANATION. Furthermore, this shows that throughout this book August Boatwright represents the best motherly figure. August exhibits multiple motherly traits such as caring for Lily, being a mentor for Lily, and always accepting Lily for who she is.

Ray was stuck raising Lily. It pained him to see her every day. She looked exactly like Deborah, and was also responsible for the death of her. Later on in the book, T. Ray found Lily after she ran away, seeing her and where she was living reminded him of Deborah’s abandonment. He cracked and started beating Lily calling her Deborah, because they looked so similar, saying how she should have never left him. “He stood over me. ‘Deborah,’ I heard him mumble. ‘You’re not leaving me again.’ His eyes looked frantic, scared” (Kidd,294). T. Ray was already broken when Deborah left him, but then he was forced to be reminded by her every day when he looked at Lily and when the same situation happened again, he pictured Lily as his wife and he took his anger and sadness that he felt towards Deborah out on Lily. He eventually realized what he has done and believes that Lily is better off without him. He lets her stay with the Boatwrights as one last

Even when T. Ray confronts Lily, August’s tone is quiet and she does not yell at him or make threats to him (Kidd 297). August is the matron of her little family, and she does so without being criticizing, demanding, or upset. The lesson we can learn from that is that you do not have to yell and scream and demand to be someone powerful and looked up

Lily comes to know three incredible women called the Boatwrights. Their names are August, June, and May. Lily became closest to August although she was close to May and June, also. Lily felt as though August had a comforting and consoling way about her. August once told Lily “Actually, you can be bad at something...but if you love doing it, that will be enough.” (Kidd 111). Her motivational life advice helped to guide Lily. Furthermore, August had to be the one to tell Lily that they had lost May; May had killed herself. Lily did not take the news so well. Lily claimed she had started to “shiver…[she] could feel the teeth in [her] mout, crashing against each other.” (Kidd 193).

Throughout the first half of the book, T Ray is indirectly characterized as an abusive parent. At many points of the story, Lily describes his actions to the reader or wishes for a loving father. To start things off, page 162 recounts when Lily made a card for her father for father’s day. She spent all night to make it perfect, just to find it under the remains of a peach, seemingly regarded as trash by her father. This particular event shows he does not overly care about her or the time she spends trying to get him to love her. Next up, the Martha Whites punishment, where the receiver if forced to kneel on grits that feel like glass shards, is the main punishment he delivers upon Lily. Even in the first chapter, she allows the reader to know