Tiffany Carlos
Mr. Baker
Communication 2
4 Nov. 2013
The Principles of Power and Conflict in Relationships As relationships are formed we establish power dominances in any kind of relationship such as friendship, love, family, and in the workplace. I believe that the roles of who has power are changing in every type of relationship. Change might be welcome but as roles are changing not all support changes in the relationships such as in the workplace, and family. The principle of power comes in play most of the time in a workplace enlivenment. Since there are different types of relationship there are different role, rules, and characteristics in every relationship. Characteristics in relationships such as a relationship of love,
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Although there are many theories of love, the conceptualization that captured attention of interpersonal researchers and continues to receive research support is a model proposing that there are not one but six types of love (Lee, 1976; Kanemasa, Taniguchi, Daibo & Ishimori, 2004). Eros: beauty and sexuality, like narcissus that fell in love with the beauty of his own image, the erotic lover focuses on beauty and physical attractiveness. Ludus: entertainment and excitement, love is experienced as a game, as fun. Storage: peaceful and slow, lacks passion and intensity. Pragma: practical and traditional, practical and seeks a relationship that will work. Mania: elation and depression, characterized by extreme highs and extreme lows. Agape: compassionate and selfless, egoless, self-giving love. Depending on which one is the type of love relationship you have you can have the power in the relationship. The type of love relationship we have can be influenced by culture, gender, and technology. Depending in what culture you were raised in may highly impact on what type of love relationship you have. For example the French scored higher on agape compassionate and selfless, egoless, self-giving love (Murstein, Merighi, & Vyse, 1991). United States scored higher on storage and mania than the French, peaceful, slow, elation and depression. Gender also influences love relationships. The difference between men and women are
In the movie Casablanca, directed by Michael Curtiz, two different kinds of love are exposed. The love relationship between Ilsa Lund and Rick is a more passionate relationship while the one between Ilsa and Victor Laszlo is more intimate. Love is composed of different feelings and because of that it can be expressed, as seen in Casablanca, in different ways. “The Intimate Relationship Mind”, a text by Garth J. O. Fletcher and Megan Stenswick, helps support that claim providing a scientific background on how love is shaped by those different feelings. It says that “love is composed of three distinct and basic components that each represent evolved adaptations; namely, intimacy, commitment,
When observing people in Walmart, I discovered that when watching pairs or trios of people the person who carries the most power did change throughout the groups. In pairs where they seemed to be a couple, the power shifted when observing different couples. In some couples, the man appeared to have more power of the woman, I was not surprised by this because of relationship and gender roles. In one relationship, the man was pushing the cart and did pay for their items, so in my opinion because he was spending his money, (or maybe they had a shared bank account and he just used his card) he had showed more power in his role. This shows referent power because the couple have a connection that they value and in their relationship, they respect and trust each other which allows an understanding of who and when one of them has certain power over the other. In another couple, the woman showed more power, she was pushing the cart and telling him what they needed or what each of them wanted. The man still paid for this cartful as well, but it seemed as if he was just being kind and he let her have control in this instance at least. I think in this example, the woman was showing referent power, they were in a relationship because they like
What is love? Love is can be consider as emotion or feeling to pleasure or affection. Sometimes people choose our own partner or chosen by our family. Love can be also conducted by destiny, when both peers don’t know why they attracted to one another. When a person loves someone just for a day, or not feeling that they will be together forever, we can consider it as a lust. Love stories are dominant in our generation as people might have experienced different kinds of love in their lives. In Love in time of Cholera, “Why I Live at the PO” and “A Rose for Emily” are the example of love stories, which the flow of the story is about the protagonist’s problems. Lust can be considers as the main reason of conflict in most relationship. Love is complicated and comes in differente forms, can be chosen, destine or lust. Sometimes, loves can create conflict with everyone.
Love is a powerful emotion that every human being has experience at least once in their life. There are numerous connotations that refer to this emotion, but there is only one kind of love that can make a person change completely in unexpected ways. It is the kind of love that consumes the soul and everything within. Mixed with excitement, adventure, heartbreak, happiness and joy; it is a big ball of feelings, all concentrated in one simple, yet extremely complicated necessity to have, protect, please and give all of oneself to that one person. In certain occasions, love can grow very intense and, consequently,
Love is said to be the greatest human experience in which mankind are privilege to partake in. To love can be a wondrous experience filling life with bliss and other strong emotions. Some people believe to love is to be alive and be able to see the good in the world and others. The purpose of this paper is to examine and find a better understanding of what is love, to explore what people believe love to be, and what lies surround the perception of love and to explore and expose what the meaning true love is or at the very least the authors understanding of the perception of love. In addition to exploring the concept, deception and the truth of love,
In addition to power established because of organizational hierarchy or role, power is also established based on the level of influence or status one holds in an organization (Anichich, Fast, Halevy, Galinsky, 2016). “Status is the outcome of an evaluation of attributes that produce differences in respect and prominence” (Ketner et al, 2003 p. 266) They co-exists but are not co-dependent on each other. It’s possible to have status without power and power without status (Ketner et al, 2003). Whether one’s control comes through status or positional power, lauding control or significant influence over another inevitably leads to conflict.
One of the most complicated experiences in life, love cannot be precisely defined, but some basic indications help to characterize the feeling. Love is a very deep, passionate affection one person has for another or a relationship of the same nature that implies a unique intensity of emotion. It requires an especially strong connection and compatibility between two people, usually identified by a total understanding and respect for each other and a fundamental similarity in ideology. Love can also be seen in the way it alters people’s normal behavior; when someone is in love, the object of their affection seems like the most important thing in the world, and they do extreme things for that feeling to be requited. Love cannot easily be
Love exists in the short story “The Bear Came Over the Mountain” by Alice Munro and in the short story “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” by Raymond Carver. in Munro’s short story the plot is that of a mentally ill wife, Fiona, who falls in love with another patient while her husband still tries to hang on to their old love. Her husband eventually wants to have an affair with the wife of the man his wife is having an affair with. Their love changed because of their circumstances due to ill health. Carver’s story discusses the different definitions of love due to the type and quality of relationships; everyone has a different definition. Love also exists all over the world within different environments and cultures. The concept of love depends upon the environment in which it inhabits. Love is dependent on the life of the people in love and it also depends on their current environment. Nature and nurture are also huge factors into the development and process of love. What nature and nurture mean is whether it is due to how the person lives and acts along with their personality compared to whether it’s all in their genetics beforehand. Love is more on the nurture side instead of the nature side of human experience.
Power and conflicts in a relationship, what are they and how do the affect one’s relationship? “Power and conflict both shape communication patterns and decision making, it’s the power to make decisions often through the influences and dynamics in one marriage or relationships” (Jones, ASID, IIDA, IDEC, and Phyllis Sloan Allen, 2009, pg. 282). It’s a way to oblige to others request within their relationship in order to feel superior over the other. Power is a very powerful tool in a relationship which includes love, it’s not just having the power over finances security; it’s being totally committed and eager to fulfill an everlasting relationship with the one you admire. However, it’s a two-way street that both partners need to be actively
Nor can effective use of power be reduced to wise control of our personal powers, though that may be a good start. Social power, including our own, is concentrated, channelled, and distributed by the culture and structure of our families, communities, organizations, countries, etc. Personal power is limited or extended by such cultures and structures.
It takes two people at minimum to form a conversation, start a relationship romantic or not, and it takes one person in that relationship to form power over the other one. Power is given off differently whether the other person has expertise, or past experiences in that specific situation.Control is in every relationship whether it is known to both people or not,I have experienced this first hand in every relationship I have encountered and some of them I have established that I held the power role.
The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.
When one looks at romantic love, one would conclude that it is a social dyad that brings about certain responsibilities between two people in a relationship such as honesty, protection, openness and expressions of love. (William, 2008: 76). Contrasting with
Love is a powerful feeling; it makes you do crazy thing. Many people spend years trying to find it, others give up thinking they’ll never find it. Love has been defined as an intensive feeling of a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. Of course, Love doesn 't have to romantic and/or sexual. People who are ace, as in asexual, aromantic and agender, can still be in relationships that are satisfying for them without the needs of a romantic relationship. Familial love is also non-romantic-sexual. However, in this paper, we will be talking about romantic-sexual love, what it is, and why I believe it’s so important to understand and experience.
When discussing love, people generally think about the love between a husband and wife, or the love between a couple in a romantic partnership, and that is one type of love that I will be discussing. In addition to romantic love, there are other types of love also. There is the love we have for our children, our families, and also the love that we have for our friends. All of these types of love share some of the same attributes, however, they have differences also. In reading and researching different types of love, I have found that romantic love and friendship seem to be the most similar in nature, although they have differences, they share a lot of the same attributes. I found that friendship and romantic love tend to have more similarities than differences. In this paper I will examine romantic love and friendship. I will discuss the definitions of the two, and what elements each of these have. I will discuss the different theories of love, and I will compare and contrast the similarities and differences between romantic love and friendship.