Jack McGrath
Mrs. Groninger
AP Language Period 2
9 November, 2015
No Complaints Here For the past thirty days, I have attempted to completely stop complaining. This was very challenging for me, as I am notorious for complaining about school, waking up, and just about anything that could cause the slightest discomfort. Unexpectedly, I did exceptional in this challenge, catching myself before I would start to go on a rant. After the first week, I began to notice that it had become easier to let my annoyances go and get past them without wasting fifteen to twenty minutes in misery, dreading my task. But, there were some times throughout the thirty days where some complaints slipped out of my mouth without me realizing until five minutes
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So what should we do, keep them to ourselves? Not necessarily; “Psychologically, it’s really unhealthy to squelch complaints,” said author and psychologist, Guy Winch, “By not complaining aloud, it doesn’t mean the dissatisfaction has gone away. You’re just not voicing it.” Throughout the challenge, I noticed that the complaint grew progressively worse if I kept it in my head, rather than venting to others. This is because you don’t feel the release of the stress hormones, and the thought lingers in your mind until you let it out.
By the second week of the challenge, I was starting to become accustomed to not complaining. But, I started to notice that if I was around people who often complained I would feel the urge to complain much stronger. A recent study by Murray Munro, a Linguistics professor at Simon Fraser University, shows that second-hand complaining was even more harmful to the individuals than their own self-generated whining (Osgood). This shows how if you are around people with negative energy, you will often be motivated to complain as well. Of course, being around other complainers isn’t the only way to feel the urge to gripe, we’re all human; we experience stress on a daily basis. According to Statistic Brain Research Institute, 73% of Americans regularly experience psychological symptoms caused by stress, and 50% experience anger or irritability while stressed. At first, how do you
In the society we live today we surround ourselves with positivity and negativity. The stuff that is happening today are they getting better or worse? Based on the article “Taking a ‘War of Words’ Too Literally”, by Deborah Tannen, she defines the new norm of our society “the argument culture”. Tannen discusses her experiences and states that we are more confrontational and less open to others.
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In reading "Mistakes were Made but Not by me," multiple accounts are given of traits exhibited by humans that are displayed subconsciously. The authors, Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, begin by defining these traits and give readers the actual terminology to these characteristics. With various examples being provided to the reading audience they are then able to make a clear correlation between the behaviors displayed and how they may impact not only themselves but others around them. "Mistakes were Made but Not by me" has a theme which is centralized around the two key facets which are cognitive dissonance and self- justification.
There are many situations where someone could become stressed, but there are also different things a person could do when they become stressed. When someone is stressed, they may have different emotions depending on the level of stress they’re under. Some may become nervous, or frustrated. When under stress, some people may start to act differently, such as, getting weak-knees, or they may start to shake. Although many things can cause stress, there is also many ways to calm yourself down and carry on with what you were doing. To calm yourself down, you could either walk away from the situation, or you could count to 5 and take deep breathes. When you become stressed, there are many different ways to deal with your stress and many ways to stress can affect how you feel or act.
Possible ways your body feels when you are stressed you can feel angry, embarrassed, and sick to your stomach. These are common to lots of preteens and every kind of kid even those kids you see at the mall who don’t care what people think and dress how ever they want. An example is like say you get called up to the office or have to say a report you are feeling stressed your hands start sweating,and you get dizzy, you can’t breath, and you feel like you are gonna be sick. These are what kind of feelings you feel when you are STRESSED! How to deal with stress and peer pressure is just to laugh it off or just walk away and ignore everyone in the room find people that are friends to you and you can trust. These are the what you feel when you are stressed and ways to feel better when it happens to
We don’t complain enough. Is the simply and unique argument that Buckley is presenting in his essay. The purpose of this essay is to convince Americans that it’s time to start complaining. Instead of simply pushing aside the issues that are present to us on a daily bases Buckley wants us to confront them head on and to simply speak up. Instead of dealing with hot trains, an unfocused movie screen and long line that is caused from a supposedly lazy worker, we should speak up because we have the power to change the little problems. Buckley is afraid that if we continue to show apathy towards small problems then we will continue this
Attachment Theory Summary According to Birkenmaier, Berg-Weger, and Dewees (2014), Attachment Theory (A.T.) was proposed by John Bowlby who hypothesized that children and caregivers bond excessively during the primary months of a child’s life. (p.108) Birkenmaier, Berg-Weger, and Dewees further claims that the bonding or lack of bonding critically impacts the person's ability to attach and make meaningful relationships throughout life (p. 109). Furthermore, Bowlby asserts “children who form an attachment to an adult that is, an enduring and socio-emotional relationship are more likely to survive” (Kirst-Ashman and Zastrow, p. 147). Therefore, if a child’s attachment process is interrupted it can cause issues
Stress affects people in different ways and what one person finds stressful can be normal to another. With each new situation a person will decide what
While evaluating the idea that by thinking and speaking “I do” or “I do not”
Most studies support the association between discrepancies and negative mood” (2012). This explains why I would often get irate at the slightest remark that had no intent of offending. A prime example that comes to mind is my body image issues I had growing up. In high school, I had a poor self-concept, and it was linked to my obesity. I would always take an innocent remark as a personal attack. Today, I am no longer overweight and have gained more confidence in myself. However, I still find myself going back to my old ways occasionally, which is probably irritating for the person I am communicating with. I am going to better myself by rationally accessing the situation before jumping to any
There are many different reasons as to why individuals might be reluctant to raise concerns or complaints and some of these can be through fear. An example of this might be that if the concern or complaint is raised by a service user against a member of staff then this might have an impact on their treatment and care and individuals then may be worried and reluctant to make a complaint through fear of reprisal.
If I learned that several people received a higher raise then me at my job, I would be extremely angry. Regardless of the amount, I would want an explanation. However I still have a job to do. I would complete the meeting with my client and try to calm my self down with positive self-talk. I would say things like, I know I better than this, don’t be angry, being angry is for the weak. For me just doing positive self talk is not enough for me when I am angry I would also have to squeeze a ball or do pushup. My favorite coping skill is to exercise, when I am finished exercising I am always to tired to be angry. In fact I would think hat it would be best for me to approach my supervisor another day. I think a more appropriate day would be on a Monday, when my supervisor is back from spending time with his family. Through my experience I have realized that if I want to have a effective conversation, having that conversation with someone on a Friday is not the best idea. Normally people are only focused on going home and being with their family on Fridays. I think that the least effective skill for me to use is journal writing because it just makes me even angrier that I am writing. I do not like to write or even type, but it is a necessity to studying in America so it something that I have to do but not want to do.
For example, we get stress from family, relationships, school-like having to give a speech in front of people, financial problems, and arguments, but for a lot of people, it’s WORK.
There may be many causes for increased stress levels, including perceived injustices or unfairness, lack of timely communication by management or fear of future changes.
Stress can affect all aspects of one's mind and body. Behaviorally, stress can cause anger, excessive crying, depression, apprehension, increased alcohol use, mood swings, and even suicide. It can cause problems physically as well. Anorexia, fatigue, trembling, loss of appetite, and headaches are just a few of the symptoms that overly stressed individuals may experience (Morrison 2).