The Problem Of Marital Counseling

The authors do not have any professional training on relationship counseling. They may, however, have personal experience through relationships of their own, but this is not made clear in the essay. With their strong defense of men in marriage, I do feel as if the authors are married, due to the way

* I don’t believe it is in the best interest of the original client (the husband) for the counselor to offer marriage counseling to the couple. The scenario does not address the training of the counselor in this field. If I were the counselor, I would continue to see the husband, dealing with his issues and refer the couple to a marriage counselor.

Some of them may not be very important, but a lot of the time the subconscious is trying to point the individual to the real problem. While in a committed relationship premarital counseling can help resolve many of the common issues that individuals face. The counselor can help point out the issues that are vital and find a practical strategy on how to deal with it.

Marriage and family therapists help clients always with the help of the person’s family. I too believe that a person in order to resolve mental or emotional disorders requires the support and understanding of those closest to them, and with the use and knowledge of family systems theory this can be achieved. I also think that communication or lack of, very often is the seed behind problems within the family, that is why I appreciate the fact that marriage

Approaches and/or Interventions Used: Provided Vara with a list of marriage counsellors around the area, and requested

Now that you have discovered the various degrees and licensing a therapist can have, it's time to look at the counseling itself. In some cases, marriage counseling is temporary in nature, lasting only as long as it takes a couple to work through and issue. Although the term "marriage counseling" is being used, marriage counseling can help couples of all types, whether they are married or not.

But it is not the traditional type of counseling that most couples do. They still attend a 'Couples Retreat' and the one that they go to has a 90 percent success rate with repairing marriages.

While I was glancing through the Marriage and family counseling association website, I came across the protection of electronic client information. It discusses how the electronic methods for communication, recordkeeping, est must be protected (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 2012).

Ellen McCarthy writes that most of the newlyweds she interviewed that were getting married for the second or third time around said that one error they made that led to divorce was “letting problems build or pushing them under the rug”(214). Avoidance may seem like the best way to “keep the peace”(109), but after a while the problems repress and do start to stack up, taking a toll on a person until they finally burst at a point of no return. This can be seen as a science. To provide an illustration of what this neglect can do, think of Adam Savage’s favorite thing to do on his show MythBusters; blow up hot water heaters. The water heater represents the person and the water inside correlates to the problems that are kept inside that person. Inside this water heater, due to months maybe even years of avoidance, there is 70 percent water inside leaving only 30 percent empty and problem free. The water starts to heat up as time goes on as the problems are stewed over and the water begins to expand. Unfortunately, being deeply invested in the relationship, the safeties on the water heater are disabled and so the pressure of keeping the relationship alive causes the water to heat past its boiling point. Due to this pressure, instead of actually boiling, the water keeps expanding until there is no empty space left. With water filling up, the heater fails to keep it contained and so it is released. The water doesn’t just pour out of the heater either, due to the high temperature it explodes. At this point, there’s not much you can do to fix that water heater, let alone the relationship. Avoidance doesn’t only hurt the person that is avoiding, it also hurts the partner, especially if they are in the role of the pursuer. Trying to talk to your partner just to be stonewalled or have the conversation drift off to something irrelevant can be

Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, this is a statistic many of us are familiar with. Although it is such a familiar statistic, I’m not sure many of us think about the severity of this figure. This means that one half of everyone who thinks they are marrying the love of their life and will be together forever is mistaken. Going through divorce can ruin individuals and families in the blink of an eye. This statistic is not just a statistic it’s heartbreaking. Think how heartbreaking that statistic would be if it were to increase. Think how high that statistic has the potential of being without marriage counseling. The correct type of marriage counseling has been proven affective for many couples all

From 09/2012 to 02/2013, exact date unknown, Subject and spouse went to seek the services of Lewis Franberry, a marital counselor at Clarity Clinic at 1000 State Street, Franklin, OH 45505, phone number unknown. The counseling treatment was voluntary in nature. Subject told her parents about the incident and counseling, but did not reveal the incident to her employer, the U.S. Department of Defense (DOD). She did not need to report the incident to her employer due to no law enforcement involvement and no legal action as a consequence.

According to Kreider and Fields (2002) the chances of divorce among first marriages ending in divorce 40-50%, and within a 40-year period divorce in first marriage ranges between 50-67% (Gottman & Levenson, 2002). As such, some couple seek marital therapy when things are not working as they hope or before it get breaking up. Tam and Lisa is a couple seeking professional guidance because they felt their marriage is drifting apart and they want to improve their marriage.

According to Robert Steinberg, a clinical psychologist is concerned with the “assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of psychological issues” (2010). Clinical psychologists are also health care providers where psychological health intersects with physical health at individual, community and societal levels (Steinberg, 2010). Clinical psychologists are also concerned with what motivates people’s behavior, thoughts and feelings. One of the largest parts of what they do is help understand context and the past of individuals and groups to better understand how people are shaped, as well as understand culture and how individuals exist in relationship to others (Steinberg, 2010). A couple would benefit from individual therapy with a clinical psychologist to work on their own psychological issue that stems from errors in thinking, problem behavior, or even interpersonal problems and decide on treatment goals

When a couple is experiencing a marital drift, one of the individuals may not even realize they are going through the drift. This could happen if the person is consumed with the reason for the drift in the first place. Sometimes a person does not realize that there is an issue in the marriage until it is brought to their attention by their partner. If one partner has a secondary emotional reaction, then they may try to deny or repress their emotions and feel they do not have a marital issue (Clinton, 2006). When this is the case, the person who is feeling left out or forgotten, has to make sure they address the issue with their partner, but should do this is in a way that does not make their partner feel attacked. Once a person feels attacked, they are going to get defensive and shut down

Premarital counselling helps partners improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict resolution skills. In addition, premarital counselling can help couples establish a positive attitude about seeking help with their marriages down the road.