The Problems Of Long Distance Relationships

The least they can do is try to continue their relationship with long distance. It has been reported that, “75% of college students at some point have been in a long distance relationship,” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). In addition, “25% to 50% of college students are in a long distance relationship at any given time” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). Couples that identify with the idea that there is no hurt in trying, find that it might not be so bad after all. Although abruptly severing ties is not the appropriate response to a grand separation to come, leaving one another with the idea that both parties are on the exact same page is not a wise path to take either. A couple does not just simply come to an unspoken consensus about what is expected of each other. It is important for them to sit down and “engage in open and honest communication about the separation and discuss what each wants from the relationship” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). At the end of the day, miles are temporary, yet relationships don't have to be.

I learned from this class that a long distance relationship should have theses four important values like observation, needs, feeling, and request. Since, most of the long distance relationships might not be able to meet frequently,so communication is one of the most significant thing for couples to sustaining their long distance relationships. Furthermore, even if the relationship is not a long distance one still it is very important what both of you value and would like to have a clear picture about the relationship.

Many individuals in the United States have family or friends living in different parts of the world. Beforehand, for one to keep in contact with those living outside of the United States, they had to either pay additional money to their cellular device carrier to be able to make international long-distance phone calls or go purchase minutes from companies such as Boss Revolution, Nopin, etc. But now, with social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, and Instagram, it’s easier to keep the long-distance relationship flowing. In Dunbar words, ““What Facebook does and why it’s been so successful in so many ways is it allows [one] to keep track of people who could otherwise effectively disappear”” (Konnikova 237). When one is able reconnect with another individual or reestablish their relationship they’re able to reconcile. There’s no need for people to spend money to keep in contact with an individual in another country no more, after all, social media is penniless.

But why do so many online relationships fail? In theory, a first date should be stressful and awkward no matter where two people met, whether on the subway or online. Some argue that while two people may have similar answers to an online survey, face-to-face compatibility is no guarantee. Once the initial excitement of liking someone new fades, there must be something else to build a relationship upon. While one-night stands with strangers may satisfy, it is no way to live in a world based on relationships.

Ansari refers to a study called “Geographic Proximity of Partners in 5,000 Marriages, Philadelphia, 1932,” which reveals that 51.94% of people who were married in this study lived within 20 blocks of one another before they began dating, (15). These numbers are just one example Ansari gives to prove his point on just how different dating was in past generations, as roughly half of all people were simply marrying someone within close proximity to them. And it goes deeper than basic proximity. According to C.L Harrington, “Those who monitor trends in marriage, divorce, and intimacy note that the ideal of love in America appears to be undergoing gradual but significant change, and the reasons for it are hard to grasp.” Nowadays, dating is not so easy. With cities becoming so large and the people becoming more specific to their dating preferences, Ansari argues that online dating is becoming more than just a last-ditch option.

Skype is a free program that allows the user to voice chat and as well as video chat with others anywhere with a reasonable internet connection. This is effortless communication that both sides can enjoy instead of living next to each other or traversing the great interstate to see a grandparent.After years of skyping, families decide to meet up and cherish the what could be their last moments together. Many people meet family members only to learn of their passing a few weeks later and to realize they could have shown a bit more love for the person. Cherish your moments, Distance should not be an issue, skype is there to chat not to meet up. The progressing age of cyberspace is changing our family connections and ties, but it should not change the how families look at the few moments that they get

Having a strong relationship with someone is only truly possible if they are close together because

What if he's your prince but you're not his Cinderella? What if's could make or break any relationship and it is quite sad that some people would really risk a relationship just to check if the grass is really greener on the other side. Some people would keep on playing with rocks when there is already a diamond right in front of them, but that is human nature we can't be contented.

Two clichés: Absence makes the heart grow fonder and Out of sight, out of mind. Which one of these two conflicting views is closer to the reality? As it turns out, it does not really matter that much since long distance relationships (LDR) suffer from exactly the same strengths and weaknesses as proximal relationships. Whether two people are going to have fulfilling relationship does not only depend on their geographical closeness. What matters is quality, not quantity. According to one expert on LDRs, "the majority of studies that have been done show no greater risk of an LDR breaking up than any other relationship (Guldner, 2004, p. 6)." An LDR relationship has the same likelihood of

People tend to stray away from long distance relationships because it’s difficult to stay together when you’re far apart. People can now strengthen their long distance relationship through social media. It is easier to stay connected and you can even talk to one another every day. Another example is with people you might not see every day. I still keep in good contact with my exchange partner from Germany using Facebook and WhatsApp. We haven’t seen each other for a whole year now and we still speak as if neither of us left each other’s

America is a country built upon the individual and has been ingrained in its history ever since the pilgrims first made their voyage. This concept has increasingly affected the success rate of long term relationships. Humans naturally put their well being before others, this creates “…a society dominated by individualistic understandings of human behavior that seek to explain problems and processes by focusing exclusively on the character, the psychology, or even the biochemistry of each person.”(Newman 2016 - page 92). By only addressing the psychological needs of an individual solutions and explanations are neglected. A human emotion everyone craves is love. In America, there is increasing pressure put upon its citizens to quickly and efficiently find a life

A recent magazine of Psychology Today focuses on the topic of relationships and how they survive long distance. The article is written by Theresa DiDonato and published 20 september 2016. DiDonato shares her research on the geographical separation of couples and encourages them to push through the struggle. The author writes that certain objective factors and subjective relationship judgments promote healthier long-distance relationships. Examples of theses factors being low psychological distress, distance, relationship certainty, having a positive attitude toward your relationship and communication. After stating the necessary components to maintain a long distance relationship DiDonato focuses

Social networking and other social technology allows for interactions to occur between friends and family regardless of their location. While people remain social through communicating at a constant rate, the essence of face-to-face interactions is in part affected. In romantic relationships, open and honest communication with one’s partner is critical to the trust and development of the relationship. Young adults use social technology such as the Internet and mobile phones on a daily basis to maintain their relationships. Due to the miscommunication that often occurs from not a lack of face-to-face interactions, social technology shapes the way romantic relationships function. Therefore, social technology impacts romantic relationships

According to psychologist James say, “Couple who met online are nearly 3 times as likely to get divorced as couple that met face to face”

[Long distance relationships are very risky, does not mean it is impossible. Simple change of your lifestyle and attitude can help you to have a happy ever after. In fact, the biggest challenge for couples is less chances to see each other. To strengthen your relationship, let’s begin with creating trust with your partner.]