The Relationship Between Helicopter Parenting And Coping

Helicopter parents often send the unintentional message to their child saying that they are incompetent of doing things on their own - like the things they attempt to accomplish independently are wrong. Instead of letting their children experience a sense of autonomy by allowing them to accomplish things on their own, an overprotective parent would step in and take control; again promoting dependency. A lot of times, such dependency carries on into adulthood (Sade 1). Instead of being a mature, responsible adult and taking things into their own hands; they call on their parents whenever things get strenuous in their lives. Likewise, adults who still depend on their parents for everything do not mature mentally and sometimes do not have the skills needed to become successful on their own.

The term “helicopter parents” is known for it’s negative reputation as it typically describes a parenting style that is focused around patterns of being “overcontrolling, overprotecting and overperfecting.” According to Julie Lythcott-Haims, the author of “Helicpoter parenting is a trap. It’s time to break free” this way of parenting is causing significant harm, as kids aren’t getting prepared for the challenges that will be thrown their way.

Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A

Regardless of who you are or where you come from there’s one instrumental factor we all share. We all were raised by a parent, parents, or guardian that was key in who we became. While like many things Americans cannot seem to agree on which stratagem is best in child rearing it is indelible that the common goal of every parent is for their son or daughter to succeed and find happiness in life. However, this has given rise to some extreme forms of parenting producing helicopter parents and tiger moms; Parents that feel the need to control every aspect of their child’s life to either keep them safe or make them the “best” when compared to others. In the end everyone wants to be a good parent, but helicopter parents and other groups like them are, in the long term, hindering more than helping their child towards a successful future.

Over parenting or helicopter parenting is when the parents do what their children can do for themselves and they try to protect them from the outside world. Parents will protect their children from the consequences of their action which will results in a young adult that cannot differentiate right from wrong. Over parenting have many negative outcomes on the children such as being less independent and some of these students were experiencing stress, anxiety, difficulty managing their lives. Children with overly involved parents will have decrease ability to adapt to stress, new environment, they will also have reduced life skills and inadequate sense of responsibility as well as decreased self-efficacy in their adulthood. Moreover children with helicopter parents are less satisfied with their family life and have lower levels of psychological well-being. To avoid over parenting it is recommended that parents take parenting classes and read books on how to parents.

In conclusion, each style is associated with different child outcomes and the tiger parent style is generally linked to positive behaviors such as strong self-esteem and morality. Opposingly, helicopter parenting is so consistently linked with children who are dependent and incompetent. Their views on appraisal and reprimanding, priority of academic success, sense of obligation, control, constructive criticism and their authoritarian nature lead to the distinguished styles of parenting having different connotations distinct to an individual’s perspective, yet will always be criticized by others and their firm standpoint. Perhaps one could agree with certain characteristics of both styles and find a median of the two and adjust or “customize”

There are two type of Helicopter parenting family who is overly involved in their own children. Some Helicopter parenting family had Bubble-wrapping our children that overprotective parenting. Begin helicopter parenting is not easily because you have to keep your child’s safe from harmful according to the “Psychotherapy Networker Magazine’s article”, “BUBBLE-WRAPPING OUR CHILDREN “by Michael Unger, and “Helicopter parenting Deliver Benefit” By (Don Au coin). Unfortunately, there are two families don’t think that can extremely harmful to their children and adolescents because of them too much overly involved in children's life and overprotective. Moreover, why is helicopter parenting harmful?

Helicopter parents are no different than normal guardians in which they want to help their child succeed, though what differentiates helicopter parenting between normal parenting is apparent in a child’s growing process. One of the roles to play as a parent is to worry about their children’s potential to solve problems and thrive, though rather than watching their child apply these skills, helicopter parents act upon these concerns and perform the tasks their child should be completing as they grow. As Richard Hofstadter states, “The intellectual lives for ideas; the journeyman lives off them”, in this case, we see those without helicopter parents living as intellectuals. They are able to perform tasks and reach for goals independently with support from their parents encouraging them, but

such as unknowingly teaching their children it is acceptable to plagiarize, falsify records, or to

Highschool students believe that once they go to college that everything will be different and change, no one is sure why mental illness is increasing in college, medicine and technology to help cope with it. Research shows that 288 students have relapsed after six years of treatment. Most think it is because it is living away from home and having to make new friends.

Within the past several years, I have seen many new ideas and theories as to how children should be reared. One change that I have witnessed firsthand is the difference in the role a parent plays in their child's life. In the article called "Helicopter Parents" Stir up Anxiety, Depression, the ideas expressed were not the same my parents had when raising me. Some of the ideas expressed in said article I resonated with as a child whose parents leaned towards being helicopters while others I did not agree with as wholeheartedly.

The term “helicopter parenting” comes from the parenting style of overparenting. This particular type of parental behavior gives the title to parents who have a tendency to “hover” over their children in order to protect them from failures, disappointments, harm, and faults. Although these type of parents mean well and think that it’s natural defensive instincts and all out of love, by always watching your children’s lives closely and hovering over them it actually affects them when they enter adulthood.

Anyone thinking about having children has obviously thought about how they wanted to raise their child. From letting them have fun with no restrictions, to having every restriction possible, we have seen it all. Remember in the horror movie Carrie by Kimberly Pierce, where the girl is helicoptered by her mother and ends up terrorizing the people who angered her? Or most of the movies from the 80’s and 90’s where the kids were raised by free range parents. Personally, my argument is that helicopter parenting can be a bit much and that if you are afraid of being a Blackhawk helicopter parent, just stick to free range parenting.

Helicopter parents is a term used to describe parents who are overprotective and over involved in their children's lives. Most recently it has been applied to baby boomer parents who can't seem to let go as their teenagers graduate from high school, leave for college, and even enter the working world. The availability of cell phones and social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter has contributed to the phenomenon, since it is easier for parents to stay in almost constant touch with their offspring. Psychologists and educators worry that this amount of parental involvement will prevent young adults from developing their own decision-making skills and keep them dependent on their parents when they should be experiencing a sense of autonomy.

The over involvement of parents can make the child develop psychological issues. They are shown to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, lack self-confidence, and have low self-esteem (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is shown that no matter what parenting technique is being used, every parents goal is to build their child’s self-esteem (Rutherford). Sadly, helicopter parenting does the exact opposite. Equally important, the persons lack of self- confidence comes from the over involvement of their parents in his/her childhood activities and academics. They never experienced failure or loss because the parents were always there to step in, so they never achieved anything to build their confidence (“Helicopter Parents” Stir Up Anxiety, Depression). It is common for a child with helicopter parents to develop depression when moving from their home to