The Road By Sam Mendes

Marriage is an adjustment between two people getting married Communication can cause a relationship to succeed or fail. If you do not share how you feel, it can cause your partner to withdraw. Listening can save a relationship. Schonberg (2011) found that “affective affirmation –basically, behavior that makes your partner feel loved cared for or special plays a role in a happy marriage and those men need it more than women. There are several factors and problems that can cause marriage to either succeed or fail. It is important to discuss problem things left unsaid can cause your partner to with draw.

     Moreover, the essential idea of marriage is that to create a healthy relationship that there must be a bond of love as well as maintaining their own identities. The converging of two individuals cause tension and usually end up in conflict. When two parents disagree either one of them gets hurt or a child feels it is their fault and responsibility.

In the modern world, there is a difficult word that people are facing and having a hard time to identify it, which is the word “love.” Nonetheless, there is a triangular theory that carried out by Robert Sternberg which helps people to understand love. The three angles are used to represent three dimensions (intimacy, passion, and commitment), and each point represent the extreme of each dimension. This essay mainly discusses about Robert Sternberg and how to improve the current relationship.

Variables such as abuse, illness, death, and financial issues all factor into crumbling marriages; “irreconcilable

One important Symbol/object in the film of Fruitvale station, directed by Ryan Coogler was Oscar Grant's Marijuana. Throughout the film this symbol of Marijuana portrayed many key ideas that the director had purposely set up. These key ideas included: Protecting, caring and supporting for his daughter Tatiana, Oscar Grants past life and Oscar Grants rehabilitation through the effects of marijuana where he is working towards a better and safer life.

Marriage requires effort and work. Many newlyweds come into a marriage thinking it is easy but do not consider the consequences of marriage that heavily rely on balances and partnership. Marriage is all about compromise. It is important to engage in a premarital program to allow both partners to learn what to expect within a marriage, how to face certain roadblocks, and to better communication when conflict is aroused so that divorce does not become an option. Gottman’s research (2009) has made a significant contribution to the study of relationship and marriage tying unity, harmony, and communication together to make relationship and marriage work. When a couple who does not have consummate love (intimacy, passion, and commitment), they often portray the six indicators of divorce: harsh startup, the Four Horsemen, flooding, body language, failed repair attempts and reflecting on bad memories (Gottman, 2009). Divorce often occurs within the first two years of marriages and almost half of divorces end within the first seven years (Bhutto-Ramirez, 2015).

1. According to Robert Sternberg, love goes through 3 stages of love he calls “The three dimension of love; passion, intimacy, and commitment. Sternberg believes when you go through the three dimension of love, there are also seven different type of love. The seven different type of love is liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, fatuous love, companionate love, and consummate love. The first dimension of love is passion; it is the process where we first start falling in love with a partner. Passion is what I call the “getting to know each other” stage of a relationship. The second part of the three dimension of love is intimacy. Intimacy is when you feel close to a person whether it’s emotionally or physically. It is also a stage where you share your deepest secret about you to the person who you feel that you’re in love with. Intimacy is where you feel the closest in your relationship. The third and final stage of the three dimension of love is commitment. Commitment is the phase where people decide that being with that one person is enough and they would spend the rest of their life being together that leads to marriage and children. I feel that Sternberg’s dimension of love is associated to Erikson’s intimacy vs. isolation. “Adults seek someone with whom to share their lives in an enduring and self-sacrificing commitment. Without such commitment, they risk profound aloneness and isolation.” (Berger, p.525) I believe

Sternberg's Theory of Love describes three components that make up different combinations or levels of love that can be shared between two people. The three components are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy refers to understanding and concern for the other person. This component deals with warm affection and getting to know each other on a deeper level. Passion refers to stronger feelings of emotion,

Have you ever been in a situation where you either have to make a decision to stay in for the day or go do something fun and exciting? Have you ever just got the urge to be spontaneous and do something so far out of your comfort zone? In the movie, The Bucket List produced by Rob Reiner, two grown men who were complete strangers to each other, had to make the decision to either live the rest of their lives moping around in a hospital or actually do a series of spontaneous things to make their lives that much richer in exciting experiences. Edward is a billionaire, who one day was in court defending his hospital while another group was fighting against the ways he ran his hospital. But suddenly, he collapses and finds himself actually staying in his small, two people to a room, crowded hospital. Carter is the other man, who how been a mechanic his whole life and has lived a normal life, until one day he got a call with test results saying he needed to come in. The two older men find out that they both have cancer and have to be treated for it right away. Edward and Carter are stuck in the same room with completely different personalities but carter is so laid back that this does not cause problems. One day Carter writes a list called “My Bucket List” and puts many things he wants to do before he dies, they are all things that will help people or that he wants to go and see. Edward finds this list one day and reads it, Carter sees his reading it and gets very upset. But

• Lack of confidence and low self-esteem : feeling of hopelessness, “not being good enough” and “not worthy”

The number one cause for divorce is financial difficulty, before a couple enters a marriage they have their own bills and spending habits, they do not need to consult anyone about their money. They want to be able to spend as they please, like when they

Rather than giving up and ending the marriage, many couples could save the marriage by trying to work through the problems that arise. Many people do not realize how much hard work has to be put into a marriage for it to be successful. When planning a wedding, some couples spend a lot of time preparing the vows that will be exchanged during the ceremony, but sadly the partners fail to live by the vows day after day. Scores of married couples drift apart because their hectic lives do not allow them to spend enough quality time together, which is important for a healthy marriage. Communication is also an essential factor in working through problems in a marriage.

     As with any marriage, problems will obviously occur, and the manner in which these problems are handled will most often affect the happiness of the couple. Another major issue of dicussion is the amount of time a couple spends with each other, as well as the quality of the interaction, and lastly, the issue of similarity will be addressed. In order for a marriage to succeed, the communication patterns of the couple must be similar and compatible if there is to be any agreement between the spouses.

Question 1: Robert Sternberg defined three different, but related, elements of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. One of the three aspects is passion. Whether it be through physical or through emotional means, passion is the euphoric sensation driven by lust. Another aspect of love is intimacy. Intimacy is the aptitude for exposing oneself, physically or emotionally, to the other; physically baring oneself can occur via sexual intercourse and emotionally revealing oneself can happen via sharing insecurities or secrets. The third aspect of love is commitment. This is defined as loyalty and the result of persistent decisions to stay together. The aspect of commitment is more prevalent as relationships develop and less likely to be present in newer ones. The presence and absence of the different combinations of these three aspects contributes to the existence of seven different forms of love. One of the forms of love is infatuation. This love is more probable to at the beginning of a relationship because the only aspect involved is passion, which is promoted by lust and initial impressions. Intimacy and commitment have not yet developed because those aspects usually take time to come about. Another one of Sternberg’s seven forms is that of companionate love. This type involves the presence of both intimacy and commitment, but not passion. Companionate love is presumably more common as relationships develop and persist through time. For example, passion sometimes declines

Conflicts which lead to unresolved issues can influence the quality of the marriage. Although several research was made on marital relationships, the factors which influence the arising of continuous conflicts are still not clear. Unresolved issues are problems which are continuously brought up in a marriage. However, marital conflicts are not the only source of unresolved issues in a relationship. Unresolved conflicts within the marriage can affect the longevity and quality of the marriage, but personal background and individual trauma contribute to marital problems more often than conflicts within the marriage. In fact, marital conflicts are usually started because of personal unresolved issues. If a person develops a behavioral property