The Secret Of Being Unloved

According to “A Triangular Theory of Love,” the intimacy component of love is the “emotional investment of love” it is “feelings of liking, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships” (Sternberg, 1985; Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2016). In other terms, this is the feeling experienced toward, and or, with another person, in which, you are emotionally invested in the relationship. Examples would include caring and emotionally investing oneself into the other person and the relationship. Couples with a intense intimate relationship adore each other’s companionship, frequently sharing personal information about how the person is feeling or doing. Lastly, passion is the emotion feeling of being significant and appreciated in the relationship. Additionally, it is having, accepting, and sharing feelings for the other person. It is selflessness, for example, enduring pain when an individual hurts their spouse’s feelings, or sharing joy with a spouse during exhilarating times, it is caring about the other person’s feelings. In addition, this component of love includes, the “enduring feeling of warmth in a loving relationship” (Sternberg, 1985). In healthy relationships, couples ought to be able to converse freely during arguments or about personal issues. The individual should be felt cared for and craved by their significant other. Furthermore, according to Social Psychology, intimacy is “feeling free to talk about anything, supportive, and understanding”

I spent the rest of the summer underneath an ocean of melancholy. Taking to sleeping during the long, burning days, I spent my nights in a wallow of self-despair. My father grew worried, and I will be forever thankful of him for offering to drive me places, just to get out of the house. Nevertheless, I lost contact with most of my friends. I stopped attending any social gatherings.

F. Scott Fitzgerald stated, “There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice.” Although this is true, and there are as many types of love as people who experience them, there are key elements needed in creating the “true love” each of us strives to possess. Psychologist Robert J. Sternberg explains these vital components in his Triangular Theory of Love. According to his theory, love is comprised of intimacy, commitment, and passion. Different types of love are the result of the various combinations of these elements. His metaphorical theory helps to define and explain the theme of various types of love presented in Thomas Hardy’s Far From the Madding Crowd, Alexander Dumas’ The Count of Monte Cristo, and Edith Wharton’s The Age of Innocence.

I agree with the fact that "Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat" is true but only to certain extent.

I had never felt so alone in my short life when I arrived in Wall Rose. No one knew me. No one wanted to know me. I only had Mattie to keep me sane. No mom. No dad. No home.

To everyone else, I was the happiest little girl in the world, but people did not see that “at night I no longer dreamed, nor did I let my imagination work during the day. The once vibrant escapes…were now a thing of the past. When I fell asleep, my soul became a consumed black void… With no dreams, I found that words like hope and faith were only letters…words only for fairy tales” (Pelzer ). Dave captured exactly what I was feeling in just a few sentences.

Being an only child, and being distant from my friends, due to the recent death of my cousin Suleiman, I really did not know who to talk to. So I kept my days, weeks, and months worth of emotions and feelings bottled up and to myself. This depression transformed me into some one I could not recognize. The smart, likeable, over achieving, responsible role model was disappearing from my life and this

I used to stumble through life being self absorbed and borderline apathetic. Then, the typical middle school event occurred: a boy broke my heart. Throughout 8th grade this event tortured me, enveloping me into an irrevocable sense of misery characterized by long, tear-filled nights involving mascara smudges on pillows and puffy eyes the next morning.

Love is said to be the greatest human experience in which mankind are privilege to partake in. To love can be a wondrous experience filling life with bliss and other strong emotions. Some people believe to love is to be alive and be able to see the good in the world and others. The purpose of this paper is to examine and find a better understanding of what is love, to explore what people believe love to be, and what lies surround the perception of love and to explore and expose what the meaning true love is or at the very least the authors understanding of the perception of love. In addition to exploring the concept, deception and the truth of love,

Love, arguably one of the strongest human feelings, is brought to extreme measures in the tale of Romeo and Juliet by the playwright William Shakespeare. In this play, two people by the names of Romeo and Juliet become lovers, but their love is restricted by the desires of their feuding families. Their strong affection for each other proves to be lethal when a plan for the two of them to meet goes wrong, causing their intense love to end in tragedy. This intense infatuation that existed between the two characters was definitely the reason behind many of their unwise decisions. In the article “Watching New Love as it Sears the Brain” by Benedict Carey, love indeed plays a significant role in the decisions that

It was like this every morning. Terror, disgust, I never knew how to live a happy life. When others would ask me if I was ok, I never could answer with a straight face. Then it happened, we lost our house. We had nowhere to go. Down the street we found an abandoned asylum,

“Unconditional love really exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It's not 'I love you' for this or that reason, not 'I love you if you love me.' It's love for no reason, love without an object.”- Sam Jones. Although unconditional love is just as simple as “love without conditions;” in today’s society, that notion seems almost impossible. Chbosky’s The Perks of Being a Wallflower manages to prove this rare, pure love exists, though, through Charlie and his sister’s, Charlie and Sam’s and Patrick’s, and Patrick and Brad’s relationships: family, friends, and lovers. Though these three relationships differentiate greatly from one another, Chbosky authenticates that true

Not only was I was brokenhearted, but I thought that my patience has come to its end. I looked at the dark night sky and sat on one of the swings at the park near my house. I was just sitting there, I wasn’t even swinging and I thinking about how I want to be another person, or be somewhere else far away. Eventually, I realized that my main problem was that I felt that I could not overcome all the “love” obstacles that life threw at me. I recalled everything I have read in books about love as well as everything that I have experienced myself. In the books everything seemed to be much smoother, happier, and a lot easier. My main thought was “how people can possibly spend their whole life together and be so happy even when things are going downhill?” No one was at the park and it made me feel even more stupid: here I sit with no one here to listen to me or my over anxious thoughts. It was just me, trying to deal with my racing thoughts how I will never

"In a perfect world, when he's with her, he would be wishing he was with me; when he looked at her, he would be looking at me; when he smiled at her, his smile would be for me; when he thought about someone, he would be thinking about me. In a perfect world, he would realize that I'm the one he was supposed to be with & I would still be standing here waiting for him still when he finally knows this. But this isn't a perfect world and people do get hurt. Because how can you give your dreams to someone else, yet share your dreams with me? Sometimes the truest love is the love that can never be"

I have been doing a great deal of thinking about the relationship of vulnerability and love. Believe it or not, you are the most vulnerable when you are experiencing love. Years and years ago, I used to believe love was simply an elusive feeling, more of an ideal than a reality. Love was simply a fascination that you felt at the beginning of a relationship but never achieved in a way that was portrayed in the movies or in romance novels. In hindsight, I believe the “love” that I felt was merely a combination of physical attraction, a fondness for the girl’s personality and the security of being in a relationship. What I have since learned is that true love requires an additional ingredient more powerful than any other factor: vulnerability!