The Secrets Of Toxic Secrets

t some point every person will face a situation where they must choose between telling

Abuse can be targeted at and happen to anyone, whether it is physical, emotional, sexual and financial. Whether this has happened as a one off occurrence or repeatedly, there are a variety of reasons why an individual may not disclose the abuse they have suffered.

Secrets are most of the time used to hide information from someone that could be detrimental to someone. Sometimes it is to cause emotional harm and ridicule. Then there are secrets that are used for pure joy and excitement. We all have many secrets whether it is to surprise someone or gossip that has been given through gossip or slander. The essay “In the Early Morning Rain” by Jennifer Boylan, she has had a secret that led her to have life-changing thoughts that ultimately led her to fully accept who she was. If it was not for her accepting who she was as a transgender female and not allowing her feelings to overpower her, this essay would probably not exist. If I was to rewrite her essay, I would write about how to deal with secrets that someone may have. In my writing my main points would include but is not limited to, how to combat a secret, seeking help from someone that can be trusted and could help with that secret, and finally, embrace the feeling of being free from that secret.

A particular question that is seldom pondered over and yet is capable of carrying so many doubts within it: who are we? Who are we as a society who can do the things we do? Who are we who can suffer from them? Award winning poet and essayist Susan Griffin confronts these distinct questions in her work titled, “Our Secret”. Griffin believes that a basic understanding of the things that play a part in the growth of an individual is essential to understanding who we are. The way a child is raised dictates how that child is going to become later on in life. One of the distinct highlights of Griffin’s essay was her use of describing the progress of the V1 rockets in World War II. Griffin studies the aspects of human nature by using these missile developments as a metaphor to symbolize the raising of children and the factors that can influence a growing individual. One of the prime figures that Griffin uses pertaining to these growing individuals was Heinrich Himmler, leader of the Nazi secret police. Griffin uses Himmler as an example to demonstrate how big of a role a parental figure can play in the development of a person.

In Susan Griffin’s work titled “Our Secret”, she discusses the relationship between the present-day and the earlier life of different people. She also compares the private and public lives of other people. Her piece is set during World War Two in the 1940s. Throughout the entire piece, Griffin compares the lives of people evolved in World War Two, people who were affected by the war, and her own life. She shows how even though they lived separate lives, they are still closely related.

Alcoholics Anonymous (or AA) is one of the most effective and efficient rehabilitation groups in the world. They have helped millions of people beat alcohol addiction, and through Narcotics Anonymous, have helped even more people beat addiction to other drugs. Their policy on secrets is illuminating: they state that “You 're only as sick as your secrets.”

            In addition, a sin or secret that goes unacknowledged and unrevealed can cause a cycle of vengeance and further sin.  Such an example of feelings kept secret ruining a life is the secret of Roger Chillingworth.  He is the husband of Hester Prynne and is thought by the townsfolk to be dead at sea.  He returns in hopes of surprising his wife and living a happy life together only to find his wife

Most secrets start with self preservation. Most are started out of telling ourselves we are being kind to the other party or parties involved, but in reality we are avoiding repercussion of our own thoughts or actions. Keeping secrets can cause guilt, anger, sorrow etc. These emotions can and normally will manifest in an assortment of physical ailments. Depression, headaches, ulcers etc or over time can be the root of many major health crisis such as cancer, heart attacks etc. Keeping a secret overtime will change your core values of life and how you react to others and life choices. Sometimes you will make choices on the fact that you are trying not to divulge your secrets and this can alter your life and

Others may say, secrets must be kept because they can hurt people. In an article by Irene Van, says that you can keep secrets about family and friends. Irene Van says, “ Gossip about family or friends unless this is about something that worries you, in / which case you should tell a adult you trust” (Van.II). This proves that, Irene Van believes that secrets about family and friends should be kept because it can really hurt your friends feelings. Second, this could be true because if I tell my friend one of my secrets, I trust this person. If he or she is going to go and tell my secret to someone, I am not going to tell he/she any secrets. However, on the other hand, in the same article Irene Van says that any kind of touch should not be kept as a secret. Irene Van says, “ Secrets that are not safe to keep:/ Any kind of touch” (Van.II). First, I would tell my parents if this happens to me because if I tell this secret to my friends, and they spread it, it would hurt me. Second, this can lead to more problems if I kept this as a secret from my parents because, the same thing will continue if I don’t take

A secret is, by definition, something that is kept, or meant to be kept, unknown or unseen by others. One example of a secret is Romeo’s and Juliet’s marriage. In Romeo and Juliet, William Shakespeare includes the secrecy of characters that affects the plot and contributes to the meaning of the work as a whole.

Secrets. Lies. Gossip. Truth. Things that we all hear throughout our lives, but when do these things actually start to matter? When does that insignificant rumor affect your life? More importantly, when does it affect others'? Only when a life is in danger, do we realize how much power a single word can have. And how that single word could save or destroy someone. Although some teenagers of “To Tell or Not to Tell?” by Mary Kate Frank, believe you shouldn’t disclose suspicious, life-threatening activity or behavior because you could lose your friends and/or be labeled as a snitch, closer examination shows that by telling you could save lives and better protect those around you.

“My literal responsibility as director of the CIA with regard to covert action was to inform the Congress - not to seek their approval; to inform.” Former CIA Director Michael Hayden said this quote concerning who the CIA reports to. Most American’s think that since the CIA is part of the government, that it held responsible by the rest of the government. Unfortunately, the sad truth is that they are completely wrong. The way the CIA was created caused many atrocities to be committed by them without any ramifications.

Small secrets rarely ever tend to cause any damage. It is always the big secrets that need to be watched out for. Because big secrets are the ones that cause the most damage and tear people apart. In both The Memory Keeper’s Daughter by Kim Edwards and Macbeth by William Shakespeare the main characters, David and Macbeth, do some horrible things and keep those things a secret. These big secrets cause problems within their marriage, in their own minds, and eventually lead to their own destruction. A common occurrence between both Macbeth and David is how keeping secrets eventually leads to the consuming feeling of guilt, distancing from loved ones and ultimately causing self destruction.

Think back to some of the classics. Even then, all those years ago, authors still knew the necessity of secrets. The Secret Life of Bees, a novel written by Sue Monk Kidd, explores this topic as well. Lily Owens, the daughter of a farmer, runs away from her abusive father, and takes her African American nanny and housekeeper, Rosaleen, who is in the hospital with injuries, with her. From chapter two of the classic, onwards throughout the entire book, there are secrets upon secrets. But each and every one of those secrets was necessary to their survival. Lily would have been returned to her abusive father and would surely have been hurt in retaliation for running away and Rosaleen was only in the hospital because three racist white men had hurt her because she would not apologize to them for attempting to register to vote. She was also supposed to be in jail. For Rosaleen to go back, would be agreeing to return to the heinous conditions of her former life. Thus, she and Lily had to keep the secrets. It’s just a fact of life – everyone keeps secrets. No one should ever forget

So what i'm trying to say is bad things can turn out to be awesome.If you never show anyone and always hide it you'll never know.Someday you make friends because of it.You could get a good scare out of it.Never be frightened to do