Family as a word is not easy to define, because it is so significant and universal to humanity. The worlds’ cultures display so much variety of family that it is difficult to base it off of common elements. The western world regards family as a wife, husband, and children. Other countries or groups, though, have family forms consisting of more than one wife or vice-versa.
“The Perfect Match” by Ken Liu begins with Sai, the protagonist, waking up to “Il Sospetto.” The song was played at the exact right time to wake him up making him feel ready for the day. Tilly had chosen the song and when to play it. As the morning progresses and Sai goes into the shower, Tilly begins speaking about a perfect match that she has found for him. It is a girl that Tilly knows Sai will like. Sai trusts Tilly with everything, even picking the correct beverage to have for breakfast. As Sai is leaving his apartment to head to work, we are introduced to another main character, Jenny. She is dressed in a “thick winter coat, ski goggles, and a long, dark scarf that covered her hair and the rest of her face” (Liu). Sai describes Jenny
I want you to stop whatever you are doing and think with me for a brief moment; think about the common stereotype that hundreds of people have been brought up with, and that still to this day, remains active in influencing and shaping the way in which hundreds of people visualize happiness. That common stereotype that I am referring to is the sociologically driven belief, that in order to be happy, one must undergo the unpredictable union of marriage. Union, which in the eyes of many grants the involved parties not only the satisfaction, but the tools to live happily ever after. Despite this common stereotype that in order to be happy one must marry, it is important to state though many marriages turn out to be a catastrophe, many are indeed successful; and many individuals do find happiness, satisfaction, and life-long fulfillment through the religious or sometimes, so called, civil unions. But why then do some marriages fail? Why after the numerous examples of failure, do people still believe that in order conquer complete happiness, one must be bonded to another person through the promises standing behind weeding rings?
One theory of the formation of a romantic relationship is one put forward by Byrne and Clore called the reward/need satisfaction model. They suggested that we have relationships long term because we find them rewarding, or we don’t like the prospect of being alone. The rewards from a partner can include friendship, love and sex, or the particular person is associated with pleasant situations so then we want to spend time with them and form a romantic relationship. This can also include the satisfaction from a relationship with a person of high social status, as it would make you look good to other people. These needs can differ from person to person
The reward/ need satisfaction theory (RNS) was devised by Byron & Clore (1970) to explain the formation of romantic relationships, based on the principles of behavioral psychology. According to the theory, people form relationships with those who are most rewarding/ satisfying to be with which happens through conditioning. The elements of Skinner's operant conditioning proposes that we repeat behaviors with positive outcomes (rewards) and avoid those with negative outcomes (punishments). Relationships positively reinforce by our partner satisfying our needs/rewarding us (through love or attention), but negative reinforcement also plays a part in the likelihood of formation as a relationship avoid us feeling lonely which both result in us
“Rise and shine, campers. Rise and shine,” Tony Brown yells over the intercom directly above my bed.
Why do people hold so many stereotypical beliefs towards singles? The main reason seems to be an overemphasis on marriage. The majority of people assume that married people were happier, less lonely, and more mature (Morris, DePaulo, Hertel, & Ritter, 2004). Western society maintains the ideology that marriage is the most important social relationship (Day, Kay, Holmes, & Napier, 2011). In U.S., at least 90 percent of adults have been married at some point in their life (Connidis, 2001). Thus people who
In our early years of age, we always look for the perfect match for us that will stay with us for the rest of our life. Is it really worth it? Many people believe it is worth looking for the perfect companion to live the rest of their life with. I believe that not being in a relationship has a positive impact because it helps keep you in shape and gives less risk of being in a bad relationship.
Similarly, Melanie tries to escape the patriarchal nature of Philip who “can’t abide a woman in trousers…’no make-up, mind. And only speak, when your spoken to. He likes, you know, silent women.”(P. 62-23) He tries to put Melanie in place of the swan in his show and treat her like a puppet. “Philip’s voice…moved dark and sonorous against the moaning of the fiddle. The swan made a lumpish jump forward and settled on her loins. She thrust with all her force to get rid of it…the gilded beak dug deeply into the soft flesh. She screamed hardly realizing she was screaming. The obscene swan had mounted her.” (p.165-167) This scene is very disturbing as Philip tries to take Melanie’s sexual agency away, making the tone of this episode is very dark
The science of love When do you know if you fancy someone? What does love do to your brain chemicals, and is falling in love just nature's way to keep our species alive? We call it love. It feels like love. But the most exhilarating of all human emotions is probably nature’s beautiful way of keeping the human species alive and reproducing. With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we’re choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature’s lovely plan.
Alain De Botton is a British Author who writes about variety of subjects that focus on everyday life. He has written many books including one that went on to sell two million copies. The article that he wrote was published in “The New York Times” Sunday Review section, along with this he has given a TED talk and is very popular on twitter. He has 873K followers in which will read a tweet from Botton almost every day. The article that I read is called “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” which talks about reasons why we will end up marrying the wrong person but comes to the conclusion that even if we do we must stay loyal and find the person that we can “negotiate differences in taste intelligently”(Botton, 2016).
AN: I think I’ve made it too dramatic so far, so I’m going to tread away from those waters for now. It’s still the beginning of the story and I don’t want to push every single twist I have in the start of it. For now, beware of the fluff. I’m keeping it light to put less stress on the readers and the characters in the story. I’ll leave it a bit lighthearted for now before more drama, and the eventual time skip.
I get what you are saying TJ and I totally agree. People don’t understand that it’s different types of love with every type of relationship. Your love for your soulmate and your love for your child should be different and just because it’s different doesn’t mean one is being loved more than the other. However, the love for your soulmate will be/should be displayed more because that’s the foundation of the entire family system. You have to work more closely with your soulmate in order for your child to receive the proper care he/she deserves. It’s all about the level of hierarchy. In the workforce, if you are a crew worker you wouldn’t sit in on a supervisor’s meeting, but it doesn’t mean you have no value at your job. Your value is just not
“I love you.” These three little words might possibly be the most powerful statement one can make to another person. In life, most yearn for the intimate affection that a certain someone can provide them. Women dream of their Prince Charming to come and sweep them off their feet, while men search for the love of their life that sets their heart on fire. But what happens when love is thrown around without a second thought? Has this four letter word become an overused cliché? Has love been replaced with lust? Is there such a thing as true love? This last question has been asked throughout history, while many have argued and debated over the final answer. We, as a society, have become a loveless, sex crazed group
The Game of Love and Chance is a play written by Pierre de Marivaux (1688-1763), who is a French novelist and dramatist that is now considered one of the best French playwrights of the eighteenth century. He has written over thirty plays that focus more towards romantic comedy. Marivaux was born in Paris, France on February 4th, 1688, and deceased on February 12th, 1963 in Paris. The game of Love and Chance (also called “Le Jeu de l’amour et du hasard” in French), is a romantic comedy genre, and the main subject of it is love. It was first performed on the 23rd of January 1730 at the Comedie-Italienne, where Marivaux’s plays were mostly performed. Originally, in 1697, the theatre Comedie-Italienne was shut down due to offensive contents, and the companies were banished from France. However, in 1716, the companies were permitted back to France, and from there, the companies focused on the works of French playwrights, more specifically on Pierre de Marivaux’s plays. An important category that The Game of Love and Chance belongs to is comedy of manners, which means “a comedy that satirizes behavior in a particular social group, especially the upper classes”. The play used comedy in order to explore the political issues of class and satirized behaviors. The play is about assumed identity, the ultimate triumph of true love, and the tyranny of social taboos. The play also considers the social status and the importance it played in the eighteenth century courtship and marriage.