The Sphere Of Forgiveness

As I was reading the chapter on forgiveness in Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counseling by McMinn (2011), the personal life experience that jumped out to me was when I had to make the decision to truly forgive my ex-boyfriend and his parents for the emotional pain they caused me. After living in New Jersey for a month and spending time with my boyfriend and his family, working, and taking care of an elderly lady with dementia my world came crashing down on me. My ex-boyfriend’s parents discovered sin in his life and told me I could no longer pursue a relationship with him because of the sins he had committed. After finding out the sinful things my ex-boyfriend had done, I chose to forgive him. I also chose to give him a second chance at a relationship with me, but my effort to salvage our relationship was futile.

Forgiveness is not just practiced by saints and not only benefits its recipients but have strong connection with person’s physical, mental and spiritual health. It plays a great role in the health of families, communities and nations. Forgiveness provides common ground for love, acceptance, harmony and true happiness Most spiritual and religious leaders of the world will agree that forgiveness of oneself and others is one way to clear the mind, heart and soul and may result in a feeling of increased peace and happiness.

Jeannette’s mother did not like strict rules so all of the children could pretty much go and do whatever they wanted. Rose Mary felt that children should not be burdened with a lot of rules and restrictions. The only rule was that the kids had come home when the streetlights went on. Jeannette’s mom thought that it was good for kids to do what they wanted because they learned from their mistakes. However, if one of the kids back talked or disobeyed a direct order, they would be whipped but a belt but that was very rare. Also afterwards, Rex and Rose Mary would forgive them for what they did. Forgiveness is one of the main themes in the novel “The Glass Castle” and appears very often throughout the book. Jeannette always found a way to forgive

The Glass Castle. Sounds like a story about some fantasy kingdom with a castle made of glass, but it’s not. This is a story about the early life of a young woman, Jeannette Walls. From drinking to living in the desert to running to New York, her life is a roller coaster ride. However, there is one thing you notice in the story: forgiveness. This happened many times in the Walls family. The act of forgiveness ultimately led the family to peace.

Forgiveness is a necessary part of human existence, although it is rarely easy to give, and sometimes hardest to give to ourselves. The Kite Runner illustrates humanity's tendency, and even willingness, to dwell on past mistakes. The opening sentence sets this theme with "I became what I am today at the age of twelve," as Amir unapologetically relates how he believes one action at that young age defined his entire life. However, as the novel progresses, the reader comes to the conclusion that it was not one action, but a series of choices and events that created Amir's persona as an adult. By holding onto his guilt and fear of discovery, Amir could only bury his past for short periods of time before his own conscience uncovered it and the

In the novel, Into the Wild, by Jon Krakauer, a kid named Chris Mccandless abandons his family and goes into the Alaskan frontier with only a pair of boots, a 22cal Remington rifle, and a 25 pound bag of rice. He goes out there to find joy. The theme of this book is forgiveness and the inability to forgive. Also, in the novel, Into the Wild, the book proves that going into nature unprepared leads to death.

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love (Bryant H. McGill).” The Crucible, written by Arthur Miller in 1953, is set in Salem, Massachusetts. The play occurs at the time of The Salem Witch Trials, which took place from 1692 until 1693. Nineteen people were sentenced to death for failing to admit to witchcraft, with many more being accused. Two of the main characters in the play accused of witchcraft are John and Elizabeth Proctor. As the play progresses, the reader sees their relationship evolve; from cold in the beginning, to supportive in the middle, to a caring, forgiving relationship in the end.

Mahatma Gandhi once stated, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Jeannette Walls is a best selling author known best for her personal memoir “The Glass Castle” where she describes her unconventional childhood, negligent upbringing, and her struggle to defy all forces and break the cycle of deprivation. Their alcoholic father, Rex and their narcotic mother, Rose Mary raised Jeannette and her three siblings with no steady income and lived in a state of absolute instability. Despite his many flaws, Jeannette managed to keep faith in her father when everyone else had abandoned hope. After many broken promises, drunken riots, and complete desertion Jeannette’s confidence in her father vanished and she moved on

“Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle your demons will cause your angels to sing.” (Wilson) This quote connects to the play, Fences which was about a protagonist named Troy who holds a grudge that holds him back from many things in life. Troy became a bitter and sour person toward life because of he didn’t get the chance to play major leagues. In the play Fences, by August Wilson the author teaches the reader about hard feelings and feuds can create resentfulness and bitterness within a person and potentially ruin their relationships through Troy’s animosity,and his relationship with Cory and Rose.

There has been a significant amount of reports of emotional abuse in the United States. Nearly 35% of women have reported that they have been emotionally abused by a husband or a significant other. Spousal emotional abuse has been a problem for quite some time and the effects of the abuse are long lasting.

“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.” This quote from Winston Churchill can be related to Karl’s mother. After losing almost everything after World War, Karl’s mother latches on to the faith that her son was a “good boy.” She had no knowledge of his monstrous crimes. But the truth about Karl will only break her and and tarnish the preserved the faith that she had in her beloved son.

In general, self-forgiveness is identified by a common ability to exhibit self-respect in spite of the acceptance of wrong-doing (Hall, J., Fincham, D., 2005). I never considered the distinction between interpersonal forgiveness and intrapersonal forgiveness. While they share many similarities, there is even greater evidence of the differences between the two. One significant difference involves the consequences of withholding forgiveness from self. It is likely that intrapersonal unforgiveness can be much more detrimental than interpersonal. Hall & Fincham state “ Self-forgiveness often entails a resolution to change” (2005). It is this process of acceptance of one’s own imperfections and sinful nature that catapults a desire for self-improvement and growth. This is a critical component of healing the soul and beginning the journey to spiritual and mental health. Also enlightening was the declaration that one can experience pseudo self forgiveness by failing to acknowledge any wrong doing and convincing him/herself that they are without fault. Finally, I was struck by the notion that self-forgiveness will typically

In the King James Version of the Bible, there is a parable told called the Prodigal Son. As this story is told in Luke 15:11-32, we are told of a story where a wealthy man has two sons. One son stays behind and decides to work for his father and inherit a good life beside him. The younger son decides he will ask for money from his father, and leave him behind. As time goes on, this son goes out into the world and shortly after, loses all of his money he had received from his father. Because of this, he is ashamed and takes his time on his way back home. But when he eventually does make it home, he is welcomed with open arms to a loving father who could not be any happier to see his son. Although the father is happy to see

Forgiveness is a hard thing to give because forgiveness of another human being involves having you to forgive yourself. It seems a lot easier to withhold forgiveness and remain a victim. The forgiveness that I have given away or I have received has shaped who I am today, therefore becoming a part of me.

The process involved in forgiveness and reconciliation can be very simple or very complex depending on the situation. One time my friend took money from my wallet, I think it was a $20 bill and I caught him in the act. We were both in the car and I parked at the mall and I left the car for about five minutes and when I was walking back I saw in reach into my glove box and take money out of my wallet. I was shocked and confronted him right away. He said he needed money to pay for his brother back. Since he is a friend of mine I forgave him and just said he could just ask for money and didn’t have to steal from me. We are still friends and I still hang out with him on the regular but I don’t trust him anymore. Trust is defiantly something that