The Struggle of Divorce

Divorce is not only difficult for parents, but even more difficult for the children. It can hit hard and fast but can also be built up from long term damage and stress on the marriage. Children can view their parent’s divorce in multiple ways. They can visually see it, or they can hear it. Children may also not view the divorce at all. Divorce can be sudden, confusing, and hidden. It can be a quick and relieving process, or it could be slow and painful. The relationship could be fought for night after night with little progress being made. The marriage could be fought verbally or even physically. Hurtful words are thrown to bring an end to the relationship and caring words are thrown to keep the marriage alive.

The Smith family is African American that lives in Saint Louis, Missouri. The family consists of two middle-aged parents having two daughters. The daughters’ names are Aliyah and Sarah. Sarah, the oldest is in eighth grade, and attends a very good middle school. Aliyah the youngest, attends the fourth grade at a good elementary school. . In this household both parents work. The mother is a nurse at Barnes hospital, while the father is a computer technician at a company. After many issues the parents eventually divorced about three years back. The father re-married last year to a young woman that has a four-year-old son. Overall, the family social-economic developments are that they are very well off living in a safe suburban neighborhood.

Divorce is a topic that most commonly involves feelings of anger, conflict, anxiety, sadness or depression for all parties involved in the process of divorce (American Psychological Association, 2012). Research suggests that the divorce is not the direct cause of children’s problems, but rather miscommunication that can happen along side the divorce (Afifi, Granger, Joseph, Denes, & Aldeis, 2015; Stallman & Sanders, 2014). The risks of problems do increase when children are drawn into their parent’s conflict (Stallman & Sanders, 2014). Risks include the loss of contact with a parent, experience of significant environmental changes, or strain on parent-child relationship.

Marriage is a life long religious sacrament recognized by God between two people who love each other. This amalgamation is a representation of an unspoken eternity of love and commitment. All too often the pressures of marriage prove to be too tedious resulting in a devastating marital collapse and ultimately a bitter divorce. Over a million children have seen their parents divorce every year since 1972 (London). Events that transpire during the separation process create a nocuous environment for the children involved. Divorce is controversial because it negates the vows that are held to a high regard in Gods name. The opposition of divorce stems from the detrimental effects the separation can have on a child’s mental state, emotional stability

Divorce between parents can be disastrous and painful on children. The children in a divorcing family know that many things

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

As with most life transitions, divorce can be liberating, depressing, frustrating, or traumatic to any person who experiences it. Perhaps the most painful part on the process of divorce is when the children get involved and when they all get trapped in the situation. These children may suffer significant losses in their lives and unless the situation can be handled in a civil manner, they will become prone to the psychological torment that could affect them for the rest of their lives. The issue of divorce however is becoming more and more intense since for the past ten years the divorce rate in the United States has skyrocketed to a record high of almost fifty- percent. It is also believed

Most of the things that were important to me and made me who I am happened once my parents got a divorce. When I was in middle school I started to notice my parents would fight all the time. I knew in my gut that things would not last between them, but I hoped in my heart, at the time, that my parents would be together forever. In eighth grade my parents sat me and my family down and told us they were getting a divorce. This changed a lot of things for me. Once my parents split up my family started to fall apart. This big change in my life affected me in a negative way. With this big change I started to get very depressed. It changed who I was as a person. In the positive direction my parents’ divorce brought me closer to my significant

In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties. “Will my mom or dad remarry and who will I live with?” are concerns children express while going through divorce. Many

Divorce is always a dreadful incident in an individual life, especially a child’s life. When parents’ get a divorce, the children are not always recognized about the end and dreadful process. This mistake can lead to problems with the child's perception of day to day life. The power divorce has on a family is far more obvious to the children of the family than to the parents. As a child, there are many settings in the household that distresses a view, opinion, attitude, and memory for a child. Children may have many daily struggles of their own to manage with, such as peer pressure and learning exactly who they are as a child. Adults sometimes forget what it is like to be a child dealing with some of the childhood pressures that children face, especially in today's society. Many parents don’t realize how something like a divorce could possibly mess up their child as much as it does. In most cases, most children are touched by divorce. Some react and handle the situation differently than others,

Divorce has become a major part of our society and affects many people every year. In some instances of divorce, families have been torn apart leaving children stuck in the middle of conflict. This is where children start lashing out at their parents and everyone around them and it is because they are hurt and out of their comfort zone. One cannot forget about the children that divorce affects in a negative way. However, this is not always the case. There are children of divorce that get through it relatively calmly. However, one must keep in mind that divorce is not always the answer. If there is a marriage that has only minor and easily remedied issues then they should try to reach a compromise. Married couples facing

Divorce and its effects on children are common issues that are on the rise in the world today. Divorce affects more than just the married couple. Children often bear the brunt of divorce, which makes divorce a complicated decision for most parents. Understanding the effects divorce has on a child is important to know exactly why a child acts a certain way. A divorce can affect a child psychologically, intellectually, and even behaviorally. Children can suffer physiologically from things like depression, intellectually by having trouble in school and behaviorally by having trouble in social settings. Legally, a divorce is a single event, but from a psychological standpoint, it is a complicated,

Divorce is defined as the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. Divorce and parental separation can be very damaging to children and can have adverse effects. (Anderson, 2014, pg 379) Although each family is different, divorce has been shown to cause problems in a child’s relationships with their parents, cause issues in their education, and a child may lose emotional security. (Anderson, 2014, pg 380) He or she possibly having to spend less time with each parent affects his or her relationship with the parent. (Anderson, 2014, pg 380) “Children of divorced parents are more likely to have lower grade point averages” (Jeynes, 1998). Divorce can affect a child’s emotional security because the child will have a weakened relationship with one of their parents or other relatives. (Amato and Afifi, 2006)

Divorce can cause uncertainty and distrust within the child by many influencing factors. A child’s environment becomes filled with inconsistency, the child must be moved back and forth and have to adapt to never being able to be with their parents at the same

In today's society, with the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, divorce procedures become more simple, many families because of various reasons for the choice of divorce, divorce will lead to a great change in the child's growth and psychology, and the children of divorced families and children will be very different. Today I want to talk about the problem of divorce for children.