The Success Of A Brand New Group

The skill I am going to discuss is self- monitoring. According to Interplay, The Process of Interpersonal Communication, self monitoring is best defined as, “The process of paying close attention to one’s own behavior and using these observations to shape the way one behaves” (24). This definition means that when you have a conversation with someone you listen closely to what they are saying, but you also pay attention to yourself in order for you to modify your behavior accordingly. By being aware of the way I communicate towards people both, verbally, and non-verbally gives me an effective way to deliver an understanding message.

Communication is an ongoing complex process that brings all different types of people together. Communication creates and rebuilds relationships which can last a lifetime. Even though, communication could create strong bonds it could also destroy those bonds. When it comes to communicating, everyone has their flaws as well as me. One of my flaws, when it comes to communicating, is having the courage to speak my mind within important and necessary conversations. When it comes to communicating, I tend to hold my tongue instead of expressing how I truly feel. Even though I know that not all conversations need your opinion or advice, there’s still those conversations that do. There are certain reasons that I have decided to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself while having conversations with others: fear that the way others perception of me would change negatively, fear of not knowing how they will respond or accept and the fear of leaving my stuff vulnerable in front of someone that could possibly hurt me mentally and emotionally. I have yet to figure out what should be said at the appropriate time, so I rather just keep my thoughts and comments to myself because I cannot do any harm if I’m quiet. My interaction with people has labeled me as someone that continues to “Sugar-Coat” because of the reasons I listed above. Nevertheless, I had multiple conversations with family, friends and acquaintances about how difficult it has been to have conversations with me because it

Communication for me of the verbal kind has never been a challenge, I love meeting new people, and I love talking with new people, I am a people person to say the least. My personality under pressure supersedes any negativity that is happening around me, I don’t believe that negative things should overcome the positive, and I see every situation in life as one with positivity. I am an excellent verbal communicator, especially in the work place. I must be, because I am a particular person when it comes to most things in life, not to say I am stubborn, unwilling or unable

“Why are you so quiet?” This question has plagued me throughout my life, people often mistake my introverted nature for a lack of good communication skills. I might not talk as often, but from an early age I learned that communication was so much more than simply speaking. Growing-up my parents had a make-shift store at the San Fernando Swap Meet selling kitchen supplies, it was there that I came across many different methods of communication. In order for the family business to strive, listening to the customer and interpreting their non-verbal cues was essential to selling our products. This experience made me realize that I was interested in communication and this interest propelled me to pursue journalism. In high school I was editor-in-chief

Since I came to college I decided that it was time for me to break that habit because it could really hinder my personal and professional growth. I pushed my self out of my comfort zone and began networking and simply talking to people as well as taking a speech class to help me be more comfortable speaking in front of others. Now I am proud to say I

From the Communicative Competence Scale given, I have learned how much comfortable I am communicating with those in my surroundings. I have been communicating with various groups of people due to the experience from my job as I am a current Lot Associate at the Home Depot as my job consists of helping and communicating with customers if any assistance that they need for them to make their trip easier. Before, I use to have my arms or legs shaking whenever I have to present or when I am around others who I am not acquainted to, but I was gradually able to feel more relax as I present myself toward others no matter what environment I am in.

run out of words when I talk to other people and it undermines my confidence. As a result, when I present in class,

Before looking at the areas of communication apprehension, it is important to evaluate ones use of powerless language and nonverbal communication. Powerless language can include hesitations like “um “, as well as hedges like “seem to” or “probably”. Ultimately, I find myself doing both of these quite often. For example, while I am fairly comfortable public speaking, I often throw in filler words like “um”, which can ultimately dilute my message. In addition, when giving critical feedback to group members, I find myself using hedges in order to be polite. This is most likely related to my apprehension to interpersonal communication discussed in the next section. I often use disclaimers for same reason. Knowing that powerless speakers

Growing up I was never shy, but I never felt the need to be the center of attention. However, when it was time to step up to the plate, I was always able to do so with ease. Often times my lack of shyness would leave my peers surprised that I was so good at certain things, because they never heard me talking much of myself. This transferred over to the work place as well. Up until recently I have been a classroom teacher. On several occasions my principals would disclose that they were shocked that I was so energetic. When I am in meetings I would not speak unless I had something meaningful to say. As a result, I think that would cause others to assume that I was one of low energy and unable to fulfil request that required a lot of speaking.

I avoid talking at school because I don’t want people to think I am annoying. I have been told that my voice is annoying and I don’t want to irritate people so I just keep quiet for the most part. I want to be “that girl” who is outgoing, confident and people want to talk to her… but instead I have a handful of friends and stay quiet. People avoid talking to me and no one reaches out to me since I unknowingly give off an ‘avoid me’ vibe because I am so scared of being outgoing and consequently irritating people. Internally, I am very social, caring and have a sense of humor, but I am too scared to be myself so I have decided it’s better to just be overlooked.

I do feel as though I experience some form of communication apprehension if I am talking to a peer that I don’t know too well. I usually don’t know what to talk about. I hesitate in sharing some things because I’m not sure how the other person is going to react. A lot of the time I think interpersonal conversations with people I don’t know well drain me. For example, on campus I have a lot of acquaintances that I run into every now and then. I find it awkward having to mutually stop and have a quick usually impersonal interaction. If I know I’m going to run into someone like that I get anxious, I would much rather walk a different route and avoid the situation all

As a child communication has always come easy to me. I was able to translate between different languages and switch from one language to another without a problem. While in school, I always felt that my strength was in language, oral exams/debates, and presentations. I was very loud, talkative, and I was never afraid to stand up to anyone. But things started to change as I grew older. When we moved to New Jersey, I encountered many bullies, children and parents, who made fun of me for the things I liked or the way I spoke and acted. I decided that it was better to stay quiet in order to protect myself from being hurt even more.

In the past, I experienced anxiety when I had to participate in formal meetings, according to Bevon and Sole (2014), this anxiety is known as meeting communication apprehension. In meetings with clients or co-workers, I wouldn't speak up for fear I may say something wrong. I knew my professional life was suffering from this. At first, I felt that I was too shy to speak but then realized it was just that I did not feel confident. I became an executive assistant and often traveled to meet clients with the vice-president of the company. I had the knowledge for the job, he knew it, but I just could not get it out to the client. In the office, I could tell him how we could help the client and what scenario was best for them but could not tell them

People usually assume that I’m always angry about something. I admit that I do look angry most of the time but that’s just how I look. I’m often labeled as being shy but I don’t really have much to talk about with others. I would rather talk with others that are interested in the same things I am. It is better to communicate with people that are interested in the same subjects that you are also interested in instead of seeming like you are forcing yourself to communicate with people that you don’t have anything in common with.

My communication skills have been a great asset to both my personal and work life. It has strengthened my ability to work in harmony with co-workers and in group settings. Although I communicate quite effectively I do find myself to be more quiet in large group settings and dislike public speaking. My recent position in community nursing required me to take on multiple roles as an educator and helped me work on my public speaking skills.