The Surgical Removal Of The Cancer

979 WordsMar 4, 20174 Pages
Your partner has been diagnosed with breast cancer and you have been there from day one. It all lead up to this, the mastectomy. The surgical removal of the cancer and subsequently her breast. You are feeling better about things. You heard the doctor and the prognosis is good. You see the light at the end of the tunnel. Things are finally looking up and you two can finally get back to normal life. The only problem is that is all from your point of view. What are her thoughts? How is she coping? Have you asked her? Chances are you haven’t, and it’s not because you don’t care. You do care and you feel like you’ve been there for this whole fight good or bad. So why now at the finish line is all of this falling apart? Why is she withdrawn?…show more content…
“…. when my doc asked if I was anxious or depressed I hesitated to answer as it felt like a weakness,…” (community.breastcancer.org). “When a woman first hears these four words, ‘you have breast cancer,’ her first thought are usually, ‘will I be strong enough to fight this disease?’ Once she learns that she will survive, thoughts about how she will confront drastic physical changes resulting from mastectomy and chemo are soon to follow.” (www.guide2breastcancer.com). No guys; get that thought out of your head. That thought of “I guess I can understand that. I’d feel the same if it were my testicle.” No you wouldn’t. You wouldn’t, because unless your wardrobe is one of those wardrobes that is the constant source of women and children running away screaming then, no you don’t know. Because your testicles aren’t on display for the world. A woman’s breasts are right there. Right or wrong it’s what we see and it’s what she equates with her femininity. “No one can prepare a woman for the confusion of feelings that accompanies a breast cancer diagnosis. In one sense, women lose their entire identity as they make changes necessary to live with this disease. One of the realities of dealing with cancer is the grief process. According to Dr. Michael Fitzpatrick, “You cannot short-circuit the grief process. It’s
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