The Victorian Father And Fatherhood

As a young child, David had a loving family, his Mommy, his father and his two brothers. By the time he was seven, he was being starved and abused by his mother. In his life, David had to face many challenges. One of which is having to play his mother’s “games” that left him half dead. He would also get punished for being a “bad boy” when he never did anything. Later, he had enough courage to tell someone, his 4th grade teachers at Thomas Edison Elementary School.

David's mother got worse and she began to think of new ways to torture David. David was one of a few brothers, but only he was targeted. The other brothers pretended he wasn't even there. There was only one person in the family that still loved David was his father. David’s father would fight for David and would protect him from the mother. But, he would always lose. Whenever David's father went to work, David would get beat. Dave became the scapegoat for his mother's mistakes. David became a slave of the house and did all the chores. If he did not finish his chores with an unreasonable time, he did not receive dinner. David was starved for three days at a time. Once, David got stabbed by his mother for not completing her dishes. Whenever David came back from school his mother forced him to throw up to see if he got any food at school. This happened every

Family is the first contact an infant experiences and the environment child is raised determines their behaviors and social development. Father figures just like mother figures are important in raising and socializing children in becoming responsible people as they grow. Numerous researches to determine importance of fathers in early child development have been carried out and majority of them found out that just like mothers, the role fathers play in early childhood development including mental, psychological and physical development are crucial. The studies show that, children raised by single mothers are likely to have problems such as drug abuse, engagement in early sexual behaviors and other unsocial behaviors as compared to those raised by both parents. The paper will explore the role of fathers in child rearing, discussing strategies in raising children and exploring pros and cons of such strategies.

David spends the first two chapters eavesdropping into the conversations of his mother and father. This way of finding information in itself is very juvenile but is the only way. Because of the eavesdropping, the information David hears is interfered by his childish ways for example “part of me said to leave, get away, run now before it’s too late before you hear something you can’t unhear.” This quote displays David’s naïve thinking. The naivety of David is also shown though his feeling towards his Uncle Frank, he sees Frank as the charming, town doctor and loving uncle. In David’s eyes, Frank can do no wrong, and when he does, he along with his father does not believe the allegations, “why are you telling me this” “are you telling me this because I’m Frank’s brother? Because I’m your husband? Because I’m Maries employer? He paused “or because I’m the

Everything David did that was courageous. Most importantly, he survived the Nazi’s horrible control, showing his mother had influenced him. Even though David had a difficult childhood, David’s mother helped him a great

Firstly, Aunt Harriet has a big influence on David, because David feels sorrow due to the situation that his aunt is going through. Aunt Harriet is talking to David’s father, "This is the third time. They'll take my baby away again like they took the others. I can't stand that - not again. Henry will turn me out, I think. He'll find another wife, who can give him proper children. There'll be nothing- nothing in the world for me - nothing. I came here hoping against hope for sympathy and help. Emily is the only person who can help me. I - I can see now how foolish I was to hope at all..." (Wyndham 71, 72) David thinks about his mother, and how she reacts to this situation, which had a negative impact on David. Later on David could not stop thinking about Aunt Harriet after the incidence, “For several nights I dreamed of Aunt Harriet lying

At the age of 5 years old, not only did he began to take showers with his father, but when they went to the beach club, his mother bathed him in the shower in the presence of other naked women. By the age of 6 years old, David noticed the power men had over women, “when a male entered the women’s side of the bathhouse, all the women shrieked”. (Gale Biography). At the age of 7 and 8 years old, he experienced a series of head accidents. First, he was hit by a car and suffered head injuries. A few months later he ran into a wall and again suffered head injuries. Then he was hit in the head with a pipe and received a four inch gash in the forehead. Believing his natural mother died while giving birth to him was the source of intense guilt, and anger inside David. His size and appearance did not help matters. He was larger than most kids his age and not particularly attractive, which he was teased by his classmates. His parents were not social people, and David followed in that path, developing a reputation for being a loner. At the age of 14 years old David became very depressed after his adoptive mother Pearl, died from breast cancer. He viewed his mother’s death as a monster plot designed to destroy him. (Gale Biography). He began to fail in school and began an infatuation with petty larceny and pyromania. He sets fires,

Around the time when David is ten and unaware of the significance of hiding his gift, he experiences a frightening confrontation that tears him away from his family. He witnesses the shunning of his beloved Aunt Harriet, an event that leads to her demise. Instead of helping her out, his parents degrade her until her will to live is lost. She responds to their conniving comments in a heartbreaking manner: “I shall ask Him if it is indeed His will that a child should suffer and its soul be damned for a little blemish of the body…. And I shall pray Him, too, that the hearts of the self-righteous may be broken.” (73) Aunt Harriet’s compelling words signify that conformity has such tight reins on its followers, that it has led them to separate a mother from her child and a sister. Furthermore, the author indirectly mentions that David is afraid of his family as they will show no mercy if he is found out, and distances himself completely. Later on, Wyndham confirms that David’s suspicions of his family turning against him are accurate. While conversing with the Sealander, he is provided with incentive to cut his ties with his mother: "There is comfort in a mother's breast, but there has to be a weaning... The cord has been cut at the other end already; it will only be a futile entanglement if you do not cut it at your end, too." (183) The heartbreaking words reveal the reality of conformity; even the impenetrable bond of a mother and son can be broken due to a toxic belief. To conclude, even the strong ties of families can be severed because of an antagonizing

     Emotionally, she never referred to David as her son. She always knew Dave as ‘the boy’ or ‘It’. As his father would try to intervene to help him out, he would be caught by the madness of his wife in calling him, ‘the boy’ and ‘It’. As much as his father tried to comfort Dave, he did not have the will to stand up against his wife.

As Pelzer’s relationship with his mother strained, it seemed the fine line between standard child discipline and abuse was being crossed one large step at a time. Starting with closed-fisted volleys to the head, Mother’s alcohol abuse and volatile mental state only made matters worse. Throughout the years, Pelzer is given even worse “punishment” as Mother burns his hand on the stove, forces him to eat his own vomit, smothers his face in his baby brother’s defecation, attempts to drown him, and “accidentally” stabs him with a knife. In due time, Mother became the head of the household and manipulates each of the family to either ignore or participate in David’s attackings. His father, Stephen Joseph, was considered his savior for a while but continued to gutlessly allow his wife and

Baldwin creates a complicated relationship between David and his father, which significantly influences David’s perception of masculinity. As a child, he overhears an argument between

his father and dead mother. David's father has an idealized vision of his son as

As Davis starts to tell about his life as a young boy in America, he lets us know about his mother dying far too young, and him being raised by his father and aunt. David's dad is stereotype of a man and their emotions. He and his son never have a close relationship. Even when David gets hurt in an accident, his father doesn't want him to cry. He wants him to be a man, a manly man and

with a group of homosexual men who are unable to find lasting satisfaction in any

Ben was always taken at fault for the bad things that happened in the family. When Harriet was pregnant with Ben it was clear that she blamed the fetus for the bad pregnancy she was experiencing, she explained to David “It's not you who is carrying this----" She cut off monster." (47) never actually admitting that she did not love the child. Before Ben even was born, he was being blamed for the things that he couldn’t control like being too strong for his age before and after birth. When Ben grew to become a toddler, he was blamed for the family split-up that was triggered by different reasons.