The story of us Essay

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Aziza Coffee
Communication 103
The Story of us
Chapter 9
1. What factors caused Ben and Katie to form their relationship at the beginning?
Ben and Katie worked with one another and they became really close because they worked side by side. They were little kids that had crushes on each other in school, with their love taps, and throwing paper balls and things like that with one another.

2. How did those factors changed over time?
Ben and Katie became undrawn to one another. They both started top like other things and no longer shared the same interest. They no longer had time for each other now that they had kids who were growing up and because they now worked at different places.
3. Map how Ben and Katie’s relationship move
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The physical side is at one time they did love each other because kids were born. The shared activities are the fact they have children and they still do things as a family.

2. How does the dialectic of intimacy and distance affect Ben and Katie’s relationship?

Ben and Katie’s main problem is that they have outsiders telling them what they need to do. That’s a problem they are listening to it, when they should be the ones deciding what they need to do as a couple.
3. How is the game of high/low related to intimacy and self-disclosure?

In the movie the high/low game represent the high/lows of the day and what you can do to fix the low. Towards the end of the movie when the family is in the car, they ask: “what was your high /low today? “ Everyone stated their high and decided to leave the low parts out.
4. How do Ben and Katie use equivocation and “benevolent lies” to protect their children form their marital problems?

Ben and Katie use benevolent lies to avoid tension or conflict with their children so they wouldn’t know that they weren’t really together and how bad the relationship really was
5. How do Ben and Katie’s perception shift relate to Johari’s window?

During Ben and Katie’s lunch with the Kirby’s, Ben and Katie seem to renew their love for one another putting their differences asides while playing hangman.

Chapter 11
1. What roles do confirming and disconfirming messages play in Ben and Katie’s conflict?

The roles

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