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The second most important aspect of keeping this literature novel is because of the great emphasis it provides on the effects of abandonment. In this novel, Beck Tull evidently leaves behind his wife and three children, causing Pearl to take on the role of being a single-parent. Consequently, this has a toll on how each of these four characters’ cope with the lack of having a second provider for them. At this point, the reader can begin to see how much strain it puts on each of these characters.

I’ve come across a diverse amount of relationships in my life, and some have made an influence on my life forever. Just like in “The Wife’s Story”, the Colin Kapernick article, and “Without Title”, these characters explore the adversities of relationships they have to go through. The relationships we have with others can affect our lives in an undesirable way. In the short story, “The Wife’s Story” by Ursula K. Le Guin, the wife is too blinded by love to see that her husband is lying to her.

Along with the use of repetition in the story, Godwin’s use of characterization helps further develop the overall theme of the story as well. Godwin presents several examples of companionship which ends up saving the mother in the end. For example, as far as one can interpret from the information given to us in this story, the son accepts the fact that he can’t always get to see his mother and be with her. One can make this assumption because the husband would tell the wife that he and the boy understood her current situation. The son not giving up on his mother and understanding and respecting his mother’s wishes when it came to her not wanting to see him is important for the woman because she does things throughout the story that lets the reader know that she still loves the boy and the father. At the very end of the story boy says, “She’s tired from doing all our things again” which shows the reader that the son is aware that the mother has not been the mother she once was to him. (Godwin, 42). The companionship between the father and son could be seen as salvation because since the mother could not take care of the son as a mother should, the father had to step into a large role and care for the son himself before

Television psychologists and pop culture self-help gurus tell us that marriage is hard work; marriage is compromise; marriage is a choice between being right, and being happy. All of these statements are true. What these experts don’t tell us, however, is that marriage is also about putting on blinders, or looking on the bright side, or one of a hundred other trite phrases to explain the art of self-deception. In marriage, there are times when we may find it necessary to look the other way from our spouse’s faults or indiscretions, in the interest of self-preservation. For if we examine these problems too closely, our darkest, most secret fears may come true. Therefore, it can seem easier to focus on the positive. In her poem “Surprise,” Jane Kenyon uses denial, selective perception, and fear of betrayal to illustrate the self-deception that can occur in marriage.

There was also a quote that stated, "Philippa had what are known as High Church proclivities, and took the matter seriously." This quote shows that they take church and religion seriously. Throughout the story, religion is talked about showing that the religion theme is extremely important to the narrator. Also in the story, you see that fasting and praying is a major part of their lives. Mr. Yeates also discussed how his wife was highly honored and always brought a gift with her. Lastly, Mrs. Knox praying for her family also shows that religion was important to these people. The next theme that was present is feminism because throughout the book the woman dominated the man, instead, of the man dominating the woman. You can see this in the beginning when the narrator talks about them dating for 5 years and Philippa, finally, giving him an ultimatum. The next example is when Mr. Yates said, "chiefly, I imagine, because I was a worm before her, and thankfully permitted her to do all the talking." Next, you can see this when Mrs. Knox and Mr. Hamilton had sometime gotten into a fight, and she would not go to church with him, but drove five miles away and go to another church, and the church they went to as a family was right in their back door. During this time period it was unthinkable for a woman to stand her ground against a man, and especially her taking the stance to not only go with him to church, but to go to another church on her own. I think it is pretty ironic, and funny that even though Mr. Yeates' wife dominated him, he defended his wife when needed. Love was a major theme because the story began with the narrator talking about getting married. Marriage is a big symbol of love because normally you do not get married if you do not love the other person. I think the theme love is a great theme for this story because they show their love

“Will Your Marriage Last?”, by Aviva Patz, is a cohesive article about marriage and divorce. Aviva Patz is the executive editor of Psychology Today. Patz narrates the story of Ted Huston, a professor at the University of Texas, who followed the lives of 168 couples for 13 years after their wedding date. She was then able to draw conclusions about what makes a couple stay together or end up filing divorce papers. Although marriages and divorce are the themes of this article, it is really about society’s pressure on young people to be perfect.

Stephanie Coontz is a sociologist who is interested in marriage and the change in its structure over the time-span as love became a main proponent of the relationship involved in marriages. In her article, “What 's Love Got to Do With It,” Coontz argues that the more love becomes a part of the equation the less stable the institution of marriage becomes. Marriage at one point was a social contract that bound two families together to increase their property and wealth as well as ally connections. Each party entered into the contract knowing their roles and if one partner failed to meet the expectations, they were still contractually obligated to one another and were not allowed to divorce. As love became part of the equation, each partner was less sure of their obligations and often chose to end their marriages if at all possible.

The majority of people who join together with their significant other through the act of marriage hope and dream that marriage will surround them with infinite love and happiness; unfortunately that is not always the case. In fact, “according to data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s 2013 American Community Survey, 10 percent of Maine women and 11 percent of men in Maine are divorced.”1 Though 10 and 11 percent seem like fairly small percentages, 10 percent of Maine women is approximately 67,831 women, and 11 percent of Maine men is approximately 71,506 men, which truly are not small figures to take into consideration. Since marriages do not always have a happy ending

The discrepancy between the two authors ' illustrations of marriage is most apparent when both women are viewing their families. Faye, sitting with her husband and watching her children play, feels that "life was good and filled with love" (Zee 37). Godwin 's protagonist, on the other hand, articulates, "The sight of them made her so sad and sick she did not want to see them ever again" (Godwin 38).When Kai, now her husband, embraces Faye, she feels, "There was love in his embrace and love in his words and in her heart there was no room for doubt, no room for sorrow" (Zee 37). When Godwin 's heroine feels the loving touch of her husband 's arm and the kiss of her child, she cannot bear it any longer and cuts off all direct contact with them. The situation of her marriage forces her into a self-imposed imprisonment and indolence. She feels agonizingly poignant because she can no longer be who they want and need her to be. She avoids them not because she does not love them but rather because she loves them so much that it is too painful to see them and too troublesome for them to feel her failure. The axiom to Godwin 's story tells us that "Once upon a time there was a wife and a mother one too many times" (Godwin 38). The addition of "one

He furthers his description of their relationship when saying that her tender and loving nature fostered a different understanding that helped him realize that, “soft or hard, love was an act of heroism” (61). Like Coates I didn’t grow up with the classic mother and father loving duo. My mother worked hard for my brothers and I while my dad was merely a by stander. This anecdote is a major take away for me because I am able to emotionally relate to the pains he suffered and help me come to light that love is with all of us even in the darkest of times. And for me this was the most powerful message. To be able to be selfless and think about the well being of another creation rather than yourself is the most powerful thing you can do in order to better yourself as a more selfless being and others by helping them

Unsatisfied with their partners results in divorce rates and infidelity. These have increased over the years, blemishing the institution of marriage. People may believe that compromises and self sacrifice in a marriage make it a failed institute but the same reasons make a marriage successful. A married man has a constant in his life- his partner. The security and companionship in the relationship helps him achieve happiness. The same sharing is now a pleasure, a way to prevent loneliness (Argyle; 1999). Marriage is known to cause greater satisfaction, greater self esteem and less distress. Evidence shows that married men and women are happier.

It is believed that marriages fail due to a lack of affection. As a result, partners seek outside of their marriage to fulfill that void. I agree with the idea that Etzioni details in “Happiness is the Wrong Metric,” “humankind is motivated in part by their quest to live up to their moral commitments.” This is can be true in marriages that persisted for years. It is also assumed that many of these marriages have been through some uncompromising situations which is difficult to say in our current society.

The stark divide between love and marriage shown right the way through cannot be comprehended fully by the twenty-first century reader: in today’s society marriage and love are mutually exclusive - you very rarely get one

As he ventures deeper, the beauty of the maidens ascend accordingly with their wealth, which leads to his selection of last maiden with the greatest fortune and beauty. The tale tends to glorify ancient values associated with women, such as passivity and self-sacrifice. The maidens’ curiosity of who the stranger is must make way for imminent patriarchal needs, such as food and hospitality.

Relationships are can be very important for a person’s happiness or may have in some ways thought to be important for happiness. One thing that is thought to make a person happy is marriage. Even though marriage has a great influence on a person’s life it doesn’t make them necessarily happy (Stein A37-A40). A person that is married is generally someone who was already happy but if a person is unsociable or lonely the person may become happier. Marriage can make a person less happy if they expect too much of the other person or think that the person is perfect. A person may become happier by having close relationships and acting kind and grateful but to remain happy the person needs to keep doing these actions and continuing these relationships to continue being happy (Wallis A2-A9). As a child a person must make many relationships to be successful resilient. If a person is abused as a child the person does not have good relationship and may not always grow up happy. If a child has someone to support or encourage the child they will be more likely to be happy this person is called a champion (Gorman A52-A55). A person that has a negative attitude can cause bad relationships and can also cause others to be unhappy. Because of this idea a person must choose a person that can be