Essay on Theories of Adult Development

925 Words Apr 25th, 2005 4 Pages
To apply three theories of adult development to my own life, it's imperative that I provide the obligatory information about myself, in order for it to even make sense. The information given is certainly personal, but as no point am I unwilling to provide it. The key to understanding one's self is understanding one's life, and all the good and bad parts of it. By ignoring, for example, certain events that you would rather forget, you are denying an in-depth and detailed look at yourself. I am a 20 year old, Caucasian male of upper-middle class status. Physically, I am not tall, but of a slightly below average height. I have been dating one girl for almost four years now but nothing serious (i.e. marriage) has ever really been …show more content…
I choose my friends carefully, and I have a small number of good, close friends, instead of a large number of people I barely know. I have never been one to follow the crowd, not by choice, but after years of feeling like I didn't quite fit in with many other people, I just gave up. Anyone who couldn't accept me for the way I am raises no concerns of mine. I do not need people like that in my life.
I am not bitter or sarcastic, I just don't like people who are "fake" and if a situation makes me uncomfortable I just leave, rather than trying hard to tough it out and be a part of the group.
According to Erikson's model of personalities, I believe that I am in stage 6: Intimacy vs. Isolation. According to the model, my body and ego must be in a constant mutuality in order for me not to fear loss of face in front of others. By avoiding these social situations, as I often tend to do, it can lead to isolation and self-absorption. I feel that this is probably an accurate description of what I am facing now, although I don't know if the consequences are really as serious as Erikson claims they could be. True, I avoid social situations, but not really for fear of looking bad, but more for a general distaste for people who are "scene" and overly social. Perhaps I am already being affected by the stages end results, but I don't feel that this is really putting me in any danger.
Apparently, by following the teachings of Kohlberg, I believe I am
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