There Is Not Book Hater Like A Little League Coach Summary

Throughout history, men and women have been viewed in utterly different spheres. Men have been, and still are, believed to be the hard working individual who is in charge of “bringing home the bacon” and supporting the household finically. On the other hand, women are expected to have little to say, the house spotless, supper on the table, the children bathed, fed, in bed, and educated, all while maintaining a flawless hairdo and makeup. These stereotypes seem a bit offensive nowadays, but if you really consider it, it has been and most likely will be this way for our entire existence.

The myth that boys in today’s society are encouraged to follow this “Guy Code” in order to be accepted amongst their peers, friends and family members can cause great emotional side effects. In “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code” by Michael Kimmel, he did a survey amongst college campuses and the question was simple “what is a man?” and the responses were pretty predictable. A few phrases stood out amongst this “Real Guys Top Ten List”: “ Boys Don’t Cry”, “Size Matters” and “Take It Like A Man” (Kimmel 462). All these phrases feed into this myth that men are to be aggressive and strong at all times. This “Guy Code” that is spoken of is a gathering of values, attitudes and traits that describe what a man is to be (Kimmel 462). Boys in todays day

When someone is thinking of a man, what do they think? Strong? Brave? That’s what most people think; in reality that is a very false image. In “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code,” Michael Kimmel, talks about what it means to be a man and what it takes to be a man in today’s world. Men are pressured into what they “should” be. If they don’t follow certain unwritten rules, which include: not asking for directions, not giving up, not showing fear, or any signs of emotional weakness, such as tears; they are considered less than a man, a wimp. A real man must be aggressive and brave, he must defend his territory: status, family, possessions. Men blindly follow the Guy Code, they must comply in order to be part of the pack, to fit in.

Since the beginning of human civilization, societies have always held certain standards and behavioral codes that the members of the society had to follow. Even though these standards weren’t ‘written in stone’, so to speak, there was an unspoken requirement that men and women were supposed to follow them. Also, there were different codes for the different genders and ages. A female child had different codes to follow than an old wise man. Today, there are still behavioral codes that societies follow and adhere to.

What makes a man, a “man”? Is it how much money he makes? The car he drives? The life he lives? Or, the amount of “Masculinity” that he shows? These are some of the stereotypical question that becomes the ideas of what men should have or strive to achieve. In Post-Princess Models of Gender: The New Man in Disney/Pixar by Ken Gillam and Shannon R. Wooden, they bring forth the ideas/thought of what the characteristic of men should be, by the overly influential control Disney and Pixar have on us and our future generation. Similar to what Matthew Immergut, in his article Manscaping: The Tangle of Nature, Culture and the Male Body, they both share ideas on the thought of man. The argument addressed in the question is either the way we view masculinity should be changed or not to determine us as men. In which the answer is, yes it should. Male or man, is a gender identity which show/ categorize, us separate from our female counterpart, Female or woman. But then are criticized on their place a “males” by getting in situation the emasculate them. Just because men independent or allowing for help, either overly sensitive or possess a lack of emotion, or whether or not “he” shaves his body or not should deter what the worlds thought on his masculinity

Throughout life every man and woman fits into a specific gender role. We are told what is expected of men and women from birth until death. Many people influence our view of how we should act and what we should say such as our parents, friends, and even the media. Males and females play very different roles and these differences are apparent in our every day lives. These differences are not the same as they used to be. Society has changed the way it treats men and women over time.

Society has taken the very essential feature of being a man and taken it away creating a more feminine man. The term itself almost leaves us with an image of a castrated man. (explain more what is consider a real man)

The movie surveyed a wide array of the troubles faced by boys and men as they try to navigate the realm of masculinity. A common theme was the command “be a man” and the cultural baggage that comes with living up to that ideal. To “be a man” means to not cry, to not be sensitive, to not let people mess with you, to respond with violence, to be angry, to drink, to womanize.

Masculinity has changed and evolved since the beginning of human creation. Males have had to adhere to the social norms of their time to survive without undue persecution. In the beginning of the 19th century, there was a shift in the way men could attain manhood. It was no longer easy for a man to enter into manhood with straightforward expectations and rituals. The state of manhood became difficult to obtain because of its precarious nature. During the same period, the industrial revolution was in full bloom giving birth to mass information outlets like newspapers, magazines, and advertisement: media. This set a prevailing state where boys and men alike could gain material on how to become or be men

As one looks through society, one starts to see many cracks and loopholes where one set of standards does not apply the same way for men as it does to women, and vice versa.

Since the beginning of time, humanity develops unwritten laws that govern their encounters within their respective society. These laws determine their role and behavior among each other. These unwritten laws are called social norms. According to dictionary.com a social norm is defined by “the accepted behavior that an individual is expected to conform to in a particular group, community, or culture. These norms often serve a useful purpose and create the foundation of correct behaviors.” One common unwritten law we as a society value much is respecting woman. For instant, if a woman is waking behind a man to a door, this man is expected to open the door for her and let her in before he does which is known as being a gentleman. This is a social norm that gives the men in the society the opportunity to show their respect and appreciation for women. This social norm has been in use for many parts of the world. Even young boys

The movie, The Mask You Live In, brought up some very intriguing points regarding gender roles in men and its effects. In the beginning the speakers in the movie talked about how the use of words and phrases: such as “be a man”, “why are you crying”, or “grow a pair” has a demeaning effect of today’s youth. I find it may not affect all children, or not even a majority of them, however, it does have an impact on the ones who are more sensitive. These select few may feel like they will never live up to the expectations of society. More importantly they may feel like they will never be as good as their father, who is the ultimate measuring stick as to what it means to “Be a man.”

Today, in society there are many ways pop culture is creating this mythological ideal of how women and men should behave. One of the biggest urban internet companies Mediatake out exploit women by paying them to shake their butts and twerk. Rap music glorify women who are strippers and willing to sleep in bed with them if they buy them a drink or shoes. Giving young men the ideal that they are only worth money if they shake their butt or behave in a sexual behavior. Young men are not real men unless they have had sexual relations with multiple women. Young men are told to be aggressive to women and treat them a certain way in order to keep them in order. The myth that are told to men is that women don’t like men who are soft or seen as weak.

What is it to be a man? Are you a man because of your biological sex, the way you act, the things you do, or because of the things you like? Who is the responsible to assign you your gender identity? If we lived in an advanced world, the answer would be that every individual is the only legit responsible for it, and in a utopic world, I would dare to say that there would be no necessity to discuss this topic. However, as we are still stuck on thoughts and beliefs that are not correspondent with our era, your gender is chosen by the premises made by your society. Therefore, your society is the responsible for making you believe which qualities, behaviors, appearances, and so on, are the ones that match with the masculine gender, and consequently, the others go hand in hand with the feminine gender. However,

Societal pressures and what is expected from people of each gender also make people conform to certain behaviors of personhood. Society is able to enforce this by instilling core values that we all feel like we must police each with. I will speak on the male perspective of this and for men there are six pillars that we have that address those core values we should follow ourselves and look for other to follow. The first value of manhood,