Tiger Parenting In Asian American Families

The most conflicted relationship between authoritarians and respect of parents is most commonly found between

There are many different parenting techniques; each culture has their own way of raising their children, the end result is the same, we want what’s best for them and we want to see them happy. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua, Chua talks about how the Chinese way is the best way to raise a child. She compares her style against “Westerner parents” in which Hanna Rosin defends the “Westerners” in her article “Mother Inferior?” Chua is a very strict mother, she considers herself what is called a “Chinese mother” which is a parenting style most Chinese mothers live by. Rosin is what Chua would call a “Westerner”. Who is to say one parenting technique is better than the

I can see the positive and negative in both methods. The fundamental problem with all parents is selfishness. When Western parents don't do enough to help their kids reach their potential, they are selfish, and probably too busy doing what we feel like doing. And when Chinese parents force kids to do what will bring the parents praise, they are selfish too. I think that the correct approach is a balance between Chinese and Western parenting, with the focus being on commitment to your children. If parent can find the balance between these two types then both sides will have succefull children. I really believe Western parental method and Chinese parental method can both be used. You can't be too soft and too hard. You have to balance it out.

Being too strict to a child can result in distant relationship between a parent and a child, and being uninvolved can also have the same effect or worse. Having a healthy relationship with the child asks parents to develop an amiable nature and an open mind when it comes to parenting. Get involved with children’s lives enough to help and guide when needed. Helicopter parenting would benefit in ample ways, in a child’s upbringing, perspective, outlook, social behavior, and it will help developing a healthy and friendly relationship between the parents and the child. It is better for children to run to their parents every time they need a piece of advice rather than going to a stranger looking for help, because no matter what, parents will always want the best for their children and would guide them appropriately. Even though some believe that helicopter parenting is detrimental, it has proven to be

However, they may lack self-discipline. Unlike children raised by authoritative parents, children raised by authoritarian parents are not encouraged to explore and act independently, so they never really learn how to set their own limits and personal standards.

Dysfunctional Families The novel Into the Wild is a true story about Christopher McCandless narrated by the author Jon Krakauer. Krakauer focuses on revealing the journey taken by Christopher McCandless, but more importantly the development of McCandless’ psychological behavior. After finishing high school, McCandless single-handedly takes a road trip alone, where he discovers that his father has a second family. Keeping this secret away from Chris only angered him as he felt remarkably betrayed from his father.

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

Chinese mothers being superior and any mother claiming that their way of parenting will always be biased. Every mother is going to think that their way of parenting is the best way. Especially parents that create a prodigy. It could be the parenting or the child was just born smart. Either way, that parent is going to claim they did something better than another parent, even though there is no way to prove it. There are too many factors that play into this topic to prove which parenting method is the most superior.

There are pros and cons to both parenting styles. Some pros from both sides are that the children are nurtured, receive all of the education

One Size Fits All Is there one right way to parent a child? Many different journalists have tried to answer that very question. In Chua's article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” published in The Wall Street Journal, she analyzes the difference between Western and Chinese parenting while explaining why Chinese parenting is superior. Throughout Lac Su’s “Tiger Mothers Leave Lifelong Scars” published by CNN.com he explains, from personal experience, the emotional distress Chinese parenting has caused him. David Brooks’ article, “Amy Chua is a Wimp,” published by The New York Times claims that Chinese parenting shelters children from the opportunities disclosed by social difficulties.

The study’s main purpose is to further examine cross-cultural parenting styles by including socialization goals and by looking at the similarities and differences in the relationship between parenting styles, socialization goals and the child’s social-emotional adjustment levels (Li, Costanzo & Putallaz, 2010). The study hypothesized that European young adults would perceive that they’ve received more self-development individualistic socialization goals, that they were reared more in authoritative parenting style and that self-development socialization goals and authoritative parenting are more positively related to adjustment levels amongst Europeans than the authoritarian parenting style (Li, Costanzo & Putallaz, 2010). The study had 137 universities students in total as their participants, 79 Chinese students were recruited from a university in Northern China and 58 European American students were recruited from a university in the southeastern part of the United States. The study had several controls; both schools were equally rigorous in terms of their academics, all participants grew up in urban or suburban areas

relationship between the child and parent. When children are under the pressure of strict rules, they

parenting style gives children rules along with explanations for those rules, and reinforces good behavior. Therefore parents should make sure the way they parent their children will be positive, and not negatively affect their children now or in their children’s future.

It is apparent throughout research parents have a high impact on the outcomes of adolescent emotional regulations and the behavior during adolescents (Feldman, 2011; Jabeen, Haque, & Riaz, 2013; Millings et al., 2012). Jabeen et al. (2013) states "parents play a crucial role in the social and emotional development of children" (pg.85). This part parent's play can be effected as stated above and the fluidity of parenting styles and their effects on adolescents should be observed. Through research looking at performance in school by Areepattamannil (2010), finds that supportive parenting yields higher achievement in school and is nearly as close in relationship to socioeconomic status.

“Baumrind (1967, 1971) identified three main styles of parenting”, explains Swartz, de la Rey, Duncan and Townsend (2011:65). The three main styles of parenting are authoritarian parenting, authoritative parenting and permissive parenting. Furthermore, each one of these parenting styles is associated with certain outcomes based on the behaviour of the child, the type of relationship that the child has with the parent and even the child’s self-esteem. However, according to a psychological expert Cherry (2015) “developmental psychologists have long been interested in how parents impact child development”. In brief, this might mean that, parents’ actions and behaviour have a huge impact on their child, which may cause the child to adopt the behaviour and make it a habit as they grow to be parents. So, as a parent you should always keep in mind that “your kids watch you for a living. It’s their job, it’s what they do. That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model”, declares Lehman (n.d.). I will now discuss the authoritarian