Tough Love Approach on Children

2387 Words Mar 29th, 2013 10 Pages
Joshua Red

In American society, media portrays tough love as a negative factor that should not be applied to children. Coming from a family with a tough love approach, I would have to disagree with the majority. Tough love opens up a whole new way of raising a child especially when it comes to them growing up in the long run. Many people would look down upon “tough love” considering they want to see their child content and corporal punishment would of course upset them. The road to taking a tough love approach may be rough but in the end, it would all be worth it. I believe all parents should take a tough love approach in raising their children to benefit them in the future. An interesting research would state tough love
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If a child also seems as if they need help for whatever reason, then as a parent one must seek guidance for them if it cannot offer it. Having a child who is out of control happens to the best of parents, it will only be shameful not to seek help and let the child be. The quickest way to apply tough love techniques on a child is by first making them fully responsible for what they do. (Straus) If they get in trouble in school, the parent should not seek the easy way out and help them out of the situation. What a parent should do is let them learn the hard way, so mistakes won’t be repeated. It’ll be best if the parent does not interfere with the natural consequences that may happen. If a child does not suffer and learn through punishment, they are most likely to repeat the bad deed that they’ve committed. With a teenager who is practicing drinking and drugs it will also be best to take things away from them such as the car, money, phone and all privileges. Giving threats and warnings won’t do much, but what will create impact is giving in to natural consequences. This will do plenty to a child and push them in the right direction. The parent will also be there for emotional support as long as the child is on the path to success rather than failure. Helping a child or a teenager will help them to a more successful life now, so that way when they’re older they’ll be able to benefit on their own.
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