Toxic People and Relationships

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Being in a toxic relationship can be one of the cruelest things that a human can endure. Speaking from experience “The Loser” is a real and terrible person to be in a relationship with. It slowly sneaks up on you like a thief in the night just waiting to catch the person at their weakest moment and trap them in the virtuous cycle of abuse. “The Loser” has many different ways of trapping their victim in a relationship and have zero intentions of letting them leave. This article is going into ways of avoiding being trapped in a relationship and ways to identify what type of “the loser” the person may be. I thought this article and its warnings were very realistic and relatable to people who have or will be in a relationship

People are taught to “forgive and forget” in order to be happy, afterall living with a grudge can being a serious damper in ones life.

I finally realized that people will talk about you whether you’re doing good or bad.

Codependent people who believe they can’t survive without their partners and willing to do anything to stay in their relationships, however painful it is. The fear of losing their partners and being abandoned by them overcomes any other feelings they might have. The thought of trying to address any of their partner’s dysfunctional behaviors makes them feel insecure and unsafe. So they adapt themselves and their lives to their partner’s dysfunction. They might have abandoned hope that something better is possible and adjusting to them which cause them pain and sadness.

Forgiveness is not an easy process for any person that has been victimized in any

You have to question whether you are forgiving the person because they are sorry and you are capable of moving forward or you are forgiving them because you are still left with some feeling of attachment and that’s what is holding you back. For example, in the memoir, Jennette continued to forgive her parents particularly because they were her parents and her blood. That got her nowhere. She was left in an endless circle of forgiving yet receiving the same mannerism back. However, once Jeannette decided enough was enough, she moved to New York City, away from her parents, began accomplishing her goals and overall Jeannette became so much more liberated. This example goes to show my point exactly. Forgiving and forgetting will leave you with too many toxic people in your life. You must know when to set an endpoint and cut people out of your life because it will benefit

Reconciliation is stated as “restoration of a state of peace to the relationship, where the entities are at least not harming each other, and can begin to be trusted not to do so in future, which means that revenge is foregone as an option” (Santa-Barbara, 174). This definition is a starting point in understanding reconciliation but does not address the spirit of forgiveness involved. It is important to recognize harms that others have done but it becomes necessary to portray these in a positive and understanding manner. This supplies the persecutor with an image that is not so negative and “monster-like” but also provides for the victim acknowledgement that there has been harm done. For reconciliation to take place, all parties involved

Also, understanding is the key to forgive someone regrets his immoral acts against you. The story of Albert Speer reveals the sorrow and compassion of one of the culprit find himself face to face with a victim. Mr. Albert was supporting the Nazis against Jews during the Holocaust. He acknowledged his responsibility and guilt for the mass crime. With the guilty verdict, he imprisoned for twenty years for his legal inhuman acts. When Simon Wiesenthal met him, Albert considered his eyes to find compassion and humanity inside (The Sunflower 246). Thus, I believe that when victim lets down the revenge, he also removes most of the barriers for a substantial correction. In the meantime, if you forgive, you can stop the stupidity of haters and prove that you are much stronger. Besides the world has a lot of evidence proclaiming that the desire for revenge disappears even after a long time of reciprocal violence, but only the people who forgive are the last standing. Overall, to forgive is to build bridges between victims and culprits for a healthy

There are times when we view how a person is treating us, as in talking or their actions, and it can be clear that the relationship isn’t mutual. For their words, are they being rude? Are they being intentionally mean? Maybe a little bit too sarcastic? Are the speaking rudely behind your back? These are a few things that can cause us to be weary and keep a look out for more, but as they say, actions do speak louder than words. A person’s actions can make or turn the relationship acidic. These actions could be the person using aggression in response to feedback instead of being open to it. Meaning, they want their opinion to be the only opinion. The qualities to look for in an unhealthy relationship are people who lack respect, who intentionally cause commotion and those who aren’t trustworthy. They can also be people who use you for their needs. Maybe it’s homework, or money, but they never seem to give

They end friendships, relationships because "they just can't take all the drama in your life," or become bored with them.

The hostile type of sociopath can be the most dangerous. They can be dangerous to themselves and a community as a whole. The hostile type of sociopath is consistently angry, violent and aggressive. They feel completely rejected by society. These types prevent themselves from feeling sad and depressed by heavily relying on their anger as a sort of survival mechanism. Relying on one source of an emotion for a majority of time can be very unhealthy. Whether that be good emotions or bad. The feeling of being angry comes natural and easier to accept compared to feeling sad or depressed about something. Especially if that particular person is feeling rejected

I thought friendship and love was about acceptance. It can often be hard to identify when you are involved in a toxic relationship, because, of course, no relationship is perfect. There is a fine line in between an issue that can be addressed and worked through and an issue that is unresolvable, either because the other person does not care or is being manipulative. I was involved in a toxic relationship with my best friend whom I met in middle school for five years. She would guilt me out for not making enough time for her and completely disregard my feelings or

As an empath, we are constantly around negative individuals. Perhaps they are continually grumbling, offending others or they have a negative view on pretty much everything. Staying with somebody like that can rapidly drag you down or even destroy your day in the event that you can’t control the

It is believed that in order to change people, you have to change the way that the think.