Traditional and Nontraditional Mothers' Communication with Theri Daughters and Sons

In the video lecture presented by Deborah Tannen, He Said, She Said, Tannen emphasizes that men and women grow up in very different social worlds. When boys grow up, they learn that there is often going to be an inequality of force in any conversation. For girls, however, they feel that equality is very important and that it needs to be enforced through sympathy-based bonding. As adults, these different messages behind socialization can often lead to confusion, miscommunication, and, sometimes, hurt feelings. Tannen explores the difficulties of cross-gender communication and how we can overcome them by understanding where these conversational rituals come from. As a reflection on Tannen’s lecture, this paper will analyze how the different developments of boys and girls lead to the different views men and women have on the world. First of all, childhood and friendship is perceived differently by each gender.

David Newman identifies several ways in which parents treat their sons differently from their daughters. He mentions how parents are more likely to talk about sadness with their daughters than with their sons and are more likely to talk about anger with their sons than with their daughters. This is because of the widespread belief that girls are “delicate” and sensitive to emotions while boys are taught to not show weakness. He further discusses how parents are more likely to “verbally teach and direct their sons” and use more “action verbs” and “numbers” with them as well. This is because parents expect their daughters to stay at home with the family while sons are expected to go out and work. Furthermore, Newman states how parents are more

As we all know, gender codes for women have existed throughout history and even in today’s world. These codes are in many countries and my home country, Vietnam, is not an exception. The most common gender codes for women include doing housework, taking care of children, economic of a family, and always obeying the head of the family, which is usually the husbands. After I read the questions, I suddenly realized that my mom is a good example to write about. My mom has been following the women’s gender codes, in which the book about the mother and the daughters was talking about. In order to enhance the ideas of this problem, it is important to consider the negative and positive impacts of gender codes.

In contrast to the relationships of fathers and sons, mothers and sons have an emotional bonding throughout their lives. Mothers have physical and emotional connections and are always there

Plato is one of history’s most popular philosophers who had a lasting effect on the world around him. Plato is mostly known for his philosophical works and founding the Academy north of Athens. During his early life, he wanted to pursue a career in literature and politics, and in fact, began writing plays and short stories. Plato happened to stumble upon socrates speaking in a public market and was pulled in by what he was saying. He felt so strongly about philosophy after that resulting in him burning his early works and starting out fresh. He wanted to pursue a career in philosophy. It is believed that Plato was going to compete for a prize until he realized that he had a strong passion in philosophy. From

Communication is a vital part of everyday life. Without communication we would not be allowed to express feelings, needs or even wants. Communication is more complicated than just speaking to one another. Some families suffer from the lack of communication and it is most important to keep a good communication flow through families.

Due to the different ways of expressing politeness and conversational involvement, they may have trouble communicating even if they share the same language. The ‘two cultures' approach proposes that talk between women and men is fraught with potential misunderstanding for much the same reasons that communication across the ethnic groups is (Mary Crawford, Talking Difference On Gender and Language, 1995). Hence, I agree with the point of view of Deborah Tannen. However, "You just don't understand: Women and men in conversation" does not inform readers about the reasons and the consequences of the communication differences between genders. Therefore, this essay will include the above

How one communicates is also influenced by gender. Studies show that ones sex can place a person in a gender role expectation. Women and Men communicate differently and because sexual identity is defined through same sex parent or role model, women and men can get into gender role expectations. These expectations influence their perception attitudes and behavior that will result in a communication style. This early self-concept can effect each one's interpersonal relations. Women for instance are much-attached human beings they have very early identification with their mothers, and this can cause an on going pattern of role expectation. It can lead to interpersonal communication skills that are very nurturing and understanding. Women are not threatened by intimacy and communicating at a close range with people. Similarly, men also have an early identification process not with their mother, but their fathers. Men tend to be fairly reserved, and quite. Men are most comfortable when there is a level of separation. This male role will contribute to the communication processes and it can cause communication to

There are two main elements that are used when measuring communication within families. The first one being conversation orientation, the degree to which families create a communication environment in which all family members are encouraged to participate in unrestrained interaction about a wide range of topics (Koerner & Fitzpatrick, 2002b). Families who

Parents have goals and standards for their children. They have high standards and dreams that they desire for their children to accomplish by the time they reach old age. However, do parents have different hopes and standards for their sons than daughters? Males and females are different, but equal. Therefore, parents should treat all their children the same way and base goals and standards off of their children as they grow with new interests. More than a decade into the 21st century, parents across the globe have similar standards and similar goals for their sons and daughters, but American parents are far more likely to want differently, act differently, and treat their children different based on gender. Parents have different hopes and standards for their sons than for their daughters sexually, academically, and socially; all having different effects on each gender.

One of the main topics this book focuses on is the social aspect of relationships, regarding parent to child, parent to parent, and child to peer. In the psychology 135 class there has been discussion in regards to importance and significance of having healthy or open communication in relationships. An important concept that has been discussed when it comes to communication in gender differences is report vs. rapport. According to the course text, Marriages, Families, & Relationships: Making Choices in a Diverse Society by Mary Ann Lamanna and Agnes Riedmann, Report talk is what men typically engage in which is mainly aimed at conveying information, Rapport is what women usually engage in by speaking to gain or reinforce intimacy or connection with others (Lamanna 328). In other words report is used in order to gain a solution while rapport is used to gain or foster intimacy. When connecting this information to

In this session, I will discuss the gender roles in my family. The definition of gender role is the degree to which a person adopts the gender-specific behaviors ascribed by his or her culture (Matsumoto, D. R., & Juang 2013, 156). For example, traditional gender roles recommend that males are aggressive, angry, and unemotional. It goes further and explains that the male should leave the home every day to make a living and be the main wage earner. The traditional gender role for the female purpose is to stay at home and care for the children. It explains that the female is to be nurturing, caring, and emotional (Matsumoto, D. R., & Juang 2013, 156). These traditional roles for female and male are the opposite of one another. It is believed that the culture is likely to influence our perception about gender role in a family. In my family, my parents utilize the traditional gender role. Growing up, my father went to work every day and my mother stayed home with me and my sister. I believe my parents were influence by their parents and their culture to be traditional gender role parents. My father explained to me that they chose traditional parenting role because both sides of the family utilized traditional parenting gender roles. I believe my parents felt pressure to obtain the gender roles of the mother staying home with the children while the father worked. However, when my younger sister was old enough to go to school, my mother started to work. It was believed that when

Communication between males and females has always been somewhat complicated. Because we are arguing that males and females have different cultures we wanted to take a look at what some of these differences might be. According to our research the inherent differences between male and female culture are the different roles that society holds for them and the ways these roles lead to different communication styles. The stereotypes that men and women grow up with affect the types of ways in which they communicate. We first wanted to take a look at how they specifically differ while men and women are arguing or having normal conversations. We also looked at the different types of networks that men and women

I don’t oppose or support the death penalty in society. The main reason I am torn between these to is because there are times when I feel that the death penalty is very necessary for the crime that has been committed. However there’s another side of me that struggles with the idea of killing another human being and in a way playing God. This is something I have thought about many times over the years during different public trial. Like in the case of Ted Bundy he was a serial killer who was executed in 1989 by the method of the electric chair. Based on his many statewide crimes of being a serial killer I feel like this was the best method for him but was this for society to decide. Next I’m going to talk about what the bible has to say about the death penalty which is part of the reason for why I am torn in deciding to support or oppose the death penalty.

“Fahrenheit 451” written by Ray Bradbury is one of the most well-read anti-utopia of the modern times. The literary reality is the world where books are banned, talking is rare, and personal feelings are suspicious. The book tells the story how main character, Guy Montag, changes from fireman, who burns books, to the man who is ready to give his life to protect literature heritage.