Chapter number four, awareness of others, was an interesting chapter for me because I feel that listening is what I can do the best, but at the same time I feel that listening can sometimes be my biggest challenge. I have experienced many situations in which I am the listener in a conversation and I’ve learned that my behavior plays a huge role in conversations. If I look bored or if I am spacing out while listening to someone, then I will not be able to connect with him/her in the proper way. Instead that person will feel that he/she is talking by themselves. Just like Miller stated in chapter four “your level of awareness of others makes the difference in your ability to attend and adjust.” This quote pretty much states that to be a good …show more content…
I also think this is accurate because whenever I am in some sort of conversation where I am the talker, I tend to watch for that person’s gesture or movements that will tell me if that person is actually interested in our conversation. If I see him/her nodding or smiling it tells me that they are listening and that someone cares about what I am saying, therefore I become more vulnerable and continue sharing my feelings. However, if that person yawns or gives no sign of interested than that makes me feel annoyed and upset that I prefer to just end the conversation as soon as possible. Even though I’ve had moments when I yawn or show no movement, I try to get everything together and start listening and showing gestures to let the person know that even though I might be tired I am still listening and understating their issue.
You stated in class and as stated in the textbook I think is super interesting the results and outcome of mirroring others. For example, it prevents us from sending negative nonverbal messages. Mirroring others helps understand and share another person’s experience and it enables us to avoid overpowering or underpowering the other. Overall, this technique in interpersonal communication helps build relationships. When
In regards to responding to others, Beebe & Mottet (2016) suggest that if a person is serious about listening, they need to be serious about turning off messages that may compete for attention and selection, which are typically the first two stages of the listening process. Furthermore, when an individual commits to listening, they should be become other-oriented instead of self-centered, as listening is about the other person (Beebe & Mottet,
First, mindful listening is important in communication just hearing what someone says is not enough we need to listen to who were are communicating with and give them our full attention. “To listen well, we rely on our ears, minds, and hearts” (Wood, 2016, p. 163). I have a problem with selective listening and I have worked on this to become a better listener throughout class with my family.
Firstly, it is not enough to be a good listener, one has to be an active and deep listener, with the true ability to understand what the other person is saying (Marquis & Huston, 2015). A servant-leader does not interrupt to argue, validate, or refute points, but allows free expression of the person to whom they are listening (Hunter, 1998). This demonstrates a contemplative as opposed to a reactive style, which builds trust with other people. When we have truly understood and not just heard our patient,
listening that I have not thought of before. One important thing that Ms. Headlee had said was to not pretend that you’re listening when you actually aren’t. This is called pseudolistening and our book calls it “pretend listening” (Rothwell 150) Pseudolistening is when you are looking at someone while they are talking and responding with ”Mmm-hmm” or even saying “really” (Rothwell 150) It appears as though you are intently listening when in reality you are not. If you are doing this you are not only a bad listener but also disrespectful towards the person who is talking.
Listening is a very complicated skill that many people do not posses. It requires individuals to reflect and to admit to their flaws. In order to communicate effectively it is important to know when to talk and listen. Peterson’s book is an excellent tool to enhance all types of relationships.
King Harsha (606-648 C.E) temporarily restored unified rule in most of Northern India and sought to revive imperial authority
In Chapter 3, Listening, Gregory discusses the importance of listening to the speaker. Gregory points out that although the words “hearing” and “listening” are used interchangeably, they have two separate connotations. Hearing is picking up soundwaves with our ears, while listening is making sense of what the speaker is saying with our mind. I have now grasped the concept of what listening actually is. Two behaviors that I have observed or participated in are electronic usage during a speech or presentation and becoming distracted. As a result, I have decided to emphasize the importance of rejecting electronic intrusions and resisting distractions.
James Petersen (2007) uses five parts to describe the talking and listening to help us process a better way of communicating and understanding each other. They are provided to help us connect in our relationships with others. According to Petersen, most of us think we listen well, but we don’t. Not
Talking and listening are essential life skills. The ability to talk in order to communicate and exchange ideas and information, to negotiate with others, to express feelings and emotions, allows human beings to function well in the world and to be full and active members of society. Communication, to be effective, requires the ability to listen, to understand and to make sense of what is heard. On the personal level, when we listen, we give attention to the other person in such a way as to allow them to feel heard, understood and therefore respected. In that way, listening is more than
I am glad that this class had taken part in the listening journal assignment as I was not sure what to expect. I was uncertain of my listening capabilities and have wondered what areas could use improvement. I do consider my interactions with people in hindsight, and I always hope that I did my best to listen and communicate with respect. I am fortunate to find out through the logs that I am above average while listening to others, in respect to the log analysis. I am further aware that this is because of a significant change in my life that took me from being self-focused to other-orientated. If this class had been over thirteen years before, my details on those logs would have been vastly altered.
A vital aspect of interpersonal communication is the style in which one listens. While every individual possesses their own preferred method of listening in communication, it can be enlightening to analyze our own strengths and weaknesses so as to maximize effectual communication. Within the confines of four main listening style categories, I have chosen those which best describe my own personal listening style.
Remaining silent is an essential component of communication based on listening skill. This skill encourage people to participate, giving attention to listen to other people when they talking without interruption (Hybels & Weave 2008). More over, as people they make an ethical agreement to listen to the other, they focused their attention on them without acknowledging competing thoughts (Gamble & Gamble 2013). It is widely recognized that, listening can be defined as paying attention to other people when they talk. In addition, as human beings
The ability to listen well is an important tool for understanding others. Sadly, very few people know how to listen well. In fact, most people can think of only one or two good listeners in their lives. Listening is not simply agreeing - it is much more. Good listeners are able to better understand and respond to others, complete assignments accurately, settle disagreements before they escalate, and establish rapport with difficult people.
Active Listening It is most important to learn how to pay full attention to others as they communicate, and this process involves more than merely listening to the words. It involves absorbing the content, noting gestures and subtle changes in voice or expression, and
Listening is more complex, and it encourages one to analyze and think about an idea, rather than to simply accept it (or “hear” it). Hearing is a skill that is beneficial for every aspect of life. As long as we have our ability to hear, we will always perceive different sounds, music, and voices. Listening, however, is beneficial to us in specific instances. It is important for us to attain good listening skills in education, the work force, and in our relationships with others in order to succeed. Good listening in education will bring about confident participation in class discussions; good listening in the workplace will lead to cooperation and good teamwork among colleagues; good listening in relationships is healthy and positive, for it is important to hear what an individual has to say in order to know how they feel.