Turkle On Intimacy

Sherry Turkle’s “Stop Googling. Let’s Talk” article was published on September 26, 2015 in The New York Times. The author explains that college students spend more time on their phones than talking face-to-face. Turkle mentions that parents have realized this at the dinner table with their kids or just trying to have a conversation with them. Teenagers and young adults claim that they can multitask and understand what the person is saying while being preoccupied. Multiple studies have been done to demonstrate the influence and behaviorial changes without a device. This generation reports that they feel more personal when their phones were taken away for a certain period of time. A boy from one of the studies describes this dilemma as “It’s what texting does to our conversation when we are together that’s the problem” (Turkle par. 6). Texting has become more popular as time goes on and college students were born in a world where phones were a problem and with new features coming out, they have become more intrigued. Using rhetorical strategies such as mentioning research studies and rhetorical appeals, the author effectively explains how technology changes society.

“In 2015 study by the Pew Research Center, 89 percent of cellphone owners said they had used their phones during the last social gathering they attended” (Turkle). As technology keeps growing and growing we find that it has an effect on many things. Nicholas Carr and Sherry Turkle’s articles both relate to how Google is effect many people today. However, Carr’s article focuses more on how it is affected our ability to concentrate and contemplate, while Turkle’s article shows how we have lost the ability to connect with others.

Many people are not mindful of how technology is disconnecting us from one another. When people pull out smartphones during a conversation or social gathering they will cause others to feel disconnected. These phones allow people to withdraw from what is happing now and move another situation reducing the quality of the conversation that is within our reach. In the essay "Stop Googling. Let's Talk" by Sherry Turkle; she believes that we are becoming a culture of short chats versus growing our culture of thinkers that are open to sharing in constructive and meaningful conversations with one another.

The article “When Your Smartphone Is Too Smart for Your Own Good: How social Media Alters Human Relationships” by Lori Ann Wagner begins with a summary the film “Her” which a Los Angeles man of the future falls in love his OS device and begins to develop an intimate relationship with “Her”. Wagner mentions that to many, the notion of one falling in love with their OS device might seem overdone, but questions if it really is. Wagner begins to explain how as human we have an innate need to be social and experience the feeling of belonging, which is why people turn topical media. With social media it is easier to acquire this interaction with others that is so desired, without having to put in the effort required for a physical relationship. Wagner

For instance, after a student has told her that they would rather talk to a screen then their own parents about dating advice, she states, “this enthusiasm speaks to how much we have confused conversation with connection and collectively seem to have embraced a new kind of delusion that accepts the stimulation of compassion,” (138). She uses reasoning from her own studies explaining how technology has affected our attitudes and mentality toward certain factors. For example, a high schooler wants to talk to an artificial intelligence program about dating advice rather than another person, such as a parent or sibling because they feel as if they can only trust a computer screen more than their family. In another instance, Turkle incorporates reasoning into why technology has become a big factor in our everyday lives. She states, “In the silence of connection, people are comforted by being in touch with a lot of people. We can’t get enough of one another if we can use technology to keep one another at distances we can control: not too close, not too far, just right,” (137). Here, Turkle reasons that technology is a favorable option to many, in for instance, having a conversation, because one has control of what they are saying, how they are saying it, and when they are saying it. All with the benefit of editing. Turkle says that one would rather be

In the second chapter of her book, “The Empathy Diaries” Sherry Turkle argues that people are fleeing or running from normal conversation. She also states that even though we want to be with each other, we also want to be able to disconnect with reality and connect somewhere else. She claims “What we value most is control over where we put our attention” (19). We want to be close but not that far away, but just right. The writer acknowledges that our phones give us a sense of “companionship” without having to deal with the demands of an actual relationship. With that being said, even our conversations are being impacted by our phones. The writer even states that, “even the mere presence of a phone on a table (even a phone turned off) changes

First is the issue of intimacy in relationships, because of cell phones we seem to have lost intimacy in our relationships. I am not just talking about the intimacy between couples, I am referring to the intimacy in all of our relationships. It is not unusual for a group of friends to be in the same room, and barely talk to each other. Some might say it is unnecessary to speak just because you are together, and I would agree, except I am not referring to the comfortable silence that occurs when people are together. I am referring to the silence that occurs when every other person in the room has their cell phone in their hand, texting, watching Youtube, or checking their Facebook page. I have witnessed two people texting each other, you say, "so what 's the big deal?", I then explain that they were sitting beside each other! How many times in an hour do you check your cell phone?

Within the essays, “Our Cell Phones, Our Selves,” by Christine Rosen and “Disconnected Urbaism” by Paul Golderger, both authors expressed concern about the usages and the path our society is heading down. It is remarkable that within 30 years the cell phone went from a large mobile phone called the brick to what it is today. If we are not careful with the cell phone and our dependence on it, our social communication skills will be permanently damaged. Cell phones have inhibited the way we interact with each other and the way we communicate.

The use of technology has increased rapidly as time has gone by.  In “Growing Up Tethered”, Turkle proves that the young generation need to be connected at all times by relying on their phones a lot. Reality is now based on technology, which people now live off of. Turkle’s argument in “Growing up Tethered” was used in the form of a book, with a well-organized smoothly transitioned article telling of the disconnection of the world we live in today, due to technologies such as cell phones, and social networks. We are slowly becoming a society of distance amongst each other with face to face conversations being limited to 20minutes phone conversations, and on social network sights we are making a portrayal of a person who we are

It is widely accepted that technology can be used for people to connect with one another. One primary example that may spring to mind is the smartphone. No matter the distance between two people, the other party is only a text, call, or instant message (IM) away. In consideration of that, certain methods are favored over others. In her work titled “No Need to Call,” Turkle examines why there is a decline of phone calls. She surveys different generational demographics that bring her to the consensus that, regardless of age, texting holds wider appeal because there is less commitment involved. As a result, calls are more significant, only to be used if one is a family member or if the message cannot be properly expressed over text. Cases of the latter may even come with restrictions. One person that Turkle interviewed claims that it was easier to deal with traumatic news without immediately speaking about

Mainly, the million dollar question is what does cell phones do to intimate relationships and general conversation with the opposite gender. Research from the University of San Diego shows that there is an estimated 2.3 trillion minutes spent using wireless devices of the last year (Galvan, Golley & Vessal, 2013, pg. 1). This source continues on to say that “[people feel] personal connections towards cell phones” (Galvan, Golley & Vessal, 2013, pg. 1). A question to be considered in this situation is how people even get into relationships anymore and that is driven by the amount of online dating site and technological

Today, he says the two spend more evenings staring at their phones than they do at each other.” (Morris). The article provides information that families are affected by technology and can not keep conversations or continue relationships. Similar to Montag and his wife being so intrigued in their technology they forget about each other and the bond they could have if they had conversations after work or at the end of the night rather than making their devices seem more important to them. “If one partner in the relationship disengages from a face-to-face interaction while engaging in technology...the other person may experience a sense of threat to their need to feel attached and in control in that relationship.” (Morris). The lack of communication in a relationship due to technology seems to push away others in the friendship or relationship, the article proves that when others are more interested in their phone or other devices other party/parties feel distant and pushed away and do not want to continue the relationship.People can start building stronger relationships by putting down their pieces of technology and making time to have a real conversations with the people they

In the article “I Had A Nice Time with You Tonight, On the App,” Wortham writes about her experiences with apps allowing for communication and suggests that technology is necessary to maintain relationships particularly long-distance ones. She explains that her smartphone apps allowed her to maintain and improve relationships with her long-distance boyfriend as well as her nearby friends and family because

Elektra 1 Elektra U. Kelly Professor Michele Lee 12 February 2017 Argumentative essay against “No Need to Call” by Sherry Turkle Imagine interacting with a close friend or loved one who lives thousands of miles away. Most people in today’s society use technology to stay in contact with the people they love. Author of “No Need to Call” (2011), Sherry Turkle strongly feels the use of texting or emailing is replacing how people interact with each other while on the other hand Jenna Wortham, author of “I Had a Nice Time with You Tonight. On the App.”

Over time, we have developed more and more advanced technology from radios to robots, this has impacted us in a way no one would imagine. In Sherry Turkle’s Ted Talk “Connected, but alone?,” Turkle clarifies how technology is redefining human connection. She points out that our cellphones are keeping us away from interacting with society and has a more significant influence on our communication in person than online. In addition, we tend to seek social media as a way of comfort and attention, and the more we are using our phones the more isolated and alone we become. Is technology really redefining human connection?