Essay on Turning a Challenge Into an Opportunity

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The “terrible two’s” are nothing compared to the Double-Digit Dischord of a child’s early adolescence. Oh sure, we hear all about how tough it can be to raise a teenager, but I think parents do not mention those “tween” years because they are so traumatized by the conflict , it is just too soon to discuss. Yes, I am making light of the tendency to attach ideas of conflict with older teens, but research is showing that the traditional teenage years are not when you will have most of your conflict with them (Parent). While it is true that there are various stages in the growth of a child when conflict is likely to occur, it seems unfair not to prepare parents for those years in early adolescence, when you have an opportunity to really set…show more content…
Instead, I can continue to do my best in guiding her to understand that other people matter, just like she does. Even before I was a single mother, I questioned whether I was “doing it right” as a parent and every time something went wrong (a bad grade, for example), I struggled against seeing it as proof that I was a terrible mother. Thankfully, I have done some growing of my one while my oldest son did his growing. As I go forward raising the two younger children, I have a much better perspective on my parenting skills and a confidence in my parenting style. Knowing that clashes are a normal part of this growth period have given me even more confidence that issues that arise are not about my parenting, they are about growing up. My goal as a mother is to guide these children into being people who are confident, secure in themselves and emotionally healthy. That is a little tricky since I do not have a blueprint to use from my own childhood. A study in 1967 defined 3 primary parenting styles and my upbringing falls easily within the definition of “Authoritarian” (Teaching). This style is described as having a firm

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