Getting to know people can be a long and challenging process. Most of the time, we choose not to put in the effort to get to know someone unless we need something from him or her or we put in the minimal effort necessary to keep the conversation from getting to awkward. The book calls this the uncertainty reduction theory. The uncertainty reduction phase has three steps to it. The entry phase, which is the time when a relationship is just beginning. The subjects are strangers and have never met before. The next phase is the personal phase. In this phase, the subjects of the relationship begin to communicate in more of a personal level. They begin to open up about themselves and share more personal details with each other. Lastly, the exit …show more content…
We first met in 2007, while attending the same junior high. When we first met, she was in 8th grade and I was in 7th. We started out in the entry phase just with the small talk and chitchat throughout the day. The relationship developed and moved into the personal stages. We began to learn new details about each other and communicate more frequently during and outside of school. I asked her to be my girlfriend in 2008, when I was in 8th grade and she had moved into high school. I think we were still in the personal stage for a while, because who knew if the relationship would last. Eventually, about a year later, I feel we moved into the exit phase. We both decided that we wanted to continue with the relationship and see where it went. I do no think that either of us would have though we would still be in the same relationship over seven years later. Another example of the uncertainty reduction theory is when I moved into the suites on campus my freshman year. I had no idea who I was moving in with. I did not even have the opportunity to speak to them via Facebook or email, because my room was finalized so late. The entry phase was very awkward. I had nothing in common with two of my roommates and the other was just a little quite. I did not know where the relationship was going to
The silences in this first conversation, though they seem only to emphasize the kind of awkwardness with which people who have just met strain to connect with one another, actually set the stage for a repeated pattern of tense silences that foreshadow a deepening of the complexity in the relationship.
Almost every relationship begins and ends following Knapp’s model of interaction stages whether people know of it or not. The 5 stages described in this model are noticeable in most every romantic movie. The movie Safe Haven is a perfect example of coming together as it clearly displays Initiating, Experimenting, Intensifying, Integrating and Bonding throughout the movie.
Realizing, however, that the stages don't always progress in sequence and can overlap can help give one a general idea of how their relationship came together, fell apart, and then was reborn.
The audience can appreciate the several stages of interpersonal relationships. It is really important to know and identify each of them in a relationship because it helps to decrease emotional
The first stage of the Social Penetration Process is the orientation stage which occurs at a public level, revealing small parts about ourselves. Rose and Jack enter this stage when Jack sees Rose standing at the edge of the boat. He approached her for the first time and talked her out of committing suicide. The only interaction they have at this stage is an introduction. The next day, Rose finds Jack and thanks him for helping her. While talking they seem to disclose more and more information about each other. They now enter the exploratory stage. They now expand to public areas about themselves about their hobbies and personal situations. Jack and Rose were quite comfortable with each other and entered the third stage of the process; the affective exchange stage. Social penetration in this stage is spontaneous and comfortable. They begin to show reciprocity, which is when one person’s openness leads to the others openness. Jack does this by asking if she loves her fiancé, a very personal question. It seems as if the more they disclose about each other, the more they like each other, and the more they seem to have in common. This leads Jack and Rose into the stable exchange stage which pertains to complete openness and spontaneous. At this point in the movie it is evident that both Jack and Rose have feelings for each other.
According to Knapp’s model of Relational Development, he described the stages in which a relationship goes within the make up and break up steps of coming together and coming apart. This blog will discuss each stage with examples.
We met in the summer after my sophomore year of high school. She had just graduated high school and was off to college in the fall. From the moment we had started talking, I was, as you could say "head over heels" for her. To me, one of the most attractive qualities in a person is a sense of stability and that was why I was strongly attracted to her. She knew where she was going to college, what she was going to major in, and had her whole life planned out before she was 19.
“Men and women can't be friends, because sex always gets in the way”, is the main theme of the movie “When Harry met Sally”. The script is a good example of the interpersonal communication ten stage model by Mark Knapp. This developmental model entails the stages of a relationship from it’s infancy to an ending. In the movie we can clearly identify all ten stages of this model.
To start it is important to define what uncertainty reduction theory actually is. According to our communication theory textbook, “Uncertainty reduction theory addresses the basic process of how we gain knowledge or reduce uncertainty about other people” (Littlejohn, Foss, & Oetzel, 2017). In other words, we as humans do not like ambiguity, therefore we try to find out more about a person in the hopes that we will be able to predict how they behave in the future. In the movie Beauty and the Beast the story follows a young peasant girl, Belle, whose father has recently gone missing. Setting out on a journey to find him she discovers that he has been
It is often said that all good things come to an end. Relationships come and go, and some mean more than others. In fact, there was even a relationship model developed by a communication researcher by the name of Mark Knapp. In his model, he goes through what seems to be presented as a smooth step transition from each stage in which a relationship eventually evolves into. As I studied this up then down ladder model, I began to realize that I ought to build up some strong calf muscles, because my relationship sure has climbed up and down a few flights of stairs. Mark Knapp believes that relationships go through multiple stages, the uphill stages being initiation, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding, then relational maintenance. On the flip side, Knapp believes the descending stages to be differentiating, circumscribing, avoiding, and eventually, termination.
Just as self concept seemed a vicious circle, where this affects that and that effects this; relational development is the same. Relational development can alter our lives and our communication, while communication issues can alter our relational development and our lives. The relational perspective is a pragmatic one and focuses on the continuance of communication processes through relationships. (Rogers, 2004.) Relationships go through a series of stages. The initial and first encounter to a relationship is called the initiating stage. While in this stage, two people attempt to create favorably impressionable first impressions. In this stage you will look for cues about the other person’s personality, attitude, beliefs, and values so that you can progress the relationship. If the relationship continues and impressions are favorable than the two people move to the second stage, also known as the experimenting stage. In this stage people reveal themselves further but not completely since the stage is still a precarious one. If a common ground and understanding of each other is obtained then the relationship moves to the next stage, the intensifying stage. In this stage shared experiences becomes common and self disclosure is open. The next stage is the integrating stage, this is where the individuals usually become a couple. They have shared interests and attitudes, and sometimes talk or act alike. The other individual becomes like your other half. If things go awry than relationships often shift to the circumscribing stage. This is when couples start to self disclose less and less to the other person. Then comes the stagnating stage. At this point there is no communication and no activity between the two people. Sometimes there is an
Lastly the third stage is called the intensifying stage, during which the relationship becomes less formal. The two people involved will start to reveal their personal information and analyze each other’s personal impression. Most of the time the two will find ways to strengthen the interpersonal development, such as gifts, hanging out more often and expecting a commitment within the relationship. The last two stages of the coming together part of the model are called integration and bonding. During the integration stage the two people come closer and can fall in love or create a closer friendship. Lastly there is the bonding stage during which the two will announce their relationship to everyone, this is the point where the relationship is indefinite.
Firstly, Uncertainty reduction theory was written by Charles Berger, his theory focus on the way human predict and interact to others. His theory focused on two types of uncertainty and eight Atoms for uncertainty. According to Charles Uncertainty reduction theory is an increased knowledge of what kind of person another is, which provides an improved forecast of how a future interaction will turn out. In another word mean that communication is the key to form health relationship. As human we communicate to generally understand one another and to also reduction our uncertainty. I can apply uncertainty reduction theory to my love life, my first day at a new school, making new friends and meeting new people, new location, and I can also apply uncertainty reduction theory to my first job interview, and many other situation to my life.
Around the age of 10, we started getting very involved with school sports. She lived in Byrdstown and found her gift which was cheering, of course mine was Basketball. As time went on, we only got to see each other at basketball games and special occasions. But, we always knew that we would be best friends forever.
With the expedient process of getting to know someone, relationships can rise and fall much quicker.