Unconditional Positive Regard is a theory by Carl Rogers applicable both for psychotherapy and in interpersonal relations. It recognizes a universal need for positive regard by others to all persons under various situations. It requires that all individuals as counselors should respect, accept and appreciate others without judgments. It is somehow different from unconditional love since it doesn’t require care for or liking. It only calls for acceptance of individuals whether you are fond of them or not. Unconditional positive regard shouldn’t be taken to mean being nice, friendly, or delightful with other people. Unconditional positive regard is more of a feeling towards others. As such, it ensures that a therapist has a genuinely deep caring for a client regardless as to whether He/ She approves or not, the actions of his clients. It is an attitude of accepting individuals as they are.
How have gender roles and masculine and feminine identities changed for the residents of El Barrio since their parents came over from Puerto Rico? What are the structural explanations underlying those changes? How can we see these changes in the different attitudes of Ray 's and
This girl didn’t expect anything back, it was just in her true nature to help. Another person in the book who has an extra amount of kindness is Rabbi Eliahu, who would give anything to his son although his son would not do the same for him. His son ends up leaving him, believing that his father is a hindrance to his survival. Elie observes this situation from his time in a few of the death camps. The Rabbi is searching for his son when Elie
Spreading joy and compliments gives me hope there is true and nice people left on this earth. I do see this trait in myself because I believe by spreading kindness, I could make someone’s day. You never know what battles people are fighting, so we should be aware of this and boost others up.
Let’s take a moment to image to be a little girl in a household where her father was very strict, with two brothers, no sisters and her mother envied her. Often times I felt unloved and cast out of the family. I desperately try to grasp the love of my parents growing up. My parent’s constraint their feelings often times the love was shown by the gifts. For an exceeding amount of time I wanted to know what it felt like to be loved. My parents never gave positive feedback the feedback was always negative feedback. I thought of myself as a failure, I would never give my full potential in anything I did. The fear no one will truly love me haunts me still till this day. I conceive a child a very young age because I wanted the child to love me even if the father left me I was determined the child would love me. I made terrible decisions I drop out of high school because of the thought I was not smart enough. I had several fail marriages because I could never give my all in the marriage. I always thought the individual who is believe to love you will hurt you the most. I was such a misanthrope but the fear of being alone would scare me. I always had to be with someone or around someone because of my
I used to assume [for the most part] that everyone had all the right intentions. For example, when my parents would instruct me not to talk to strangers considering they might not be who they seem, I gave those “strangers” the benefit of the doubt. Regarding it just a few days ago, I have actualized that I never recovered from that belief. As of now, as I look back at those few days of reconciliation, I have come to the realization that I terminated those beliefs after reading and becoming more aware of Knud and the boys’ story that not everyone is who they form themselves out to be.
When someone hears the word “fear,” many things can come to mind; spiders or sharks, heights or drowning, fire or confinement, dying or death. But when deeper, more emotional fears are taken into account, a whole new perspective is opened up. When people say they are terrified of performing, don’t they really just fear embarrassment? When people say they are afraid of failure, aren’t they really just afraid of not being accepted by those who succeed? When people say they fear of love, don’t they really just fear heartbreak? All of these fears, though different in specific detail, can boil down to one thing; as humans, we possess a deep fear of being unwanted. The fear of being unwanted results in insecurities, distrust, toxic relationships and ultimately inevitable loneliness. Think about it; when was the last time you came across someone who didn’t have some type of fear that is rooted at the thought of being unwanted? Of course everybody wants to be wanted, it is human nature. However, when the basis of our actions relies on the fact that we want to be wanted, we can lose sight of our real passions and happiness. I personally have struggled with many fears that are a repercussion of the fear I have of being unwanted. What if I don’t get into the college I want to go to? What if I’m not good enough to play on the team? What if I never find love? What if I can’t be what everybody wants me to be? What if everybody I care about only wants me temporarily? What if nobody really
The true nature of human action remains an enigma for many and it is a question whose answer is everywhere in the civilization that we have all collectively built. The author Jane Austen in persuasion believes that each person is self-serving and kind when it 's in their best interest. Contrary to Austen 's’ belief, Mark Twain with“The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” shows a more optimistic view of human nature where the guilt and sense of sympathy are the driving emotions behind every action. Similarly, in the novel A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith identifies the empathy and duty as a primary cause for the kindness in each person. Every person is hardwired to be a social and inherently good person driven by the emotional consequences and
I believe that self-esteem is key and a great foundation to becoming successful in life. I also believe it has to come from the person within and not from someone else. Self-esteem isn't given it's grown. Even though there ways someone can help, for example giving you compliments or making you feel loved or happy. These things shouldn't let u feel as if it's boosting your self esteem, once those things are gone people lose their self esteem and feel as if they're worthless. Thats why its recommended for oneself to learn to love themselves and builds their self esteem daily.
After reading both books about love I have found that I do not have very many fears, doubts, or difficulties with love. I would have to say that the biggest problem I have is trying to love everyone for who they are. I try to practice this but there are some people that I have a hard time loving. When it comes to strangers I also struggle with the notion that I should love them. I am not afraid of others not loving me, which is directly related to the fact that I love myself and I accept myself for who I am.
(v) One must wait for the favor to be given back not asked for its return.
Self-esteem engages the worthwhile aspect of our impact on life and also our interaction with others. We must have very good self-esteem at any given time because when we feel valuable and important to other people, the subtle message is decoded and they reciprocate just that.