Unrequited Love

The longing for something to pick you up when you’re at your lowest. This is what the lost generation was wanting during the time of World War I. In the book The Sun Also Rises, Jake Barnes is a man who has fought in the war, and hurt himself disabling him to have to ability to reproduce, causing him to be at a loss with his masculinity and manhood. This has caused him to become a part of the lost generation. He longs for the flapper known as Lady Brett Ashley, but she will not accept him for the man he is due to him not being able to satisfy her own needs. This shows that love is an unattainable aspect for Jake Barnes who longing for Brett to be his.

Explained: Some people don’t believe they deserve love or don’t want it. However, when someone learns

Love is unique in its striking ability to be a driving force in dictating interpersonal relationships. It patterns behavior and orients individuals towards their distinct, unique attractions. According to Velleman, love penetrates deeper than one’s qualities; it extends to one’s rational will, or the essence of a person. To him, though love appears to have particularity, it is also a moral emotion. Kolodny subscribes to the relationship theory, asserting that an ongoing, interpersonal, and historical relationship with a relative is a part of the reason for love. In Kolodny’s view, the existence of the true self is irrelevant, as is the morality of love. Both Velleman and Kolodny disprove the quality theory; however, their perceptions of love and its morality differ. I believe that Kolodny is correct in his view that morality is irrelevant to love and that there must be factual reasons for love. Although it is enticing to believe that one is attracted to the essence of another, the essence is not motivation enough for love. The relationship theory takes into account the motivation needed to love a particular person from a historical, interpersonal, and ongoing perspective.

When one looks at romantic love, one would conclude that it is a social dyad that brings about certain responsibilities between two people in a relationship such as honesty, protection, openness and expressions of love. (William, 2008: 76). Contrasting with

Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.

The human idea of love is quite possibly the most misunderstood in today’s society. Love can be between a man and woman, mother/father and their kids, or even really good friends. However, these relationships of love go through many interactions and stages to start and progress. Many psychological events must occur and be worked through in order to be successful. All relationships must endure the five perspectives of human behavior. These perspectives are biological, learning, social and cultural, cognitive, and psychodynamic influences.

Unrequited : When a feeling of love or another feeling is not returned or rewarded

Love is either a fickle crime or an ever-changing satisfaction of desire. For some, it can ruin even the brightest minds, while for others, there is never doubt that it is worth living for. Children grow up with fairy tales and anecdotes of wild love stories, enthusiastic over the prospect of love. Yet has anyone considered the negatives of those dreams?

One may have feelings for another; it is natural. When faced with rejection, however, the result is ruinous. In the poem, “Love Song, with Two Goldfish”, a goldfish was infatuated with another fish. However, the former was rejected because he “could not give a life beyond the bowl.” She rejected him because of the rash promises he had made, something that made the latter miserable. He expected joy, but was met with pain. Intolerance is common among relationships as most don’t see them as a pleasure, but more of a detriment. In the poem, “What Love Isn’t”, Ward reflects on her experience with love and how much it irritated her. She says, “it is weight and it is too heavy to feel good sometimes. It is discomfort.” Instead of the passion and happiness one experiences in a relationship, Ward had none of it and only went through pain. The pressure of such a romance gave her unneeded agony. While love is depicted as a passionate and beautiful experience, it is a painful one filled with rejection and

“True love is hard to find.” “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. These words have been told to and heard from family, friends, co-workers and even words in a poem. (A.C. Bradley). These words are said to someone to comfort and express sympathy and understanding to one that is having a relationship issues. Only a lucky few have found true love the very first time love has entered the into their space, some have managed to remain married over forty years or more. Life’s dilemmas interfere with true love from entering the lives of the people that love has touched. Parents protecting their children, worrying about what other think, love not being reciprocated, fell in love too young, self-esteem too low, looking for

The love story is one of the oldest and most cherished traditions in any world culture. The prevalence of romantic works throughout history, whether Greek myths, Jane Austen’s dramatic narratives, or today’s dime-a-dozen romantic novels, ultimately encourages us to believe in the power of true love. We identify with the archetypal star-crossed lovers, who combat established convention in order to assert their romance, because we too yearn for our own “happily-ever-afters.” When used in conjunction with reason, love is the highest form of compassion – without it, we could not possibly interact productively with one another or develop as individuals. But when we take a new perspective and examine love as an independent,

Construct is defined as "a representation of the universe, a representation erected by a living creature and then tested against the reality of that universe" (Kelly, 1955, p.12). According to Kelly, people make sense of the world by formulating their own models. They interpret things happened around them and organize those interpretations to construe their own models of reality. These models are called "constructs" by Kelly.

"In a perfect world, when he's with her, he would be wishing he was with me; when he looked at her, he would be looking at me; when he smiled at her, his smile would be for me; when he thought about someone, he would be thinking about me. In a perfect world, he would realize that I'm the one he was supposed to be with & I would still be standing here waiting for him still when he finally knows this. But this isn't a perfect world and people do get hurt. Because how can you give your dreams to someone else, yet share your dreams with me? Sometimes the truest love is the love that can never be"

Unrequited romantic interest occurs when one person attempts to redefine a friendship as a romantic relationship, but the other partner rejects that attempt. It is a person’s desire for a more intimate,

Many popular love songs claim that being in love is similar to being under a magical spell. Some state that "all you need is love," and still others affirm that "love lifts us up where we belong." People dream about finding their one and only soul mate, and in this day and age, the pursuit for love and happiness is closer to home than ever before......in fact, it's only a mouse-click away.